This piece is dedicated to you,and your sanity in this insane fetish foray.
Social media sites,and fetish forums are overflowing out the ends with females cramming themselves into the ever widening niche of findom.
Findom sounds like a fantasy land version of perfection created for the princess within all of us women. A land where males beg to pay for your existence in their life,and while this is in part factual,the overwhelming reality majority is way less than real.
New Ladies to the scene will find themselves under scrutiny,and face depressing discouragement quite quickly. Now please do not attempt to attribute this entirely to misplaced jealousy lobbed by fellow females,for that would be a mistake. Of course within any facet of society jealousy exists betwixt females,but I fear that it is the ruthless nature of competition that allows for what is viewed as jealousy.
Findom can be successfully equated to a competitive arena where you either slay or are slain. Imagine if you will 1000 females seeking out financially flush prey to enrich their financial base,but the crux being that only 50 males of such means are available. Now what do you think the logical outcome will be?
You will witness subterfuge,and dishonesty,because the mentality has been reduced to the point where you are positioned to crawl your way to the top, on the backs of your fellow females. Is this how you envisioned it to be,or did you expect to sashay into the scene an immediate smashing success? Findom has been portrayed in the media to be an easy way for women to make a buck at the expense of unknowing,unsuspecting beta males..shame on them for their lies!
The males who have dwelled within this scene for decades are anything but naive. They know the score just as well as you do,perhaps even a bit of upper hand is held by them,since they possess experience at it. Some even have adopted an abusive manner,to the point where they will ferret out newer ladies to prey upon their lack of experience,so please do educate yourself on how not to be a victim of the rampant misogyny lacing even this most precious form of acclaimed female led spheres.
Recognition must come to you that all females in findom possess physical attributes similar to your own ie a pussy,tits,ass,feet,legs etc...so please do not predicate your success upon them. Honestly after having seen thousands of unclothed female forms..it loses it's luster,so this means that you must use your most powerful sexual organ of deduction in order to succeed...your brain! An intelligent woman is a bigger threat to the wallets of males than mere beauty alone. Of course it helps if you are not appearing as if you just rolled out of the rubbish bin,but seriously,and with all honesty I relay to you that your appearance will only get you so far,so you best have a plan beyond it.
Your greatest asset in findom is your mind. You must be willing to research bdsm,and the psychology behind the fetishes if you want to stand a chance. Yes it will look to outsiders as if you are a predatory beast taking advantage of hapless males,but the key here is consent. The males here must consent to your treatment of them,and truly there is no legal way for you to force consent that is not willingly given.
You must learn as well how to play safely with beta males. Keep yourself safe in mind and body,but them as well. You become responsible for those that serve you,and that is a most serious matter to undertake. Take it seriously,and others will respect your position.
Develop a thick outer skin,and rely upon yourself for succor,cause whilst it may seem only natural to take your griefs to fellow femmes,they may in turn air them publicly if you piss them off. Be careful of whom you place your trust in,and even more careful as to whom you entrust with your personal life details.
Recognize that just about everything that can be done session/clip wise,has been done,so no you are not going to come up with this spectacular revolutionary breakthrough scene,but what you can do is to take the existing models,and spin them with a piece of yourself. Do not imitate others,for that is not being true to you,and being true to you is priceless. Along those lines..never do what you do not want to do in a scene or session. Set your own limits first,and respect them just as you would the limits of those you play with.
Most important is self care. If you find yourself drowning in this sphere,love yourself enough to step back and reassess your commitment to it. Always have your own interests at heart,for you will find that others do not give a fig for your feelings,wants,or desires. You must look to yourself for this,so do not feel ashamed for looking out for yourself!
Your success or failure hinges upon you,so face this findom realm with that uppermost in mind. Best of luck to you my fellow femmes :)
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