Today's subject will be waxing on about the subject of doxxing.
You will see the word doxxing used quite frequently in nilla instances and fetish ones. It is a seriously offensive action. It has the potential of fatal repercussions, which it is why it is never and I mean never ever ever a joking matter. This is probably why I do not engage in blackmail play, since I am never ever going to out someone, regardless of how much you pay me.
One of the first rules you learn about in the fetish scene is safety. You play safely, and you do all within your power to be safely played with. Play has real life ramifications if done improperly. This we all know, right? I sincerely hope so.
Now in the fetish scene, it is more common than not for people to employ stage names. This is a safety measure. It is used as a line of protection to deter stalkers, and those whose intent is ill willed. Women whether you realize it or not, are more likely than men to be murdered or abused in the fetish scene, hell in the world at large, so it only makes sense that women will take steps to ensure that they are untraceable in their nilla spheres. No one should be faulting a woman for taking precautions.
A woman who uses a faux name is no less a "real Domme" than a woman who doesn't use one. The only thing she is hiding is a direct route to her person, which many of you males do as well. Males in the scene are very likely to provide a false name as well, along with refusing to post any type of photo with their face included. They reason this to be for privacy reasons due to employment, yet it is as well a form of protection of their person. No one that I know of desires to have a random fetish stranger calling their personal number, or showing up at their home without an explicit invitation. It just is not done. In fact, quite a few people compartmentalize their vanilla life far away from their fetish one, so keeping your information private is a sensible rule of thumb.
I understand that after having known someone online for a goodly amount of time that tidbits about your life and person will slip out, and this is where issues can arise. The person you had confidence in to keep your data secret suddenly turns on you. I have seen both males and females alike stoop to this unforgivable behavior. Trust is paramount in bdsm, so to see it abused is reprehensible to say the least.
I have noted males getting angry with Dommes they have served, and outing them to the public, which then opens the Domme up to possible danger. In turn I have witnessed Dommes putting a male on blast with his personal information shared, and that is vile as well. Even the threat of doxxing someone should earn you a shunning, and no I do not give a flying fuck for how successful you are in the scene, or how much money you have in your bank account, cause if you doxx or threaten to doxx anyone, you do not belong anywhere near the fetish scene. You in fact need to seek mental help immediately for your toxicity.
The best thing to do, and I really do dislike advising this course of action, but the best thing you can do to protect yourself, is to not share personal information at all with anyone. I realize that the temptation is there, but you must resist, because in the end, you may very well be putting your life at stake. Is it really worth that risk? For me, I say no, but of course you must choose your own path, but I do hope that my words have given you food for thought.
Be safe all!
Have you ever been blocked by me on a social media site, or a messenger service?
Odds are that you have not. Why? Cause I do not make a practice of blocking folks. There are only a handful of reasons that I ever block anyone.
1)You have been rude to me. Now rude can be defined in different ways. I am not talking about people who in general do not share the same views as I. I always welcome dissenting opinions, so long as they are relayed in a well mannered context..ie none of that "you are wrong you stupid bitch". You can disagree with me respectfully, yet still remain in contact with me :) FYI unsolicited dick pics are considered the height of rudeness, please don't do it.
2)You make misogynistic statements. If you do not like or even hate women, do yourself the service of not interacting with them. Sure it may make you feel all special and superior when you disparage women on the internet, but it really makes you look like a pile of steaming shit. That is not an appealing look for anyone. This does not apply to men alone, for I have seen plenty of women who like to trash fellow women as well, and they get blocked too.
3)You outright lie to me. I am going to tell you now fellas, I have been around the block more times than I can count, so pulling a fast one on me is pretty darn difficult, so let's just you some time by not expending effort in that direction at all ok. I have a definite hate hard on for liars, and will block you before you can get the delivery line out. You have been duly warned.
4)You are a bully. Ugh I detest people that nit pick at others to make themselves feel better about their own crappiness of a life. This goes as well for those that jump on the band of bullies wagon. You know what I am talking about. We have all seen where 1 person gets pissed at someone, then all of their buds pipe up in on it. That is so junior highish..just say NO.
5)You are trying to use me for your own gain. Now this can be a fine line to walk. I realize that some of you fetish guys are seeking out someone to fulfill your fetish desires, I totally get that, but if you do not intend to compensate for that woman's time, than I lose all respect for you as a human being. I do not like being taken advantage of, and at my age, you are highly unlikely to get anywhere near using me with my consent.
There ya go, a handful of reasons why I block. Don't fall foul of my blocking hand, cause it is straight up sadistic lol
***Feel free to share with me here why you block people!***
I do not play with strangers
If you knew me, you would know that I have no desire to play with submissives whom I know nothing of. It brings me no pleasure, and it is actually a debbie downer for me.
Dominating a male that has taken the time to make a connection with me, ensures that we both find fulfillment within the exchange, and fulfillment is what we all seek is it not?
I definitely do not play in person with random strange males. 1)That is a safety NO NO for me, and should be for you as well. 2)It leaves me feeling cold and detached. Whilst some of you pisspots on the net do deserve a brutal ball busting session, I won't offer to engage in it without knowing you first. FYI I love nut busting :) so get to know me first, and I just might drop you to your knees lol!
All males who serve me are told flat out that real time will not be an option til they have served out an online probationary period, and there are no exceptions to this rule. Serving me online is similar to a courtship in a fetish relationship. You get to interact with me daily, learn my likes and dislikes, see a side of me that is not available for public consumption, and I gain the knowledge I require to break you to my bit:)
Getting to know someone is an exhilarating experience if done correctly. It is like foreplay for the mind. Take your time. There is no need to rush through it. It is definitely not a sprint to the finish line. Slow your roll, and keep a steady pace. You will get there in time. I prefer long term servitude anyway, so anyone that lacks the patience to get to know me properly is not going to last in my stable, and I would rather find that out early on, rather than wasting any of my precious time on someone who does not possess the same goal.
I understand how exciting it can be to come across someone that you really want to indulge your fetish with, but trying to steamroll your way into their presence is just not going to end up very well, especially for those of you seeking out someone to mindfuck your existence. Dommes need to know your buttons before they can push them doll.
Yes drive by tributes, and one off sessions with slutty nuts can be fun for me, but it really isn't my preference unless it is a slut that I have played with before. I get that some of you treat fetish like a Baskin Robbins. You want to try all 51 flavors of domination, and that is ok so long as you realize that not only will it break your piggy bank, but it may sour you on fetish altogether, cause all you are going to get is a flash bang for that buck, so unless that it really what you are looking for than I advise to avoid that type of approach. There is an upside to slutting though. Engaging with multiple Dommes ups your odds of finding that special ONE. The one that you are meant to serve long term, and that is a definite positive!
The choice of which type of Domme you serve is ultimately yours to make, but don't act like a dick when you come across a Domme that is not in to shortstack session servitude. Respect the right of a woman to decide which males she wishes to play with, and her rules of engagement. That way, if either of you ever changes your stance, you will have left the door open to the possibility! You never know what the future may hold, so don't burn those bridges bb :)
As always...amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com are a great way of saying "I appreciate you"
What
The what is Findom. You do know what Findom is don't you? If not, than why not? You know how to google don't you? Now that is a crux is it not. You lazy turds are certainly not going to want to waste your own time searching for an answer now are you? Whelp since I am an all around nice person, I am going to help you out this one time.
Findom is a fetish. A fetish in which men aka you give their money to women with no expectation of reciprocal services. Sounds pretty crazy huh? I bet. I know that most of you are scratching your balls after reading that, cause you cannot figure out why you should give your money to any woman who is not doing something for you to earn it. You are drenched in the customer mindset. The one that dictates that you should receive a product when you provide currency. This is something that you are going to have get over. You will get no where fast if you do not.
Why
Why do men give their money to women with no hope of reciprocation? They do it out of respect. They do it to convey appreciation. They do it because they cannot help but to provide, for it is ingrained within men to be providers. They do it as a form of power transfer, after all bdsm is all about the exchange of power, the relinquishment of self, and money is POWER. They do it to convey worship, a tithe, a tribute, a contribution to the life of their Goddess.
When
The whens of tribute is set via the FinDom. Of course the initial tribute should be sent prior to engagement. That is to say that you as the man should have already researched the Domme in question way before you ever approached her. Study her as you would the holy grail..quietly in awe and from a distance til you are prepared to offer her your servitude.
Once you have received the tribute schedule, do not ever think to disregard it for your own selfish intentions. A man will be judged by his adherence to his word. Be the type of man who lives up to his word. If at any point you cannot meet your obligations to your FinDom for any reason, than you need to convey to her the whys of it asap.
How much
This is not a question to ask. Sacrifice is not an option, it is a requirement of serving a FinDom. If you are not suffering to some degree from the amount of your financial contribution, than you are in essence stealing from your FinDom, and that is never acceptable. Do not be the sketchy trickster who attempts to cheapen the experience by withholding from her financially. Selfless, sacrifice, suffering, and servitude all go together hand in hand.
Is Findom for you
Findom is for all those who seek it sincerely with generosity. If you are not willing to give, to tithe, to tribute, to provide, to contribute, than no it is not for you. If you believe that you must gain other than the pleasure of enriching your Domme's life from serving than no Findom is not for you. If your only intent is to stroke your penis, than no Findom is not for you. If it does not excite you to give your money to a woman, than no Findom is not for you. If you will not commit your cash, than no Findom is not for you.
If you receive an incredible rush, a stomach full of butterflies, a lightheaded soaring, a flesh tingling feeling whenever you send tribute, than yes Findom is for you. If you cannot imagine anything more right than devoting your life and fruits of livelihood to your FinDom, than yes Findom is for you. If you are prepared to serve with all that you have, than yes Findom is for you. If you see women as Goddesses deserving of all your riches, than yes Findom is for you.
Now
You have been educated. Are you ready to begin your journey into financial servitude to a Golden Goddess? If so, than send your first tribute today to mzsydney34@yahoo.com
