It seems like every single day I read some torrid trite composed of bashing and trashing of a fellow Domina,and I ask myself what is the point of perpetrating this type of behavior?? Does the writer believe that it empowers them,or furthers their own reputation by engaging in juvenile antics such as this? Do they recognize that cyber bullying is not acceptable in any form? If this is how you conduct yourself and your affairs,then seriously you need to grow the fuck up. This is and never will be how a mature individual handles themselves. Adults recognize and accept that they shall not like everyone,nor that all will like them.
How one deals with confrontation and criticism is a defining part of their character as a human being. If you cannot handle being put down,then obviously you have never lived in the real world. If you expect everyone to agree with you,then you are suffering from delusional thoughts as well. Trashing a person on the basis that they do not kiss your "perfect" ass is plain old BS period. What the hell are you doing on any media forum if your mentality is no greater that a high school student?? Take my advice and get out now before you reveal to all your level of immaturity. Do not mistake me when I say that this is not directed exclusively towards the younger ladies in the scene,for I have seen older females engaging in this behavior as well. It is not attractive irregardless of age,nor does it attract sincere gents to your service,which is the ultimate agenda for any Domina is it not?
All that I see accomplished from this drama is further tarnishing of the findom reputation. Your actions do not affect only you as they reflect poorly upon the community as a whole. For fuck's sake attempt to think before you type,and refuse to allow anger to rule your words and deeds. There are no winners in hate based interactions.
This type of exchange becomes even further exaggerated when gang mentality comes into play,ie someone trashed my "friend,ally etc.." Then we get a whole gaggle of people tossing out insulting verbiage,which accomplishes nothing. For some odd reason the group feels as if they have the right to bash on others while defending their buddy. C'mon now, if your friend cannot handle their own issues,then they have no business calling themselves a dominant. Your actions compound the situation by pointing out clearly that your comrade is weak in nature and in need of other's strong arm tactics. Is this the picture you truly wish to portray to the online world? Do you want the communities to view you as a bully? Try googling the explanation behind the psychology of bullies...one word comes up again and again(insecure)...is this you??
I can imagine many of you asking,how the hell am I supposed to react then if not with angry words? Try to remember that if you respond with anger,then you have already lost. The best course is to give forth no fuel to fan the flames. There is a reason why sites and forums give you the option to block one another. Use it. All of us have been insulted at one point or another but refuse to allow it to touch us personally. I mean do you really give a shit if a total stranger passes judgement on you? If you do then you are not living your life,someone else is controlling how you view yourself,and by the way that is not the action of a dominant person.
In closing keep in mind that if you do not care for someone,avoid them. If you are offended by their opinions or statements,then do not listen to them,and the most important thing is to keep your mind and your tongue upon your own business.
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