Build a Findom ark

Ok, so today I was on twitter and seen a post about how the findom scene is over saturated with women, and that women who have been around quite some time are leaving the scene because of it, which is not a good thing for the fetish in general.

No one needs to be market savvy to grasp the concept of supply and demand. The more there are of any one product (and no I do not view women as products) the less demand there will be for said product, because the customer/client can shop around for the lowest pricing, and we are definitely seeing a shit ton of that type of behavior right now.

  
Right now, findom is a buyers market. The buyer can and does shop around for bargains. Is it so very surprising that a man will opt to pay $10 for a cam session from a newer female rather than the $100 an established Domme is charging? Of course there are always exceptions, but on the entirety, this is what is going on, and it is going to continue to go on. 

Let's take a quick look at other adverse effects of over saturation in findom.

1)Newer females nor newer males for the most part are educated in regards to RACK or SSC. This is a huge safety concern.

2)Newer females come in thinking that findom is easy money. It isn't, and without the knowledge of what findom really is, they are muddying the waters even further for the new males serving under them. Newer males on the other hand, come in thinking that findom is about paying for pussy, either to see or fuck.

3)Newer females tend to gloss over the domination aspect, and just demand money. This is how findom gets a really shitty rep..ya know the instadomme tag :(. There are 2 aspects to findom.a)financial b)domination. Whilst newer males attempt to bypass the financial aspect altogether.

4)The newer females are approaching findom like a tit for tat, spoil me I spoil back modal. Findom is not about spoiling a male. It is not about selling anything. Yuppers I know that a great many FinDommes sell items, clips, sessions etc.. but that is business, not service. Newer males get that findom is not about selling things, but unfortunately they do not want to pay tribute either, cause they are spoiled with entitlement issues.

5)With an avalanche of newer females, you will find that the majority of FinDommes are hauling in less and less tribute (supply&demand), even the Dommes who have been around for ages, so what you get is more and more females departing the scene, but you would not notice the exodus, because a new flood of inexperienced females come in right behind them.

This is a vicious cycle, and it hurts the fetish scene massively. Without experienced Dommes leading the way, you end up with a gaggle of males who are not trained to treat women with respect, who think that it is ok to top from the bottom, who try to lowball tribute, and that is if they even pay at all. 

I completely understand that the scene is evolving, but holy shit, it is no where near the definition of findom at all! Mind you, I am not hating on new blood coming in, but some days are like a free for all display of thirst, and horniness. Some changes are good, but than some are not. It all depends on your outlook, and how determined you are to ride the wave.

Good luck to all who are battening down the hatches, and sticking it out :)

Real Domme,the relative term

How many times have you used or seen used the term "Real Domme"? Once,twice,a hundred times(my hand is blowing in the wind). Real real real,true,true,true..used interchangeably,yet not really the sane.

What do people mean when they use the term though? Do they mean real as in alive and breathing? Do they mean real as in genetically born female? Do they mean a Domme that has 20 years experience under her belt? Do they mean a Domme who works in a dungeon,and handles a whip better than a roman soldier? It is a study in confusion at times to know exactly what someone means by "real".

Real is a term that is defined by each individual,but...most often when I see it on the fetish sites listed on a male's profile(and yes I have even asked the poster what their definition is)it is most generally a reference to a Domme that does not expect tribute. It is reasoned that to be a real or true Domme,then the "gift" of a male's submission should suffice as a tribute. My query to the poster at that time is "why does a Domme expecting to be appreciated,worshiped and adored financially make her any less real"? The responses do vary,but the overwhelming and most common being that Dommes who expect tribute are whores. This explanation never fails to astound me,because when I seek out the dictionary for the definition of the word whore,I fail to see any reference that does not include sexual relations,and I am not personally acquainted with any Domme who requires tribute,that will engage in intercourse for payment with those that serve them,so that insult does not fit properly...yet such ignorance and close mindedness continues to forge on regardless.

What else constitutes a real Domme in the minds of males? Cam verification of course. Dommes are expected to flip on their cams and prove that they are female,now unless I am mistaken,you are not going to get proof of that without dna or a cooch flash. Now which one of these options are most likely to occur? The biggest kicker in the entire equation is that the real Domme should do so willingly,and without expectations,rather selfish don't you think? Rather hits me like topping.

I have as well heard real used to mean a Domme that wants a 24/7 live in slave. This is one of the least likeliest scenarios to come true. I wish that males would take a serious look at what 24/7 entails. It can be like trying to swim with a concrete boot applied for a Domme. A male weighing you down with his wants,his needs,and his expenses 24/7...does not sound too appealing to me. To hear some speak,well it would not cost the Domme a thin dime to keep them,cause they can live in a cage outside,or a basement..hmm anyone that has ever had a pet knows that it is not free. Pets even basement gimps must be fed,watered(and no piss and shit are not enough to ensure health),and lands forbid that the gimp becomes ill! No matter what contract is signed,the Domme is still legally responsible. Does anyone in their right mind really think that if the authorities find out that someone has a human being living in their basement in a cage,that they will not be incarcerated,cause believe me they will. Society is not accepting of this type of behavior and circumstances already.

The last and final definition for real that I am going to touch on today,is a Domme is not real if she is not seeking a sub/slave husband,or bf scenario. Plenty of lifesyle Dommes do date and marry their servants,hell even some Pro's do as well,but this is not the rule for all Dommes. Many that I see already have a significant other in their lives,so unless they are going the polygamy route,I do not see how this is possible,not to mention that not all Dommes are attracted to submissive males,so....I guess these Dommes will fall into the pit of unrealness.

To top off this little piece of my thoughts,and observations,I am going to relay my thought on what is "real". To me real means taking responsibility for the health and well being of a sub/slave who serves you. A Domme who is safe and sane,who maintains control of herself,and how she treats those that serve her(yes even sadists can respect RACK).

Safe play

This is a subject which needs spoken out about more often,as it seems not to receive the recognition it deserves. I know that some of you are sitting there thinking "why the hell is she bringing this shit up,I know what I am doing"...well that is not a correct assertion for some of you elsewise I would not be typing my pretty little fingers to the bone right now,and believe me my keyboard is not enjoying the pounding it is receiving.

I seen an offsite account with photo proof provided of males inserting objects into their rectums which should not be there ie a baseball bat amongst other large objects,and thought to myself,HELL NO. 1)Why the hell would a male actually follow through with such an order? 2)Why would a female convey such an order? Boys please do not disregard the fact that you can permanently damage yourself with this type of action,not to mention the shame and humiliation of explaining to hospital staff and loved ones how this injury occurred,or worse yet the pain it would bring your family to hear from the coroner your cause of death(anal hemorrhage from fucking a baseball bat) cute huh? For fuck's sake I do not care how turned on your are by the person you are sessioning with,use your big head to reason out unsafe actions,unless you think it is sexy to wear depends the rest of your life...oh yes that will have the ladies lining up outside your door.

You boys get all worked up with penile erections,and do whatever you are told by a hot young girl in this particular case,whom obviously has zero real time experience,now doesn't that make you feel all warm and cozy? It sure does me, NOT. Conserve some of that blood flow,and find out if you are placing your health and safety into the hands of an experienced Domina before you shove shit in your gaping filth maw.

Since entering the online realm I have seen far too many unsafe practices,and no I am not on a crusade to change the world or shame anyone,what I am doing though is tossing out a slap to the head of each of you for being so irresponsible. Luds knows that I would not care for the majority of you to reproduce,but did you know that inserting pencils or any object with a sharp end into your penis can tear or damage your urethra. How pleasurable do you think it would be to shoot your wad out,only to have it double you over in pain...boy I would want to have lots of sex if it felt that way...NOT.

The point being that in this one instance I am advising selfishness in you boys. Care about your health more than entertaining someone who could not give a rat's ass if you bleed out when the cam shuts down,and for you females engaging in this type of play,did you know that you can and will be legally liable for injury up to death,for you were a  willing witness and in part coerced them into unsafe play. It boils down to you being responsible for their safety when you play with them,and if not,then may the shit storm from it rain down upon you :)

In case you could not tell,I feel quite strongly about this subject,and if it offends you,then buh bye,cause I have no time for ignorance.