As the saying goes "birds of a feather flock together", and this is generally a factual statement within the lifestyle setting, yet fairly rare within the findom fetish. This is a point that some may disparage, but I find it to be quite accurate from my standpoint. I am not stating that it is 100% of the time, nor that the entirety of all individuals behave in non congenial manners. There is a level of competition in findom that is apparent even to outsiders. A back biting, catty, nail scratching mentality that screams throughout the sites.
Why do I believe this to be contained to this particular fetish, well as this is the only fetish entrenched in a commodity that individuals need to survive, it would stand to reason that it is also a fetish that attracts those who are in desperate straits to obtain it, which leads people to act in a manner that would be abnormal to those that are not in need of financial assist. Behaviors included but not limited to chasing down males, begging for attention and $, and a willingness to bow down to male dictates in desperation of the almighty $.
Some may refer to it as being old fashioned by sitting back and allowing the males to come kneel at your feet like the Goddess you are, yet it has been proven through the ages that this is exactly what males desire. A prime example is Cleopatra. Did she run to Cesar, no she was a female that used her wiles to bring him to her instead. It has been proven that males savor the chase which an intelligent woman realizes. She knows that she has no need to lower herself to the levels of male behavior. Of course all have the right to act in accordance of their own desires, and the views reflected are my own.
Friday, October 19, 2012
Wednesday, October 17, 2012
Monday, October 15, 2012
something that made me smile
As this is my blog, I wanted to post a little something that made me smile. My pet was given the task of composing a poem in my honor, which pleased me greatly in that he put forth time and effort into the completion of that set before him.
Goddess is someone for whom I care
and obey and submit as is my desire
she demands obediance as is her right
and I endevour to please for that is my pleasure
The desire to please her grows
Even as my submission expands
My desire to meet the task grows
Her pleasure at my success is my own pleasure
As the caretaker of her cock
it is Goddess's pleasure to have it locked
For her enjoyment she teases
My enjoyment is as she pleases.
She keeps me as her locked cuck
At home in his device and panties
While she enjoys the deeds of love
as others she allows into her panties
Goddess is someone for whom I care
and obey and submit as is my desire
she demands obediance as is her right
and I endevour to please for that is my pleasure
The desire to please her grows
Even as my submission expands
My desire to meet the task grows
Her pleasure at my success is my own pleasure
As the caretaker of her cock
it is Goddess's pleasure to have it locked
For her enjoyment she teases
My enjoyment is as she pleases.
She keeps me as her locked cuck
At home in his device and panties
While she enjoys the deeds of love
as others she allows into her panties
Sunday, October 14, 2012
There is always hope
It is such a waste to see so many males lost and meandering through the scene without having realized their true purpose and meaning in life. They squander their time wallowing in self gratification, failing to grasp the fact that drifting along such a path will not lead to a sense of tranquil fulfillment. The moments of satiation are fleeting at best, and a recipe for letdown. Not to mention that the elation from such actions will not sustain an altruistic desire to serve, nor will they impart a sense of achievement.
A submissive soul is cultivated and enriched through daily acts of selfless devotion. Such creatures are indeed a born rarity within today's society and discipline. That is not to say that one cannot become conditioned to alter their perspective and thought process to align with that of those destined to serve. Patience is a quintessential element during such a process, and cannot be disregarded, for it yields the sweetest of fruits. Such a transformation from selfish to selfless will not occur in a day, a week, nor likely within a month, but indeed will be a costly investment of time. The journey will not be consistently smooth or sans setbacks, but highly rewarding once your goal is accomplished. Keep this foremost in your thoughts to eradicate doubts of impossibility.
Most likely my words fall upon deaf ears, but there is always hope ^_^
A submissive soul is cultivated and enriched through daily acts of selfless devotion. Such creatures are indeed a born rarity within today's society and discipline. That is not to say that one cannot become conditioned to alter their perspective and thought process to align with that of those destined to serve. Patience is a quintessential element during such a process, and cannot be disregarded, for it yields the sweetest of fruits. Such a transformation from selfish to selfless will not occur in a day, a week, nor likely within a month, but indeed will be a costly investment of time. The journey will not be consistently smooth or sans setbacks, but highly rewarding once your goal is accomplished. Keep this foremost in your thoughts to eradicate doubts of impossibility.
Most likely my words fall upon deaf ears, but there is always hope ^_^
Monday, October 8, 2012
How to recognize a sincere finsub/slave.
How to recognize a sincere finsub/slave.
1) They will not approach you until they are prepared and able to serve in the manner upon which you deserve and require. Ie none of the familiar excuses about not being able to tribute until pay day, duh they know that tribute is required and are prepared to do so when speaking with you, or that they cannot gift through amazon, holy SHIT I do not know of a single lady that does not have a wishlist. If a male attempts to tell you that he has had his acct closed on amazon hmmm that tells you right away that he has cancelled too many orders resulting in it being closed, or one of my favorites is that they do not have a credit card....lmao that is only true in 3rd world countries. Credit cards are a necessity if you have an emergency, or to even rent a car, so I am not buying that line. Hmm and the fact that you can use your debit card to pay on amazon or even a pre-paid visa card.
2) They will tribute during the first exchange. I know that some are going to disagree with me when I say this about how some males may want to take a "getting to know you" period, well here is my opinion on that subject, any male worthy of being called a sub/slave is going to take the time prior to speaking to you to research you. He will read through your posts and all that you publish in order to get a feel for your style thereby ensuring that you are the type of lady he desires to serve, and if he has not done so, then he is simply lazy and undeserving of your time or attention.
3) They will come before you humble as they are fully aware that they are meant to serve a superior lady, which means that they will have let go of their ego and selfish desires, thereby allowing them to fully serve in the capacity made for them. A slip of manners in the initial onset is an omen that does not bode well for a developing relationship.
4)They will never speak nor act in a disrespectful manner towards any lady, even when they are informed that their service is not desired. There should be no venting of anger nor insults if and when their service is no longer desirable. Faux males always show their ass figuratively when told NO. Inflated egos and sense of self does not allow them to take rejection lightly.
This post is based upon my personal opinions and observations.
1) They will not approach you until they are prepared and able to serve in the manner upon which you deserve and require. Ie none of the familiar excuses about not being able to tribute until pay day, duh they know that tribute is required and are prepared to do so when speaking with you, or that they cannot gift through amazon, holy SHIT I do not know of a single lady that does not have a wishlist. If a male attempts to tell you that he has had his acct closed on amazon hmmm that tells you right away that he has cancelled too many orders resulting in it being closed, or one of my favorites is that they do not have a credit card....lmao that is only true in 3rd world countries. Credit cards are a necessity if you have an emergency, or to even rent a car, so I am not buying that line. Hmm and the fact that you can use your debit card to pay on amazon or even a pre-paid visa card.
2) They will tribute during the first exchange. I know that some are going to disagree with me when I say this about how some males may want to take a "getting to know you" period, well here is my opinion on that subject, any male worthy of being called a sub/slave is going to take the time prior to speaking to you to research you. He will read through your posts and all that you publish in order to get a feel for your style thereby ensuring that you are the type of lady he desires to serve, and if he has not done so, then he is simply lazy and undeserving of your time or attention.
3) They will come before you humble as they are fully aware that they are meant to serve a superior lady, which means that they will have let go of their ego and selfish desires, thereby allowing them to fully serve in the capacity made for them. A slip of manners in the initial onset is an omen that does not bode well for a developing relationship.
4)They will never speak nor act in a disrespectful manner towards any lady, even when they are informed that their service is not desired. There should be no venting of anger nor insults if and when their service is no longer desirable. Faux males always show their ass figuratively when told NO. Inflated egos and sense of self does not allow them to take rejection lightly.
This post is based upon my personal opinions and observations.
Saturday, October 6, 2012
Friday, October 5, 2012
service vs serving
Today I speak out to clear up a misconception that is rampant throughout the scene.
Dominant women do NOT chase down males for tribute or service. The only females that stoop to such levels are instadommes.
It is my opinion that the miscomprehension stems from confusion upon the definition of findom and service. There are ladies that offer services through certain clip and cam sites whom do take requests and such, but what you should note is that these ladies are offering a service which defines you as a customer, not a sub/slave that personally serves them, so unless your Domme has required that you purchase her clips, you are in fact not serving anyone other than the endowment between your thighs.
Never expect to approach a dominant lady as if you are the boss just because you are offering tribute, for that is the most expedient way to receive the proverbial bitch slap down.You are not purchasing her as you would a horse at auction. Tribute is an offering of appreciation which should be given willingly without any thought of gain other than her pleasure. At no time do you act as if she owes you anything due to your tribute.
There appears to be a trend of behavior that is shockingly poor amongst many of the males in the scenes these days, which is namely within the realms of being outright disrespectful. A male in the findom scene is not now nor ever will be the "BOSS" in the exchange. They may say that whomever holds the money, holds the power, but in reality the truth is quite the opposite. Crudely put, whomever owns the kitty controls the cock.
The type of males that I have personally dealt with which engage in this abhorrent behavior are in fact not subs, nor slaves, but most certainly are fetish boys here to get a nut off. They are pay for play pukes that top from the bottom with their $. What they need to realize is that money means nothing to a dominant woman who has no need of it. The idea of males controlling ladies with their wallet is not going to fly in findom. If you are one if the y chromosome types that dabble in the scene using your $ as a tool, then you need to stick to service sites or females that are only in it to make a quick buck. I do not deny that you will find a deluge of females chasing you down and overflowing your inbox with outright begging for your $, which is pathetic, for they shame the fine ladies of findom. Merely joining a site will bring you into contact with the types of females that are more than happy to bow down to your dictates for $, so there is absolutely no need for you to approach dominant women wasting their time with your toppy BS.
Dominant women do NOT chase down males for tribute or service. The only females that stoop to such levels are instadommes.
It is my opinion that the miscomprehension stems from confusion upon the definition of findom and service. There are ladies that offer services through certain clip and cam sites whom do take requests and such, but what you should note is that these ladies are offering a service which defines you as a customer, not a sub/slave that personally serves them, so unless your Domme has required that you purchase her clips, you are in fact not serving anyone other than the endowment between your thighs.
Never expect to approach a dominant lady as if you are the boss just because you are offering tribute, for that is the most expedient way to receive the proverbial bitch slap down.You are not purchasing her as you would a horse at auction. Tribute is an offering of appreciation which should be given willingly without any thought of gain other than her pleasure. At no time do you act as if she owes you anything due to your tribute.
There appears to be a trend of behavior that is shockingly poor amongst many of the males in the scenes these days, which is namely within the realms of being outright disrespectful. A male in the findom scene is not now nor ever will be the "BOSS" in the exchange. They may say that whomever holds the money, holds the power, but in reality the truth is quite the opposite. Crudely put, whomever owns the kitty controls the cock.
The type of males that I have personally dealt with which engage in this abhorrent behavior are in fact not subs, nor slaves, but most certainly are fetish boys here to get a nut off. They are pay for play pukes that top from the bottom with their $. What they need to realize is that money means nothing to a dominant woman who has no need of it. The idea of males controlling ladies with their wallet is not going to fly in findom. If you are one if the y chromosome types that dabble in the scene using your $ as a tool, then you need to stick to service sites or females that are only in it to make a quick buck. I do not deny that you will find a deluge of females chasing you down and overflowing your inbox with outright begging for your $, which is pathetic, for they shame the fine ladies of findom. Merely joining a site will bring you into contact with the types of females that are more than happy to bow down to your dictates for $, so there is absolutely no need for you to approach dominant women wasting their time with your toppy BS.
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