Findom in most regards has evolved into what I would compare to that of a roman gladiators arena where one must eat or be eaten to endure. In fighting, backstabbing, and shamefully shallow behavior dominates the image which is portrayed to the vision of outsiders peeking in, yet we question why it is that we are judged harshly. This is no quagmire to be solved, for it is transparently clear as to why the scene and those involved are despised. Dignity and class are attributes which have been pushed to the wayside in the ever elusive hunt for solvent prey.
Ask yourself this, do we present a united front to those whom fail to accept and comprehend this fetish we call our own,or do we appear as haughty desperate for cash eye candy free porn providers whom lack dignity self composure and class? It has always been stated that respect is earned not merely allotted to a title, meaning that our actions must be in accordance with those whom are deserving of respect.
Dominant women are individuals of emotional strength and mental acuity. Their worth is self defined. Their self respect unquestionable. Why is it then that we see females chasing down males for submission? This behavior is antipathetic towards what dominant women stand for. Why then do we see this on every site and media outlet which findom plays out on?
The answer is not a riddle for consider this scenario. If you were to starve a group of 20 human beings for the period of one month, then toss a single cheeseburger into their general vicinity, what would happen? A frenzy is sure to occur now is it not? Of course it is. Now turn your thought to the fact that every single day there are double digit females entering the findom scene hungry for the financial recompense in an arena where you are indeed fortunate to locate a single slave whom has the means to back his words. Are we not taught that "the early bird gets the worm" that the aggressor reaps the rewards,that the bold get noticed? This is exactly what we are seeing, and it is a known fact that conflict does not always evoke the most positive reactions now does it?
How then are we to eradicate the reputation our beloved fetish has been blackened with? Acting and speaking with dignity is a wonderful precursor towards erasing the associated negativity. Resist the impulse to chase down males, thereby placing yourself into the position of power. Never openly bash. It is both inappropriate and demeaning to all parties involved and last but not least, Yes you can be a take no shit Domina, while maintaining a classy approach.
Actually to answer the statement: starve a group of 20 human beings for the period of one month" you wouldn't need to throw a Cheeseburger in. They would start canalizing each other in some cases. That is actually what you are seeing in effect via the Toestepping and infighting. Not as drastic perhaps, but essentially the same thing.
ReplyDeleteTrying to turn on one another, because those who are not successful enough and are starving for money see no other way than to try to slaughter the competition. Does it work? Not in the long run. Some might get a sudden burst of income from it - mostly from guys who enjoy cat fights - but those of the submissive men who are looking for more, will not be drawn in.
Eventually those vultures will who are circling will find their own demise in turn.
Remember puppets - What goes around - comes around.