Have you ever been blocked by me on a social media site, or a messenger service?
Odds are that you have not. Why? Cause I do not make a practice of blocking folks. There are only a handful of reasons that I ever block anyone.
1)You have been rude to me. Now rude can be defined in different ways. I am not talking about people who in general do not share the same views as I. I always welcome dissenting opinions, so long as they are relayed in a well mannered context..ie none of that "you are wrong you stupid bitch". You can disagree with me respectfully, yet still remain in contact with me :) FYI unsolicited dick pics are considered the height of rudeness, please don't do it.
2)You make misogynistic statements. If you do not like or even hate women, do yourself the service of not interacting with them. Sure it may make you feel all special and superior when you disparage women on the internet, but it really makes you look like a pile of steaming shit. That is not an appealing look for anyone. This does not apply to men alone, for I have seen plenty of women who like to trash fellow women as well, and they get blocked too.
3)You outright lie to me. I am going to tell you now fellas, I have been around the block more times than I can count, so pulling a fast one on me is pretty darn difficult, so let's just you some time by not expending effort in that direction at all ok. I have a definite hate hard on for liars, and will block you before you can get the delivery line out. You have been duly warned.
4)You are a bully. Ugh I detest people that nit pick at others to make themselves feel better about their own crappiness of a life. This goes as well for those that jump on the band of bullies wagon. You know what I am talking about. We have all seen where 1 person gets pissed at someone, then all of their buds pipe up in on it. That is so junior highish..just say NO.
5)You are trying to use me for your own gain. Now this can be a fine line to walk. I realize that some of you fetish guys are seeking out someone to fulfill your fetish desires, I totally get that, but if you do not intend to compensate for that woman's time, than I lose all respect for you as a human being. I do not like being taken advantage of, and at my age, you are highly unlikely to get anywhere near using me with my consent.
There ya go, a handful of reasons why I block. Don't fall foul of my blocking hand, cause it is straight up sadistic lol
***Feel free to share with me here why you block people!***
Gentlemen do you know why chastity is a love of mine?
Chastity keeps you gents on your toes, and it keeps you focused on ME. So many males promise females the very moon, and at the moment of stating it, they may actually mean it, but once the ooze cums forth, they renege upon their very vows of obedience. Why is that? Do honorable intentions dribble out the end of your dick? I really would like an honest answer to my question, so do come forward with yours.
Chastity denies a male the opportunity to go back on his word after jizzing, cause there is no jizz lol. You have been programmed to believe that you need to cum, that you must cum, that you have the right to cum, and I am here to tell you differently. You do not NEED to cum, in fact I will tell you that you must not cum, and that once you are in service to me, that you no longer have the right to cum.
Being chaste is the very best thing for a submissive. It teaches control, and you definitely need self-control. It trains you to be a better submissive, by realigning your priorities in life. You will see that your dick has held you back your entire life, and once you are free of it's demands, you will be a better human being.
Chastity provides perspective, which will aid you in furthering your life's goals. You will learn to think before you act rashly since you no longer have your irresponsible dick goading you into action. It is a good thing. You NEED to free yourself from your dick's clutches if you truly want to serve women, because the desire to serve should come from your soul, not your nutsac.
Chastity leads you along the path of selfless submission. The dick slut fog will lift, and you will see clearly. After a month of continuous chastity, you will no longer even crave to free him from his cage. He will be silenced, and shriveled. Yay!
You want to be the very best possible submissive that you can be, and I want that for you as well, so make that choice, and change your life today! Purchase a cock cage, beg ME for a lock(for a fee), and I will hold the only key(for a fee). I will effectively own your sex. It is better this way, and you will be ever so grateful to ME.
Your new life in service to Sydney Claire awaits you. Be brave, be bold, and lock your cock for ME today.
Findom has it's own unique set of problems, but you would be surprised at just how many of them coincide with issues women in general have with men. How do you know if you are part of the problem?
1)Do you demean and downgrade women into nameless objects by calling every female "babe, honey, sexy, sugar"? You are part of the problem.
2)Do you send women dick pics? You are part of the problem.
3)Do you feel and believe that you are entitled to a woman's time, attention, and sex? You are part of the problem.
4)Do you treat women like they are your masturbation doll? You are part of the problem.
5)Do you refuse to contribute to the financial well being of women? You are part of the problem.
6)Do you act like you are God's gift to womankind? You are part of the problem.
7)Do you consider netflix and chilling a date? You are part of the problem.
8)Do you speak disrespectfully about and to women? You are part of the problem.
9)Do you try to guilt or shame women into having a relationship with you? You are part of the problem.
10)Do you threaten or attempt to blackmail women so that you can get what you want from them? You are part of the problem.
11)Do you lie to women? You are part of the problem.
12)Are you verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive to women? You are part of the problem.
13)Do you refuse to take NO for an answer from women? You are part of the problem.
14)Do you cheat? You are part of the problem.
I highly suspect that most of you gents already know whether you are part of the problem or not, but as we all know, some are not so bright, and need it spelled out for them. Don't be part of the problem. Be better than the men around you. Refuse to be that problem by
1)Addressing women by their name or employing a respectful title.
2)Never send dick pics, unless a woman outright asks for them.
3)Realize that women owe you NOTHING.
4)Women are living, breathing beings whose purpose in creation does not center around being your wank fodder, or jizz receptacle.
5)Women have been financially oppressed via disproportionate labor to wages in the job market compared to men, and it has always been a man's duty to provide for women.
6)A big dick, a hot bod, or even a pretty face does not mean that you do not have to work for a woman's attention and time.
7)Spend money on a date!! Take women nice places, and invest financially in the date. This is what respectful men do.
8)Be courteous and respectful to ALL women, not just the ones you are attracted to.
9)Passive aggressive BS is BS. Don't engage in it EVER!
10)Do not be a twat waffle, cock womble, or douche canoe and try to force a woman to be with you.
11)Liars are the scum of the Earth. Don't do it.
12)The majority of women are physically weaker than men, which means that you are utter filth if you lay your hands on a woman in anger.
13)Women have the right to decide who they want to share their time, attention, and sex with. Do not impede upon that right EVER!
14)Learn what loyalty is. Hell, dogs are more loyal than most men, and that is a disheartening fact.
If any of this resonated with you, make a vow to yourself right now that you will be a part of the solution, not the problem. Behave like a man, not a monster.
Get ready gents, get set, cause you most likely are not going to take kindly to what I am about to say.
I do not want to hear your complaints!
I am not a customer service rep, so do NOT feel free to unleash your bitches at my door. This is especially true for those submissives not in service to me!
All of the time I see males complaining about how their Domme or some random female did them wrong, and I honestly do not give a flying fart. Should I care as a fellow human being, well most people would say yes, but here is the thing, I am NOT like most people. Sure I have compassion for mankind, but when your own stupidity, or ill thought out choices led to your problem, well I have zero pity. Yes it sounds harsh, but this is me being brutally honest with you. I would much rather relay an unkind truth, than a sweet lie.
People, people, people...use common sense, and a lot of the "problems" you create, would not exist or occur. I am going to list for you some of the most common complaints I am subjected to as a dominant in the findom fetish scene, and how to avoid the issues.
1)I got scammed out of money by a female
Resolution=STOP thinking with your dick for about 10 seconds. Did you research the female in question? Did you check her social media to see if others have complained about her? If not, than that is the fucking you get for the fucking you got.
2)I am not into findom
Resolution=HELLO, why the hell are you even messaging dominants who are into findom than? Stay in your own lifestyle lane, and you will not have this problem.
3)All FinDommes care about is money
Resolution=Avoid FinDommes altogether, and pray to whatever deity you hold dear that you will be able to locate a Domme to dominate you for free, otherwise STFU and tribute like a good little cash cunt.
4)A female is blackmailing me without consent
Resolution=Report her to the authorities
Why would you give a random person personal details or photos if you did not even conceive that they would use them ill? Most likely you wanted the thrill of possible exposure, and now your decision is biting you on the ass.
5)I can't find a "real" Domme
If your definition of "real" means free, see resolutions #2 & #3. Most of the time when I hear this complaint, the resolution is easy peasy=get off your ass and look for one. There are so many wonderful dominant females in findom. Hell you cannot toss a rock without hitting one, so if you cannot find one, than seriously I know that you are a lazy POS.
6)I am a poor broke student that cannot afford to tribute, and no one wants me to serve them. Resolution=Either stay away from findom, or get a fucking part time job.
You're welcome, now $tribute$ cash cunt :)
Realistically one does not just jump into submissive service without first knowing what their role in the relationship entails, what their limits are in service, and what one hopes to achieve out of service.
1)Your role in a bdsm relationship *For the sake of clarity, I define any relationship which includes an exchange of power, within the scope of a bdsm relationship*
Your role as a submissive is to ensure that your actions are dictated by your desire to please your dominant. If you enter the exchange predisposed towards seeking your own gratification through any means not dictated by your dominant, than the relationship will ultimately fail. Your mindset must be selfless. You must be willing to forgo all that you knew of relationships predicated upon "vanilla" design. You as the male will no longer fulfill the leading role in the relationship. Instead the dynamic will see you flipped from all that you previously knew. You will be subservient to the will of another. Obedience and loyalty will be required of you. Outside of the hard limits you set prior to entering into service, you will comply with all tasks assigned to you. You will display respect in thought, word, and action towards your dominant. Protocol, expectations, and boundaries will be set via your dominant. These will vary from one dominant to another, so remember that nothing is set into stone, and you must be prepared to be flexible, and accepting.
2)Your limits in service
Newer males generally have absolutely no idea of what their hard and soft limits are. Of course you will know what fantasies of servitude excite you, but keep in mind that not all fantasies are pleasurable in reality. The most common hard limits are blood, sports that include feces, urine, or vomit, permanent marks, anything to do with children, or any illegal activity. You may wish to use those as a starting point and expand as you go. It is ok to try out activities which produce trepidation. You might start out with light impact play, spanking is a safe place to begin in order to gauge your tolerance for pain. Do not fret if you find that you are not a hard core masochist (most aren't), but atleast you will know whether you like a little or alot of pain. One of the most important aspects of any type of play in my opinion is having a safeword. A safeword is your safety net. Use it without shame, and shame to those who tell you that you do not need one before trust has been established. Your dominant will be able to take it from that point on, and she may decide to play along the edges of your soft limits. Soft limits tend to be ones where you may not particularly enjoy an activity, but you will endure it for the pleasure of your dominant. As you engage in play, you may indeed find that you enjoy activities which you never thought it possible for you to find pleasure in, so do not close yourself off from the possibilities.
3)What you hope to achieve out of service
Are you looking for peace, purpose, and clarity of self in life? Are you basely hoping to find an outlet of erotic pleasure? Are you solely seeking physical gratification? If you do not know what you hope to take away from the experience, than expect to be let down. Dominants in my experience are not mind readers, so you are going to have to be willing and able to verbalize your needs.
The most important thing you can do to make the transition into servitude smooth, is allot yourself some time to research fetishes, terminology, and PRICK. Do all that you possibly can to ensure your safety, and please remember that no matter how hot looking a female is, research her. Check out her social media, websites, profiles. Know exactly what type of dominant she is, and if her practices, and expectations align with what you are willing to do in service. I cannot stress that enough. If you study a Domme before you approach her, you will save the both of you time, which you will be thankful for in the long run.
Enjoy, and good luck!
Don't forget to be a good boy and send a tribute to mzsydney34@yahoo.com in thanks :)
Do you realize that most people wear a mask each and every day of their lives? It is a tendency of human beings to withhold a part of themselves from strangers, even from those they are closest to in life. It is a form of protection, not unnatural.
It makes sense when you look closely at it. What has an absolute stranger done to earn a personal peek into who and what you are within? Nothing right, so why offer yourself up in such a manner. This does not make you odd or out of the ordinary, and you should never feel the need to apologize for keeping private the parts of yourself that you are not comfortable sharing with the general public. You have the right to choose who you share this side of yourself with.
Now when it comes to hiding aspects of yourself from loved ones, even that is fully permissible, well unless you are a raving mad murderer, hide that for sure, but do so from behind bars. Why do we close the door upon those that we hold nearest and dearest? We do so out of fear. Fear that who we truly are will not be accepted, or perhaps even scorned to the point that our loved ones will shun us entirely. It is a risk exposing your true self to others. It comes with plenty of pros and cons to debate, but in the end, you are the one that must make that decision. Are you brave enough to brave the odds of rejection?
I know that a great many of you gents are not out in your submission. You prefer to keep your feelings of submission a secret. A secret that only sees the light of day when you log in online. You wear your mask of civility and manliness all day long, so when you do open the door to the magical world of online submission, it is like being set free from a locked cage. Your first tendency is to run here, run there, and spread the seed of your submission to every Dominant woman you see, but I am here to say "DOWN BOY". You are similar to a dog that humps every leg it sees, and that is not adorable, appreciated, or even desirable behavior in a submissive male. The only thing it makes me want to do, is slam the proverbial door in your face. The key to eradicating this irritating behavior, is to allow your submission out more often. Serving on a regular basis will inject you with a sense of peace, purpose, and allow you to center yourself in a sea of calmness. The point is to not deprive yourself of what it is you truly need, and that is to submit. It does not lessen your worth as a man, regardless of what society says. You can be a good man, a manly man, and yet submissive in your soul. Allow yourself to reveal the real you, and you will find yourself in a better place mentally, for denying your essential self will eventually take it's toll upon you, and leave you an unhappy mess.
Life becomes quite difficult and draining when a person does not feel as if they will be or are accepted for who and what they are, which is why Dominants in the lifestyle are revered to the degree that they are. They are leaders, and guides who see your submission, and say "it is ok, I see you, and I accept you". They allow you to be who you truly are...a submissive male who seeks to relinquish your power over self to them. Your submission is meant to empower your Dominant. It is a beautiful exchange, and there is no shame involved, well unless humiliation is your kink :) Submitting gives you the pleasure and freedom to just be you, and that is wonderful!
So, tear off that mask, and show your submissive self (note that showing yourself does not equate to sending unsolicited dick pics)! You will thank yourself for it, I promise. Now get out there and serve, serve, serve!!
Don't forget to send a show of your appreciation by sending gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com
