You will see the word doxxing used quite frequently in nilla instances and fetish ones. It is a seriously offensive action. It has the potential of fatal repercussions, which it is why it is never and I mean never ever ever a joking matter. This is probably why I do not engage in blackmail play, since I am never ever going to out someone, regardless of how much you pay me.
One of the first rules you learn about in the fetish scene is safety. You play safely, and you do all within your power to be safely played with. Play has real life ramifications if done improperly. This we all know, right? I sincerely hope so.
Now in the fetish scene, it is more common than not for people to employ stage names. This is a safety measure. It is used as a line of protection to deter stalkers, and those whose intent is ill willed. Women whether you realize it or not, are more likely than men to be murdered or abused in the fetish scene, hell in the world at large, so it only makes sense that women will take steps to ensure that they are untraceable in their nilla spheres. No one should be faulting a woman for taking precautions.
A woman who uses a faux name is no less a "real Domme" than a woman who doesn't use one. The only thing she is hiding is a direct route to her person, which many of you males do as well. Males in the scene are very likely to provide a false name as well, along with refusing to post any type of photo with their face included. They reason this to be for privacy reasons due to employment, yet it is as well a form of protection of their person. No one that I know of desires to have a random fetish stranger calling their personal number, or showing up at their home without an explicit invitation. It just is not done. In fact, quite a few people compartmentalize their vanilla life far away from their fetish one, so keeping your information private is a sensible rule of thumb.
I understand that after having known someone online for a goodly amount of time that tidbits about your life and person will slip out, and this is where issues can arise. The person you had confidence in to keep your data secret suddenly turns on you. I have seen both males and females alike stoop to this unforgivable behavior. Trust is paramount in bdsm, so to see it abused is reprehensible to say the least.
I have noted males getting angry with Dommes they have served, and outing them to the public, which then opens the Domme up to possible danger. In turn I have witnessed Dommes putting a male on blast with his personal information shared, and that is vile as well. Even the threat of doxxing someone should earn you a shunning, and no I do not give a flying fuck for how successful you are in the scene, or how much money you have in your bank account, cause if you doxx or threaten to doxx anyone, you do not belong anywhere near the fetish scene. You in fact need to seek mental help immediately for your toxicity.
The best thing to do, and I really do dislike advising this course of action, but the best thing you can do to protect yourself, is to not share personal information at all with anyone. I realize that the temptation is there, but you must resist, because in the end, you may very well be putting your life at stake. Is it really worth that risk? For me, I say no, but of course you must choose your own path, but I do hope that my words have given you food for thought.
Be safe all!
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