Findom has it's own unique set of problems, but you would be surprised at just how many of them coincide with issues women in general have with men. How do you know if you are part of the problem?
1)Do you demean and downgrade women into nameless objects by calling every female "babe, honey, sexy, sugar"? You are part of the problem.
2)Do you send women dick pics? You are part of the problem.
3)Do you feel and believe that you are entitled to a woman's time, attention, and sex? You are part of the problem.
4)Do you treat women like they are your masturbation doll? You are part of the problem.
5)Do you refuse to contribute to the financial well being of women? You are part of the problem.
6)Do you act like you are God's gift to womankind? You are part of the problem.
7)Do you consider netflix and chilling a date? You are part of the problem.
8)Do you speak disrespectfully about and to women? You are part of the problem.
9)Do you try to guilt or shame women into having a relationship with you? You are part of the problem.
10)Do you threaten or attempt to blackmail women so that you can get what you want from them? You are part of the problem.
11)Do you lie to women? You are part of the problem.
12)Are you verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive to women? You are part of the problem.
13)Do you refuse to take NO for an answer from women? You are part of the problem.
14)Do you cheat? You are part of the problem.
I highly suspect that most of you gents already know whether you are part of the problem or not, but as we all know, some are not so bright, and need it spelled out for them. Don't be part of the problem. Be better than the men around you. Refuse to be that problem by
1)Addressing women by their name or employing a respectful title.
2)Never send dick pics, unless a woman outright asks for them.
3)Realize that women owe you NOTHING.
4)Women are living, breathing beings whose purpose in creation does not center around being your wank fodder, or jizz receptacle.
5)Women have been financially oppressed via disproportionate labor to wages in the job market compared to men, and it has always been a man's duty to provide for women.
6)A big dick, a hot bod, or even a pretty face does not mean that you do not have to work for a woman's attention and time.
7)Spend money on a date!! Take women nice places, and invest financially in the date. This is what respectful men do.
8)Be courteous and respectful to ALL women, not just the ones you are attracted to.
9)Passive aggressive BS is BS. Don't engage in it EVER!
10)Do not be a twat waffle, cock womble, or douche canoe and try to force a woman to be with you.
11)Liars are the scum of the Earth. Don't do it.
12)The majority of women are physically weaker than men, which means that you are utter filth if you lay your hands on a woman in anger.
13)Women have the right to decide who they want to share their time, attention, and sex with. Do not impede upon that right EVER!
14)Learn what loyalty is. Hell, dogs are more loyal than most men, and that is a disheartening fact.
If any of this resonated with you, make a vow to yourself right now that you will be a part of the solution, not the problem. Behave like a man, not a monster.
Welcome one and all to the world of Goddess Sydney's words of wisdom
Today I am going to preface this post with the obligatory notation of "not all", since so many choose to argue when it is not stated.
Sex workers are some of the kindest, and most compassionate people that you will ever encounter. Did you already know that? I bet not.
Why would I make such a sweeping generalization in regards to sex workers? Well, of course it is based upon my own experiences, and notice of behaviors. In society you will see that sex workers are looked upon with scorn and ridicule. They are treated as lesser beings. It is assumed that they must be intellectually and morally inferior to the rest of human beings, which in my estimation is doing them a horrible disservice.
It is often presumed that sex workers are 1 or more of these things
1)sex addicts
2)besieged with Daddy issues
3)come from an abusive background
4)are trafficked
5)emotional or physical masochists
6)misandrists
7)drug addicted
8)diseased(physically or mentally)
9)unkempt
10)meat for the male market
11)sans human emotions
12)unlovable
13)of no worth
14)suffer from decreased or non-existent self esteem
15)less than human
16)immoral
I point you now to my previous prefaced statement.
The sex workers that I know, are far from being clinically diagnosed as sex addicts, most do not suffer any type of mental disorder, nor are they haters of men. They entered sex work to achieve their financial goals, not unlike those of you who opt for a non-sexual career. They are the ones calling for safe sex practices, unlike the general populace of males contacting them asking for bareback action. They generally possess a love of self, and value their services as being of worth, which is why they charge fees.
Sex workers are very human, and on a more basic level than most, for they see the good, the bad, the beautiful, and the ugly aspects of their clients day in, day out. They serve as substitute mother figures, therapists, confidantes, and lovers.
They are the first ones to step up and speak out about injustice. They support charities and fellow sex workers, sans having a personal stake, or expectation of receiving rewards for their actions. They are in fact a hell of alot better than the majority of males who contact them. They
are educated, and able to entertain conversation at above par levels.
They are savvy business women. They are success driven individuals with
strong work ethics. Don't believe me, well than take a moment to read the social media of most sex workers. I have seen many of them helping each other out,without gain. They do not require being shamed into acting like a decent compassionate human being, the polar opposite of the clients in the sex work scene. If anyone should feel guilt, it is the males who fail to stand up for these wonderfully creative, and resilient women.
Let's flip this script, and look to the average male who contacts a sex worker for services.
1)They treat women as if they are merely a pair of tits, a wet pussy, and an available ass. (Wow, hmm kinda sounds like they are the ones dehumanizing, and attempting to knock someone's self worth)
2)They ask, request, demand unsafe sexual practices (sounds like someone looking for an std)
3)They feel free to threaten violence when a sex worker denies them time or attention (misogynist much)
4)They believe it acceptable practice to send unsolicited dick pics (did you know that it is illegal to sexually harass someone)
5)They attempt to barter, and haggle over prices to the point of shaming sex workers for charging for their services
It is time to stop marginalizing sex workers. They are a group comprised of strong willed women, who play an integral part of humanity, so stop treating them as if they are intellectually, and morally challenged. Show them the same respect you would expect to be accorded, and if you truly are an ally to them, than speak out against those that are attempting to squash their voices!
