Scams, frauds, liars & losers

 

Welcome back Queens & Princesses, pervs, and peons

 

Today we are going to revisit the who will, and who wont's when it comes to paying financial tribute. 

Have you noticed the abundance of new names, and new faces in the findom field? I imagine that you have. Kinda hard to miss eh? Now most of us are aware that males have a proclivity towards changing names, avis, accounts, etc when they need to cover their dubious non-debt paying past behaviors. I mean, it gets rather difficult to successfully dangle carrots in front of a Domme's face when the entire community knows you for the scammer you are. 

I have noted tons of newer Ladies making the rounds with complaints of being scammed. This is unfortunately a never ending cycle for "newbies", as they have yet to have learned how best to avoid ever having their time put to less than optimal use when surfing for sugar pot submissives. That all changes today! I am going to share with you a tip which will change your interactions, save you time, effort, and headaches.  

STOP TALKING TO MALES WHO HAVE NOT PAID YOU!!!

That is the secret, and the winning strategy. 

Scammers employ all types of tricks to get you to waste some of your precious time on them. Such as

1)Real Dommes do not charge (shame game countered with "If you were a real submissive, you would pay before approaching")

2) If you really loved dominating men, you would do it for free (no sane person works for free, and yes domination is work)

3) I need to get to know you before I pay you (blah blah blah BS, they can take the time to read your TL, and see your interactions for that)

4) All you care about is the money (hint: It really is about the money)

5) I need a pic or vid to prove that you are real before I pay (ha ha ha never give away free content...you should have plenty of free pics up on social media to begin with)

6)  I am going to get paid, have money coming, yada yada, will pay you when I get it (that day NEVER arrives)

7) I sent you a gift from your WL, sent you a gc, bought a clip etc....(never play with any male until you can verify that they have parted with funds for your time)

I have been around this block for a long time, and I tell you now with all sincerity, I have never, and yes I mean never ever, had any male serve me for any length of time, that has not tributed up front. "Good boys" will ALWAYS tribute without being asked, forced, or coerced. They do so, because they recognize your superiority, and crave your acceptance & happiness above boner gratification. 

They want to contribute to your life in a meaningful way, and let's be honest here, money does make the world go round. Without money, life is a study in misery, so you tell me why you would spend a single moment of your precious time on a male who wants you to be miserable? 

Look at it logically, such as from a business standpoint. You have a minimal amount of product (your time), which means that your focus needs to be upon maximizing a return on your investment (your time), else you will be out of business sooner rather than later, once again miserable. Ladies who spend all of their time chasing the ganders which lay no eggs, end up burnt out, and broke. Is that the way you would like your story written? If not, then heed my advice

STOP TALKING TO MALES WHO HAVE NOT PAID YOU!!!

Squash The Misogynistic Blame And Shame Game

 

 

    If you have been a member of social media longer than a hot minute, you will have at one point or another ran into conversations or notations concerning a site called Only Fans. I myself am not a member of the site, nor have I ever even browsed their site, but millions of people have, and do on the daily. It is a very successful website, that commands traffic like nobody's business. 

   What makes this site successful, you ask? They sell a product which is almost older than time itself. SEX. Sex has always sold, and sex will always sell. There will be no stopping the revenue stream sex enables. Is this a bad thing? Some would argue so, whilst others would demand it continue as their right to pursue happiness. I will not muddy the waters with my own two cents as my purpose is to make you think, rather than telling you what to think.

   The website is comprised of independent artists who sell their wares, while the parent company enriches itself with a percentage of the profit. Capitalism at work my friends. Is this exploitation of a vulnerable class, or merely a symbiotically successful business venture? The artists who employ this site as a means of product distribution are noted to do so as consenting adults. This means that no one is forcing them to join, display, or sell their items on the site, which is good yes?  This does not mean that some of the content creators have not been "forced" down this avenue out of desperation for means of survival, yet this remains a choice they themselves have made to ensure continued housing, and negate physical hunger. 

   The majority of creators are of the female persuasion. Why do you think that is? Could it be due to the customer base being comprised of majority males? History has shown us that men are willing to pay for sex and pleasure in one form or another. This has always been true, and always will be true. 

   I am reserving judgement here, but many aren't. In fact, quite a few are very vocal in regards to their distaste, disdain, and downright hatred of sites such as these. The most vehement critics I have taken note of, are male. Not to say that some women are not anti-porn peddlers, they are, but men are more vocal about their dislike. What is it about these sites that make a minority slice of men angry?

   Who are these men? I am going to break it down to the reasoning voiced for the disturbance of the existence of said sites as a classifier. 1)It is immoral 2)It is indecent 3)It is a stain upon society 4)Women are whores 5)It is exploitation 6)It encourages and abets human trafficking 7)You shouldn't have to pay for porn, or feminine attention. Do you agree with any of these opinions? 

   The outrage is real, folks. The focal point of the outrage is what bothers me though. Where is the focus spotlighted? Women. Women are the beings who bear the blame and shame. Look back to reason #4. Women are accused of taking advantage of lonely depressed males who do not have, or are not capable of forming "normal" intimate relationships with the opposite sex, which leads them to sites where women are readily available to fulfill their erotic fantasies, and provide them with a feeling of the intimacy they lack in real life. 

   Men make a choice to visit these sites. They make a decision to spend their money on them as well. Who are we to declare these men victims, when they themselves have opted to walk this path? As well, what right do we have to blame women for selling these men a product that they obviously desire? Companies sell their products online daily, and no one complains, but since they are not selling sexual images, it is ok, right?  Earning a living is what we as human beings have been indoctrinated to do, yet if it is done so in a proscribed manner (even if legal), than it is condemned, and the sellers scorned.

   The entirety of my issue with this conflict, is that women are being blamed and shamed, yet if men were not willing to purchase the content, then there would be no sellers. Supply and demand is very much the root origination of the sex work industry, so why are men not bearing the brunt of blame, when they are the ones enabling the continuation of women producing content?

  Thoughts, and opinions always welcomed.

 

What do men really want?

 

 I am here to give you the unvarnished truth, as to what men really want. Some of you may be in doubt as to how would I know what men really want considering that I am not a man, nor am I am masculine leaning woman, but I do have decades of interacting with men on a more than superficial level, and yes I am dating myself by stating this.

Most of us are guilty of buying into the prevalent myth of men valuing sex above all things. I am not denying that sex is high on the list for men, but it does not rank the highest. You might even be surprised as to what does stand atop the pinnacle. Ready?

Intimacy of interaction: Men want an intimate connection, just as badly as women do, and no this does not make them weak, or Lord forbid, unmanly. It merely makes them human. Human beings need connections. They need to be heard, seen, and valued. They want a woman who will acknowledge their existence on an emotional level.

No doubt you have been told that men are rough, tough, and need no one to stand by them, but that is a lie. Of course it is not a bad thing to be rough, tough, and stoic in the face of adversity, but in the end, men are human beings, with human needs. They possess a desire to be validated for their opinions, dreams, and desires. The most basic of which, is someone who will listen to them. A person who will allow them to crack their shell, and let out their vulnerabilities. 

As a woman, I have never been shamed for wanting, nay, needing a deeper connection with a fellow human being. I have always been free to express my innermost thoughts, doubts, and fears without being mocked, or labeled weak for doing so. This is what men want most of all. They want someone they can freely be open with. Imagine living your entire life never being able to be fully yourself. Having to hide your emotions from the world. Sound like a fulfilling life to you?

Not having this avenue open to men, leads them down a dead end path. This is why you see so many men reaching out with their penis, rather than with emotional intellect. Sad yes? I for one am full up with compassion for these men. They have been misled from the onset, then as further insult, they have been molded into a caricature of unhealthy manhood. They deserve better than they have received. Trying to convince them to veer from this course is the greatest of obstacles to be overcome though. Are you up to the challenge?

Time Managament In Relation To Relationships

 Whether you are new here, or a faithful follower, welcome to my personal slice of the web sphere.

 

 

 Life is a busy venture these days. From the mailman to the fortune 500 CEO, life's schedule never seems to just take a moment to breathe. It is a go go go world. So much to see, so much to do, and the hours in a day fail to provide adequate time to get your to do list completed as it is. Most days you find yourself to be the proverbial dog chasing it's own tail, having it in sight, but never grasping it, and always worn out from trying.

 Is it any wonder that people are short-tempered with a priority focus upon self these days? Their worlds narrowed down to a single sphere of influence. Understandably even the most evenly keeled being eventually devolves into a frazzled burnt out mess when piled under the weight of life's responsibilities. You are not alone facing this issue. People from all walks of life undergo this struggle each and every day.

What is surprising is the relationship most often relegated to the "pay attention to later" box, is personal relationships of the most intimate nature. You naturally expect that the people who matter the most to you will be content to wait for you to spare some of your priceless time to share with them. I mean, surely they understand just how busy your life is, right? This is a major mistake on your part. 

The people that we are closest to, need our attention more than any other in our lives. They deserve to be recognized, and treated as of importance. They should not be made to suffer your neglect, simply because you have not learned to manage your time wisely. Time management is more important than you realize, and more costly if you fail to  learn it.

Managing your time wisely, allows for you to spend more quality time with those who matter the most. Never assume that others are putting their lives on hold to wait for you to notice them. Neglect has been the downfall of many a relationship. Don't lose out due to what could have been avoided. Regrets leave a lifelong foul taste in one's mouth.

Did you know that it takes less than a single minute to send a text message? Were you aware that it takes approximately the same amount of time to send a pm/dm on social media, or post to facebook? It might even cost you an entire 2 minutes to type up an email. The point being, that it requires minimal effort, and time to show someone that they matter to you, and that you were thinking of them. Do you have 2 spare minutes within your 24 hour day? Don't fib either. 

A mere 2 minutes to make a connection. How easy is that?  Do it during your bathroom break if you have to, but just do it. Don't be the dud who ends up alone and miserable with nothing but broken and severed connections because you chose everything else over developing and securing your intimate relationships. What a miserable life that would be.

Intellectually we all know that our parents will not be around the entirety of our lives, that friends will relocate, and even the most dedicated partner will divorce themselves from you if you fail to put continued effort into the relationship, so look hard, and find that 2 minutes. I promise that you will not regret it!