Build a Findom ark

Ok, so today I was on twitter and seen a post about how the findom scene is over saturated with women, and that women who have been around quite some time are leaving the scene because of it, which is not a good thing for the fetish in general.

No one needs to be market savvy to grasp the concept of supply and demand. The more there are of any one product (and no I do not view women as products) the less demand there will be for said product, because the customer/client can shop around for the lowest pricing, and we are definitely seeing a shit ton of that type of behavior right now.

  
Right now, findom is a buyers market. The buyer can and does shop around for bargains. Is it so very surprising that a man will opt to pay $10 for a cam session from a newer female rather than the $100 an established Domme is charging? Of course there are always exceptions, but on the entirety, this is what is going on, and it is going to continue to go on. 

Let's take a quick look at other adverse effects of over saturation in findom.

1)Newer females nor newer males for the most part are educated in regards to RACK or SSC. This is a huge safety concern.

2)Newer females come in thinking that findom is easy money. It isn't, and without the knowledge of what findom really is, they are muddying the waters even further for the new males serving under them. Newer males on the other hand, come in thinking that findom is about paying for pussy, either to see or fuck.

3)Newer females tend to gloss over the domination aspect, and just demand money. This is how findom gets a really shitty rep..ya know the instadomme tag :(. There are 2 aspects to findom.a)financial b)domination. Whilst newer males attempt to bypass the financial aspect altogether.

4)The newer females are approaching findom like a tit for tat, spoil me I spoil back modal. Findom is not about spoiling a male. It is not about selling anything. Yuppers I know that a great many FinDommes sell items, clips, sessions etc.. but that is business, not service. Newer males get that findom is not about selling things, but unfortunately they do not want to pay tribute either, cause they are spoiled with entitlement issues.

5)With an avalanche of newer females, you will find that the majority of FinDommes are hauling in less and less tribute (supply&demand), even the Dommes who have been around for ages, so what you get is more and more females departing the scene, but you would not notice the exodus, because a new flood of inexperienced females come in right behind them.

This is a vicious cycle, and it hurts the fetish scene massively. Without experienced Dommes leading the way, you end up with a gaggle of males who are not trained to treat women with respect, who think that it is ok to top from the bottom, who try to lowball tribute, and that is if they even pay at all. 

I completely understand that the scene is evolving, but holy shit, it is no where near the definition of findom at all! Mind you, I am not hating on new blood coming in, but some days are like a free for all display of thirst, and horniness. Some changes are good, but than some are not. It all depends on your outlook, and how determined you are to ride the wave.

Good luck to all who are battening down the hatches, and sticking it out :)

Wholesome FinDom

I seen a few tweets pop up about wholesome FinDom,so of course being the curious cat I am,I went to check it out. Apparently it is supposedly a subset of FinDom comprised of "Dommes" who seek to financially dominate without bringing lasting harm,or having any sexual tone to it. Well shit,I definitely do not seek lasting harm(remember I play by SSC rules),nor do I engage in sexual intercourse with those that serve me...but there is a sensual tone,if not an outright sexual one in FinDom.

If there was nothing arousing about FinDom,than no submissives/slaves would engage in it. Consider human behavior..if there is no pleasure in performing a chore,than one does not actively seek to do so (the exception being your job,where ya gotta put out effort to keep the position and paycheck). I am not referring to sexual pleasure,but yes most times the submissive will find it physically arousing to serve,and it is even encouraged. If you do not own them mind and body..they will seek one who will.

Can you do FinDom without a sexual undertone..I do not think so,but would love to hear your thoughts about the matter. I seen some describe it as just being fetish friends,friends that you pay for their friendship...is that really FinDom? If so,than where is the domination aspect? You cannot engage in FinDom if you are leaving out half of the equation.

Sure you can be friends with your submissives if that is what you want,but submissives can be friends with non-fetish folks too...folks that do not expect to be paid for their company..so what exactly are you bringing to the table here? Is it kinda like that movie "Money can't buy me love" where the geeky guy has to pay the pretty girl to be his fake friend? I do not see that having staying power.

A submissive needs to be dominated. They need to be led,and controlled (especially their sexual urges). It is in their very nature. How are you going to meet those needs with friendship?

Do chime in with your opinions,and thoughts upon wholesome FinDom :)