The honeymooners

Aw the honeymooners(no I am not talking about Alice&Ralph). The honeymoon(or courting) phase of a D's relationship,especially one which involves the beloved findom aspect,is an absolute rush. Like the pistons on a locomotive,tributes tend to pump fast and furious in this stage...where the simple sight of a username dries the mouth,pounds the pulse,and heightens all sense of anticipation. It is a heady experience,beautiful,yet dangerous as well,for this is the stage where often we see overpromising,and underdelivering..or worse yet,a boy goes beyond his means,and becomes bereft of the needed income to survive,and honor financial commitments til the next pay period.

It is not only males who are vulnerable and at risk for pushing too far at this point. It is the duty of a respectable and trustworthy dominant to ensure that no harm occurs,and whilst the reasoning could be applied that these are grown ass men capable of deciding for themselves if they want to be broken,we must as Dommes  maintain a degree of responsibility(atleast we should do so). If we do not control the depth to which they plunge,then we run the very realistic danger of breaking a boy,which is a lose lose.

Sometimes I fear that a cold and clinical atmosphere(strictly keyboard-monitor relationship) possesses the possibility of detaching one from a sense of compassion and regard for the very realistic consequences of allowing boys to go for broke. I completely understand the almost orgasmic pleasure of seeing tribute after tribute spoiling our accounts,and recognize how difficult it can be to say no to something that feels so good..but being grounded in reality aids me,and allows me to take a step back and maintain control of the situation. I truly believe that a leader leads by example,and cannot guide the way if judgement is clouded by hunger,hunger for the almighty dollar. Yes money is both loved and hated. It is chased,and responsible for some of the most despicably base actions of human beings,and yet we need it to survive in this world,ironic.

Navigating the honeymoon phase is a learned experience,and yet still there is room for error. I avoid these pitfalls by taking this time to delve further into the mind of the submissive,for these are the moments when he is most vulnerable,and most likely to open up to you. He desires only to please you,which is a gift greater than money. If this desire is nurtured,it can develop into a longterm addiction for him,thereby gracing your life with a male who seeks the enrichment of your existence,and that is worship in my estimation. Of course a male is easily led by his libido,but that will not capture his mind,and once the ejaculation is over,so might his craving to serve be as well,which is why one should grasp this golden opportunity to swim in the darkest recesses of his psyche,enslaving him to your will.

Once past this phase,the work begins in earnest,and requires time and effort from both sides,yup I said it. It would be lovely if all I had to do was just sit back and watch hapless males fall prey to my appearance,but that just won't cut it if I want to forge a lasting bond. The formation of a bond is not going to happen overnight. It takes sacrifice(many an hour of sleep have I lost,spent interacting,and really getting to know a boy,the facets of his life,and aspects of his personality,not just his kinks) I recognize the importance of kinks meshing,but if I cannot stand the male as a human being,then it will not matter a lick if we like the same activities.

I realize that longterm is not the goal for everyone,and that is absolutely cool(no judgement from me),and of course I understand that some crave to always be going through the honeymoon phase by either bouncing Domme to Domme...or in the case of the Domme,draining one after another dry..and I say whatever tickles your fancy :)...just don't play that game with ME,and all will be well!

Anyways,the prime message I wanted to send out is that at some point we must all exercise some degree of control,lest harsh realities be visited upon our asses,either in the form of not being able to pay bills,buy food etc for the boys,or lack of worthy worshipful servants for the Ladies. Good luck to all,and may you be blessed with what you seek :)