lunch session

Whew I just arrived home from a lunch session with a local boy :) Such an enjoyable time with one that knows how to properly show appreciation of a lady.

He met me outside of a local restaurant parking lot,opening my car door when I arrived,and bowing down to kiss the tip of my shoe before I could exit the vehicle. Now that is how a submissive male should behave. We then proceeded to the restaurant where he of course opened the door for me. I chose a booth as to afford the privacy I desired to dine in. As expected I ordered our meals..salads for us both,but his dressing on the side,ice tea for me,and water for him.

Once the drinks arrived I removed a vial of saliva that I had been adding to all week,and dumped it into his water as a treat. I actually had to order him to save some for his meal seeing as if it were up to him he would have consumed it all within a moment. Greedy for a taste of Goddess he was.

Once our meal arrived I did discretely excuse myself to the ladies room for a moment with the now empty vial,and upon returning I provided the golden nectar dressing for his salad. The expression upon his face was priceless. This was a total surprise for him,but one I knew that we would both enjoy. My amusement doubled watching him take my essence into himself. I did decide that he was not eating quickly enough,so a little hidden ball kick under the table gave him the needed incentive to finish without haste.

Now we all know that a good boy cleans his hands and face after dining,and I being a kindly lady took forth a baggie full of wipes from my bag for such a purpose. Ordinary wipes would never do,you see these were feminine wipes that I had used throughout the week after I tinkled. I actually made him beg for the supreme honor of even allowing the moist wetness of them to touch his skin. Have you ever seen a grown man sniffing and licking a wipe like it was ambrosia? It was hilarious. I almost wet myself laughing at him.

Seeing as he had done so well,and been an obedient boy,I gave him leave to take the toilettes home with him to edge with tonight as he stares at a photo of me he keeps by his bedside.

This boys is what happens with good pets whom earn their place at my feet through excellent devoted service to their Goddess. Who knows someday it might even happen to you :D

A day in the life

I decided to deviate from the general guidelines that most of my blogs adhere to...meaning no lessons being pounded into your heads today, no I am wondrous,and you must bow before me, just a pervy view into my life as it was lived today.

This morning I woke extremely early and gathered up bags to drop off at a friend's home which will be transported to a local women's shelter,surprise surprise I do have a heart :),and this is actually one of my favorite charities,so I am always collecting and procuring items that will mean much more to the recipient than they would to me. I have always striven to give more than I receive,which I am sure goes against the findom creed for a Goddess,but then a Goddess can do as she pleases yes?

Once that errand was complete,my alpha and I packed a simple picnic lunch of fried chicken,baked beans,and fresh strawberries in my basket. We then jumped in his vehicle for a road trip up north in Kansas. It was a supremely beautiful out today,so we rolled down the windows,cranked up the norah jones tunes,and basked in the bliss of getting out of the busy city. Going on road trips always evokes such happy memories since it reminds me of being back home,bet many of you had no idea that I am originally from a small farming community in Illinois,so once you get out of the city limits it looks much the same as where I grew up.

There is something so very elemental about getting back to nature which is what you see when you take the time to drive the scenic route. If you are anything like me,then you know how peaceful it is to drive through the country with the wind teasing your flesh,and the sunlight kissing your lips.

This is something I absolutely love doing. I leave my phone at home,and allow all of the stress to drift away with the passing clouds. I know that some people cannot even imagine going an entire day without being online,but believe me when I tell you how revitalizing it is to sit back and relax. Usually I am online pretty much from the time I wake until I go to bed,thereby allowing myself to be available for the boys that kneel to me,and those that crave to,so this is a major deviation from my normal routine. My break today though was needed more than it was wanted.

The best part of the day being when we found an old abandoned stone bridge to lunch at. It had a lovely view of a stream below,and with the birds tweeting in the surrounding trees...it felt like heaven on earth. May sound odd to some,but to me it was ideal.

Of course after our meal,I could not resist heading into town for a bit of shopping...yes cliche I know lol,but really I did need a couple of things. After all a Goddess does have needs which must be fulfilled does she not ;D

The day came to a close with us driving back to my house with the sunset illuminating the sky. It was a day that shall remain in my memory for all time..another little grain of sand in my hourglass.

I do hope that you enjoyed your peek into my private life,and that you are all able to gain as much pleasure from the simple things in life as I do.

Getting to know you

So many times I have seen boys complain that ladies do not give them the necessary time to get to know them before demanding tribute which is why they bolt from conversations. I wonder that some do not employ this as an excuse to gain attention,because to be honest from my standpoint and that which I have seen of other ladies,it is simply not a factual reason. I am not going to negate nor argue the reality that yes there are some who abuse this fetish on both sides of the fence,but if you are willing to put fetish aside,and keep your discourse strictly geared towards the simple goal of knowing another person,then it is entirely possible.

I am positive that I am not alone in my views towards this regard. Just as many ladies do not keep their ids private,neither do I. I have spoken to numerous males sans demands,so long as the exchange does not stray into fetish talk. It is only when a boy begins asking leading questions ie "what would you do to me?" how much money would you demand of me" etc.. That is when my friendly mode switches to tribute now or begone. Many of you boys enjoy being used and abused,but I do not. I do not garner pleasure from spending my time with those looking for a quick wank fest.

We ladies put effort into posting profiles,blogs,tweets and the likes in order for those seeking to serve can gain some insight into how we expect to be approached,addressed,and adored. These are all venues which cost you nothing to peruse,yet many even fail to put that much work into it. Yes I understand that some queries need to be posed personally,and I have no issue with that,but if you want to get to know a lady,then show your sincerity by doing the legwork of reading up first.

Look at it like this. If you were just meeting a female in r/t would you ask them how they get their kicks,or share with them all of your filthiest fantasies before the first round of drinks even were served? Just because you are not face to face with a lady does not mean that you should start out trying to get your fetish groove fix. We are all human beings even those of you whom prefer to be dehumanized,so take a moment and relax. It is entirely possible to engage in "normal" conversation with us,if your primary goal is to come to know us as individuals. Just remember to think with your noggin not your noodle,and you should do well :D

Yes I am a BITCH

It has been relayed to me more than once that I am strict,that I am firm,that I am off setting,and difficult to approach. All of this is true,and all for good reasons which I shall share with you now.

I am strict,because if I am not,then many would attempt to walk all over me,and that simply is not acceptable for me personally. This does not mean that I am not friendly,nor that I lack kindness,it simply means that I am not a doormat Domme whom caters to the desires of the male species. I am firm because if I were not,then my rules and protocol will be disregarded. To serve me a male must accept that it is my way or the highway when offering service. As to being difficult to approach I am  only seen so for those that have no intention of serving anything other than their own fantasies,and these are not the type of boys I want to deal with anyway.

If I did not demand certain behavior from those that approach me,then I would spend all of my time and energy dealing with soul sucking leeches. In the onset of my interim into online domination I allowed myself a period of assimilation to gain my footing so to speak,but from the point where I had a firm grasp upon the schemes and ploys of faux slaves,the BITCH emerged to guard the gate to my inner sanctum. It may seem harsh or even cold, but my tolerance of BS is extremely low. Certain phrases and responses will set off the alarms which indicate to me that I am interacting with a male whom has no place at my feet,and I will decisively dismiss and disengage from any further conversation. Is that truly cruel...NO. Why would I waste my time with one that does not measure up to the standards that I demand of my supplicants? Along that line of thinking I am as well saving said males time as they will be able to drift along to seek out another,so in a way I am being kind.

It has been brought to my attention that many males are shy and find it difficult to approach a Domme to begin with(especially ones that are off setting)...well now to you boys I would say nothing ventured,nothing gained. In school it may have worked out fine for you being a wallflower at the prom, but in this scene,you shall not achieve your goals by hiding out with dust bunnies in the attic. You cannot set around hoping that a Domme will come chase you down begging you to serve her,oh and if one does voila, you have now found yourself dealing with anything but a Domme. Dommes do not chase,which means that you must gather up your nerve to make yourself known to a lady. The sidelines are benches deep full of wankers and true losers,do you truly wish to join their ranks,or did you venture online to actually find a lady to serve? Did you search within yourself and come to the realization that the reason your life seems empty and meaningless is due to a lack of guidance and acceptance from a Domme whom knows your worth and place in life? If so,then you need never fear approaching to serve,for you are exactly the type of male whom is appreciated.

In conclusion yes the term BITCH does resonate with me,but only in the sense that I will not tolerate dishonesty nor insincerity.

Garnering attention from a Domme

I read journals,posts and complaints of males on every site. What seems to be the prevailing issue is that boys are agitated,aggravated and disappointed that they cannot get the attention of a Domme,and the truly pathetic part is that they cannot comprehend why. Well take a seat boys and I will explain why you are spinning your tires and grinding your gear shaft solo.\

In order for you to stand out amongst the copious contenders that vie for a Domme's attention daily you have to put forth a bit of effort...you that word that goes hand in hand with the filthiest word of all WORK. Ready to be enlightened??

*Think before you speak. You have plenty of time before hitting the send button to proof read for any errors(yes you are judged by the words you utter or type so to speak) nor should you attempt sleazy cum on lines or profuse false flattery...besides if you have not heard by now that words are fairly meaningless if actions do not back them up,then you have obviously been living under a rock,and cannot afford findom anyway.
*Do not attach pics to your missives unless specifically requested. No she will not wish to see your privates,and most likely not even your face,I mean this is financial domination not match dot com, nor adult find a fuk buddy,so keep the photos under wraps.
*Do not beg,nor plead,and for sakes alive do not boast. It will never be about what you plan to do...it is always about what you have just done for her.
*Include a tribute with your message. This is one that absolutely sets you apart from those that besiege her daily with BS. It is also the one step where you are given a golden opportunity to shine,so put your best foot forward boys.
*Do not send one liners. You only get one chance to make a first impression,so make it count. Now before you think too hard about it,no I am not advising you to type out a novel,but do convey your admiration and usefulness within the parameters of a bare minimum of one paragraph.
*Do not include the words "I want" as this lends the appearance that you are all about you instead of her.
*In closing the message thank her for having taken the time to read it.
*TRIBUTE
*TRIBUTE
*TRIBUTE

Now that I have shown you the way...you have no excuses

My day should always begin with a smile...are you doing your part to make me happy??

Incompatibility

There have been many males that have passed through my acquaintance that have been incompatible with my desires. Not that they are poor in mannerisms or ability to serve, merely that they do not mesh with my training towards service regimen. They simply were not meant to be mine. A few I have even directed towards other ladies. 

I am confident in my demands of that which I expect from the honored few whom have earned their place at my feet, and have no doubt that it is a spot which must be striven towards with absolute devotion and dedication. There is no acceptance of tepid performances. Think of it as that of a roman gladiator whom must conquer every obstacle(task) to remain free of the lion's rendering teeth(my wrath). If half hearted attempts were enough, then there would be no challenge, therefore one could not take pride in much deserved laureates(my praise). Therefore if I do not feel that you possess the traits and qualities which I deem required, I shall then wish you well, and send you about your way with the hope that you find the One to whom your allegiance will be accepted.

Recently I released a male that had been under my consideration for only a short period of time, and he was without doubt disappointed with my decree, even though I had made my guidelines clear, and do better slips were allotted to him accordingly for behavior. Something to be understood is that when a lady outlines what is and what is not acceptable, you as a servant must either choose to align your attitude and speech to her liking, or else excuse yourself from her service. Never expect for her to change up her own protocol and rules to suit you. It simply is beyond the pale of arrogance, and by now boys should already know that all traces of male ego must be deferred to the realm of vanilla life if they aspire to selfless service.

You would think that from my previous posts that I expect perfection, and in part that is accurate. The part that you are not privileged to behold is that the males who come to me upon bended knee do so in complete acceptance that they are like that of a blob of wet clay in my eyes. My hands,my rules,my desires,my training molds them into the shape of a boy who becomes the epitome of perfection to my perception. There will be imperfections within a raw product as expected, but with time and patience all of the rough edges will be smoothed away.

Know that when you are prostrate begging to be allowed into my divine presence that if your driving force is your pleasure,then you will be denied any further audience with me. Only those with the heart and soul of a slave would comprehend what it is that I find most pleasing in personality and demeanor, therefore if after a male has read my words,and has not a clue as to what I refer, then he is not meant to be mine. As always I hold hope that each shall find their way in service to a lady, I simply do not possess the time to lead them all along the path.