Loyalty Isn't a grey matter

Welcome to the sphere of Goddess Sydney! A place where you must earn your spot.

 “Loyalty isn’t grey. It’s black and white. You’re either loyal completely, or not loyal at all. And people have to understand this. You can’t be loyal only when it serves you.” -Shamay


Loyalty when it serves only you is a guise of selfishness. Did you know that? 

Loyalty is an essential building block in the foundation of a D's relationship. If loyalty is absent, than chaos will become destructive. 

Most people living today have no grounded concept of loyalty, not even to those they claim as their own. Open up any news outlet online, and you will see family selling out family for a buck, or a minute of mentions. Utterly discouraging is it not? I believe so. 

This is just one solitary reason why so many fail when it comes to achieving an enduring D's relationship. 

Why is loyalty so very difficult to maintain in bdsm exchanges? I am going to share with you a few of my own thoughts as to the reason. Feel free to comment with your own thoughts, and opinions in regards to the subject.

1)Femdom is a literally smorgasbord of beautiful women. It is the candy shop which kicks all other candy shop's asses. There are just so many erotically stimulating women to offer your services to, so of course you may become overwhelmed, thereby eradicating your sense of reasoning when it comes to choosing just one to serve, cause why should you limit yourself when you can lick this one, take a bite of that one, even swallow of morsel of them all right? I get it, I really do. You guys are spoiled for selection. It is rather like winning the submissive lottery. Why should you be loyal to anyone other than yourself? That is the question, and it is up to you to make that choice. No one can force you to settle for a single slice, but please don't complain when you get sick from overindulgence. Eventually the best of you will deduct that variety is not always the spice of life.

2)Marital or romantic relationship status. Many of you that I see day in, day out, are already involved in a "vanilla" relationship, and this factor can lead you to draw a line of loyalty down the middle, in which you already have a primary interest, so what time you do devote online is a phantom piece of what an unattached male would offer up. Is that really fair, or even conducive to forming any type of cohesive D's relationship? I would say not. 

3)You really are a selfish shit that cannot or will not see past the end of your dick. You have no concerns about forming any type of relationship beyond the one you enjoy wanking to. You will buzz like a bee to every single honeypot you can find. You are the slutiest of sluts, and worse than a huge zit on picture day.

4)You are purely immature. You have failed to grow into an adult mindset as of yet. You are young, and full of dumb cum, so you just have not developed the skills and maturity to recognize that loyalty has it's own rewards.

Loyalty is an intensely black or white quality in my estimation. You are either loyal or you aren't. There is no in between or kinda crap, and those that are not loyal are cut quick from my life. Life is short, and yes I know that most of you think that femdom is all fun fun fun, but if you cannot grasp the seriousness of some aspects, than I really want nothing to do with you. 

Loyalty is an expectation of mine from the get go, and no it is not too much to ask for. 

Now you tell me: Are you loyal? Do you expect loyalty from those in your life? Would you want anything to do with a person that you cannot count upon their loyalty to you?

The richest qualities and traits of a servant

I have taken a moment to compile a list of the most desirable qualities and traits of which a servant/submissive/slave should possess if they are truly to be an asset to whom they serve.

Integrity
Loyalty
humility
discipline
honesty
generosity
Intelligence
Courage
Mental&emotional maturity&stability
sincerity
gratitude
consistency
selflessness

Notice that integrity is listed first,as I find it to be the most significant. The remaining are typed into the order in which they entered my thoughts.

Why is integrity of such importance? Integrity to me means that an individual will conduct themselves and their behavior in an honest and sincere manner. They adhere to a code of ethics which would instill self-discipline and loyalty due to morals. It takes one whom possesses a strength of character to act with integrity,for they are not swayed by temptation,nor susceptible to weakness which would lead them from the path they know to be correct.

Loyalty for the purpose of service means that one is faithfully devoted to their owner,and strictly adheres to their commitment.

Humility: A humble servant is modest in word and deed,knowing that he serves a superior woman,therefore boasting is ill received.

Discipline A servant whom is disciplined in mind(no I am not referring to corporal punishment or mind control) is one that possesses self-control,thereby allowing him to act with integrity.

Honesty is used interchangeably by many with integrity,but remember integrity is how you conduct yourself,and honesty is adherence to facts...meaning that an honest servant will not utter a lie,nor speak deceitfully. This is another huge one for you boys. Only those whom are dishonest make promises they knowingly or willingly will not keep.

Generosity is a trait most valued especially in financial domination,but it is not contained to it. A servant that is generous will give of his time,energy,and finances. He is not a scrooge that gives nothing,and expects it all.

Intelligence: According to the multiple intelligence overview there are 9 count them 9 types of intelligence. Intelligence is beautiful! An intelligent servant offers more than financial contributions(but one does not replace the other). Being able to converse with a servant upon absolutely non-fetish related subjects is refreshing and rare.

Courage: It takes courage to kneel before another. You are trusting them to lead you. You are giving up yourself(power) to them. Courage bows before their owner,whilst cowardice scurries away like a timid mouse.

Mental&emotional maturity&stability: What a mouthful :) It boils down to being able to deal with life and relationships even those of the D's variety without resorting to childish antics (brattiness ie throwing fits when you do not get your way,or worse yet passive aggressive behavior). Both behaviors are unacceptable and immature.

Sincerity is a virtue which promotes acting in a "real" manner,one that is true to how they feel and think(no hypocrisy). It is being both honest and pure.

Gratitude: The act of being thankful. A worthy servant is grateful to have the opportunity to serve. They display their gratitude willingly and without coercion.

Consistency is enacted through the everyday actions of a servant. They provide a continuity of service and tribute sans interruption not related to health or well being. They do not serve one Lady one day,then be off to another the next.

Last but certainly NOT least is selflessness. Selflessness is apparent when a servant serves with no thought of what they may get out of their actions,or in the case of findom,their tribute. They serve because it is who and what they are,not because they are looking to get something out of it,other than the honor of being of use,and their actions bringing happiness to another.


These are only but a few of the ones which came readily to mind. If you have others,then do feel free to enlighten me :)

X marks the spot

Rather misleading title as one most likely would assume that I am referring to buried treasure,alas I am not.The context of this post is to discuss my thoughts on what has become so very everyday and ordinary visually on sites aside from genital pics. What could that possibly be Goddess? Take a gander and you shall see. Do a tally for me of how many photos you note of a male with writing in marker on his flesh. Alot yes?

I understand that some view this type of photo as humiliation play,but is it really? Considering that you do not see the person's face thereby leaving them anonymous actually voids true humiliation. I mean seriously it does not make one stand out when every tom dick and harry have such a photo up for display now does it. Rather it renders it common and ordinary. Not shocking nor risque,and why would it induce laughter at the models expense? It wouldn't,and I do not care how many times the word slut or bitch is scribed across their abdomen. The point being,how humiliating can it be for strangers to see someone they wouldn't know if they met them on the street? Now if they were to post that exact photo with their face shown freely to the world at large,only then may it make a difference in my opinion,or better yet have them walk around their neighborhood,into the salon where their mother gets her hair done,or even a public place where friends and colleagues might see them,then that would indeed be humiliation,but not so on a forum where you have no true name,nor identity outside of a faux username.

Now on the other hand such a photo is used to profess that a male is owned property. An emblem to ward off the interest of possible passersby. Does it work? Sometimes I would say so,but not in all cases,for the most eager of females care not as to the status of owned,they are merely sniffing out a money trail. Does writing on the skin denote actual ownership,no. It is illegal to own another being,but one may say that their flesh, heart,mind,soul,and wallet are owned by so and so,yet in actuality it remains their personal decision to part ways if they fall into disinterest with the relations D's or otherwise. Meaning that a Domme only owns property which desires to be owned by them,and only until such time as the servant desires to be her servant no longer. A magic marker is not to be confused with a magic wand,and it will not keep a servant yours forever.

For me I care not for such displays as they are not permanent,nor an indication that a servant will be under your feet for longer than it takes to scrub it off. To me ownership is not proven with a marker. Now a brand or even a tattoo would be more appropriate as a sign of dedication,devotion,and loyalty. They are forever a sign and statement that a male is your property or has been. I will be the first to admit that such a step is not feasible for all servants as some do have a life and family commitments outside of the lifestyle which would make it impossible for them to wear visual reminders,and I am fully accepting of this. What matters to me cannot be viewed with the human eye anyway. Dedication,devotion,and loyalty are proven through the daily actions of a servant. Through their unswerving attention to your wants and needs. Through their sacrifice towards the happiness of their owner. These are the qualities which cannot be measured. They simply are,and I for one accept and appreciate more, a male whom will make my happiness the reason for his existence,than any male with magic marker decorating his body.

In closing I do believe that to each their own though,and my opinion is one amongst an entire ocean of them.