Squash The Misogynistic Blame And Shame Game

 

 

    If you have been a member of social media longer than a hot minute, you will have at one point or another ran into conversations or notations concerning a site called Only Fans. I myself am not a member of the site, nor have I ever even browsed their site, but millions of people have, and do on the daily. It is a very successful website, that commands traffic like nobody's business. 

   What makes this site successful, you ask? They sell a product which is almost older than time itself. SEX. Sex has always sold, and sex will always sell. There will be no stopping the revenue stream sex enables. Is this a bad thing? Some would argue so, whilst others would demand it continue as their right to pursue happiness. I will not muddy the waters with my own two cents as my purpose is to make you think, rather than telling you what to think.

   The website is comprised of independent artists who sell their wares, while the parent company enriches itself with a percentage of the profit. Capitalism at work my friends. Is this exploitation of a vulnerable class, or merely a symbiotically successful business venture? The artists who employ this site as a means of product distribution are noted to do so as consenting adults. This means that no one is forcing them to join, display, or sell their items on the site, which is good yes?  This does not mean that some of the content creators have not been "forced" down this avenue out of desperation for means of survival, yet this remains a choice they themselves have made to ensure continued housing, and negate physical hunger. 

   The majority of creators are of the female persuasion. Why do you think that is? Could it be due to the customer base being comprised of majority males? History has shown us that men are willing to pay for sex and pleasure in one form or another. This has always been true, and always will be true. 

   I am reserving judgement here, but many aren't. In fact, quite a few are very vocal in regards to their distaste, disdain, and downright hatred of sites such as these. The most vehement critics I have taken note of, are male. Not to say that some women are not anti-porn peddlers, they are, but men are more vocal about their dislike. What is it about these sites that make a minority slice of men angry?

   Who are these men? I am going to break it down to the reasoning voiced for the disturbance of the existence of said sites as a classifier. 1)It is immoral 2)It is indecent 3)It is a stain upon society 4)Women are whores 5)It is exploitation 6)It encourages and abets human trafficking 7)You shouldn't have to pay for porn, or feminine attention. Do you agree with any of these opinions? 

   The outrage is real, folks. The focal point of the outrage is what bothers me though. Where is the focus spotlighted? Women. Women are the beings who bear the blame and shame. Look back to reason #4. Women are accused of taking advantage of lonely depressed males who do not have, or are not capable of forming "normal" intimate relationships with the opposite sex, which leads them to sites where women are readily available to fulfill their erotic fantasies, and provide them with a feeling of the intimacy they lack in real life. 

   Men make a choice to visit these sites. They make a decision to spend their money on them as well. Who are we to declare these men victims, when they themselves have opted to walk this path? As well, what right do we have to blame women for selling these men a product that they obviously desire? Companies sell their products online daily, and no one complains, but since they are not selling sexual images, it is ok, right?  Earning a living is what we as human beings have been indoctrinated to do, yet if it is done so in a proscribed manner (even if legal), than it is condemned, and the sellers scorned.

   The entirety of my issue with this conflict, is that women are being blamed and shamed, yet if men were not willing to purchase the content, then there would be no sellers. Supply and demand is very much the root origination of the sex work industry, so why are men not bearing the brunt of blame, when they are the ones enabling the continuation of women producing content?

  Thoughts, and opinions always welcomed.

 

Anger is useless in the face of facts

Good Morning to all of you wonderful people who have found your way here to my slice of fetish spice :)

I read a tweet this morning (if you care to see it, you can search up my response to it) that I really feel needs to be addressed in depth, so let's go there shall we :)

Clip sites. Know them? Have you ever checked one out? Most of you probably have. What stands out about the featured front page models? 

1)They are young
2)They are white
3)They are thin to fit
4)They are amply endowed in breast tissue

Is there a reason why this specific type is promoted heavily? Yes. Clip sites are a business, and big money making ones at that. They are successful for a reason. They are heavily invested in knowing the demographics of their customers, and their buying habits.

They have crunched the numbers over and over, along with recognizing the patterns of sales. They know which types of clips are best sellers, and which clip artists bring home the bacon to their table so to speak. Their business modal's success depends on them obtaining this information, and employing it to their benefit. 

The mindset of clip sites is not personal. It is business, and the bottom line is revenue. They exist to make money, so it only makes sense that they are going to promote the hell out of the clip artists who insure the company's continuing financial future. 

Is this fair to the women who do not meet the defined criteria...hell to the no, but it is what it is, and you nor I are going to change that anytime soon. Do you know why? Men are the target market, which means that they in essence are the deciding factor in who gets to be the artist featured front page, and the the type of female I outlined, is the one who the majority of men are attracted to. It is no inside secret that men are ruled by their cocks, so is it really so very shocking to see their physically ideal woman as the main page visual attraction? 

Does this conclude that women who do not fit the mold cannot find financial success in selling clips, NO, but it does indicate that they will have to work harder to promote themselves. This is where social media outlets come into play. They will be your playground. A place where you control what you share, and who you promote in your personal space. 

Social media accords you the ability to showcase your personality, and unique style. Take advantage of the opportunity!  You are the virtual star of your account, so embrace it and shine bright like a diamond :)  

In conclusion, what I am trying to convey is that allowing yourself to become angered due to what you declare unfair practice is only going to affect you. Clip sites are not going to rock the money boat for you or me. They are going to stick with what sells, and whether you or I like it, that is the way it is.