How sad it is to see males treat the lifestyle like a fast food establishment. Why is it that one would believe that they should and could have things their way when they are supposedly submissive. If you are seeking out the means and way to your own personal gratification,then you are submissive to none other than your own sex. It is extremely frustrating to anyone to feel as if they have wasted their time on misrepresentations. The very first thing any submissive should bear knowledge of is exactly what they are. Never attempt to establish yourself as something you clearly are not. A submissive does not come before a dominant with the expectation that they are the prime motivator of the exchange. Of course all individuals possess desires,yet one that is inherently submissive will seek only to sate and satisfy the one whom they offer their submission to. They are able to convert their pleasure into somewhat of a vicarious based life. Happiness experienced when they have provided the means of joy to another. Gratification reached when they have brought forth the blissful peak of the one they serve. The simple truth is that if you cannot set aside self serving agendas,then you are worthless in a power exchange,and should acknowledge and embrace the reality that you are selfish,and do not deserve the title of submissive.
We have all seen posts relaying that it is all about the dominant,and that the submissive is secondary,yet if you read certain materials publishing that the exchange is based upon the submissive,and this confliction of data leads to confusing areas of grey matter. I understand how it would lead to misunderstandings,but they can be avoided if you take your time and figure exactly what type of dominant you are dealing with.
There are some women that in a way allow the submissive to lead,such as pro-Dommes in a paid session. These ladies provide a service,which means that the client is entitled to having their desires met as they wish,for they have paid for that very thing. Now we have purely lifestyle Dominas as well which is entirely different. Most lifestyle ladies are seeking a personal submissive,perhaps even a spouse. In this situation the submissives desires must align with the dominant's wishes as well,for they will have a 24/7 relationship with aspects reflecting those of any vanilla relationship. This is not to say that there is no overlap. There are pros which engage in lifestyle as well,and surely the rules will differ in each individual exchange. Onto the strictly online Dommes. In regards to online domination,it most times incorporates findom,as how else can you serve online? I mean seriously any lady that has been around for longer than a week has seen all of the cock pics that she can tolerate in a lifetime,and you can bank on the fact that she would rather you buy her an outfit then to watch you model one you bought for yourself.
The point of my post is to share valuable information which will aid males in the scene in making informed decisions. To be blunt my words are not new found nuggets of wisdom,they are common sense which apparently is lacking nowadays.
So here ya go,and yes you can thank me for taking my time to spoon feed you what you should already know. 1)If you do not want to sacrifice financially,then do NOT seek out a pro. 2)If you feel that your needs and wants are the focus,seek out a pro,but be prepared to pay for the service. 3)If your only desire is to get your dick beaters sticky for free,then locate free porn on the net *hint* it is all over the place. 4)If you want only to have your kinks played out and do not mind a small investment in having them met,then purchase clips,or buy cam time 5)If you possess an altruistic motivation towards service,then you are worthy of serving either pro or lifestyle or a combination of both.
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