Femdom reality

Welcome to you that are taking your first steps into the reality of Femdom! 

It is an exciting journey to say the least. Many of you though have stumbled into this lifestyle with unrealistic expectations,and those are what I am here to dispel. The first question I want you to ask yourself is "am I a submissive?" Your honest answer bears quite a bit of meaning whether you realize it or not. If you are a "newbie",than this question may stump you for awhile. How does one know if they are a submissive? Let's start simple by asking,do you want to bare your heart,mind,and soul before a woman? Do you know in your heart that it is your purpose to set aside your wants for those of another? Is it within you to discard that ego which resides within you,and humble yourself to the will of another?

I am Not referring to bedroom games,or doing what you really want under the guise of obeying a dominant. Nor am I talking about just doing the things that turn you on(submissives submit in many ways that would not be to their liking or choosing). Submission does not end when your penis goes limp. It is not a game. It is a way of life,it is a mindset. It is a conscious choice(not forced)to relinquish your power base into the hands of a Femdom. It requires the ability to entrust your decisions,and the dedication to see through all tasks given.

Submission is not for the weak,nor is it for those that are flip flopsie. It requires steadfast devotion. It is not going to be an easy ride,or a short trip to submission. You must be prepared to work hard for consideration and then ownership. It will not just be handed to you as an entitlement.

Something to take into consideration is that the Femdom scene is overflowing with males claiming to be submissive,and who are anything but that. This is why I asked the first question,are you submissive? There is no shame in admitting that you are not,so long as you are honest about it. If you would term yourself a "part-time" submissive(meaning that you have too many obligations in life to commit to the journey,than say so. Dishonesty only leads to disaster. You will be subjected to a literal smorgasboard of beautiful intelligent Ladies,and it is ultimately your decision as to who you will approach to serve,but never forget that it will be the dominant who decides if they will accept your submission. The multitude of males will never serve a single day,partly due to unrealistic expectations,or the fact that they just aren't submissive.

If they are not submissive,than what are they? The scene is comprised of fetishists who do not submit to the will of any other than their own pleasure. They engage in sessions where they submit to activities of their choosing. There are clients,who pay for services from service providers via phone sex,cam sessions,purchase used items etc... As well there are misognists who actually detest women(too many reasons to list why) who are not submissive,will never submit,and do not desire the happiness of a Femdom. There are those seeking a kinky hook-up(one that holds a little more spice than tinder). Do any of these types sound like you?

Being blunt here..if you are looking for sex,ya this is not the place for you. Regardless of what you have seen or heard,Femdoms do not run around dressed in leather with a concealed strap-on just waiting to peg a hairy ass. They do not get turned on when males send unsolicited dick pics(we have seen so many,and none are going to make us gush"wooza,what a pretty penis!" Oh and a tidbit of advice,even if you are into pegging or fisting,do NOT show us photos of your asshole(just ick).

If you have gotten this far and decided yes I am submissive,than the next step I would advise is to read read read. Note I did not say watch watch watch. In fact your best bet is to avoid Femdom porn altogether. Research blogs by other submissives. Learn the lingo,and definitions of the fetishes out there. You just might be surprised by what interests you. The most important thing is to keep an open mind. Never say never,unless it involves illegal activities. Binge your brain upon safety practices..nothing worse than doing an intox session,and passing out with a cord wrapped around your nether member(yup those things really will fall off dead without oxygen). To conclude,STUDY,READ,RESEARCH before you engage in submission :)