let the chase begin

As the title suggests I am going to talk about chasing. What exactly is chasing when it comes to the findom fetish,why it occurs at times,and possible long term effects from chasing.

Chasing in my opinion is when a female is going after males,any male maybe even every male. They besiege them with messages,some even with a tone that would not be considered dominant at all. Waiting for a servant to approach is bypassed altogether.

This goes on for a few possible reasons. a)Someone is desperate for money,which leads them to seek out any and all possibilities of receiving it,therefore they will jump into any inbox. b)Insecurities: One needs to hear from all that they are the best,so they will actively seek out their fix. c)Sheer competitiveness:Generally I think of this behavior when it comes to males,but I have and do see it playing a role in findom today. It appears that a mindset of "I must have the most sycophants,the most tributes to brag about,my collar on the most males"

Taking into consideration the state of the male ego and entitlement which runs rampant in society as a whole,how does chasing create lasting effects? To begin with,it provides males with an overwhelming sense of worth and inflated ego,for surely they must be special if all these women are chasing after them,I mean seriously think about it. For instance consider the average male,he makes mediocre pay,well hopefully enough to pay his bills,with unremarkable attractiveness physically,and the personality of an inert rock,BUT he can log into a findom site,or forum,and suddenly he is pursued like a movie star. His inbox is full of females wanting to own him,to have him serve them,so really is it all that surprising that he begins to think that he is THE SHIT? How will this teach him to treat femdoms,much less women in general? Do you think that it empowers them in his viewpoint,or does it further entrench patriarchal teachings?

I will say this. I know what it is to have,and what it is to have not,so please do not consider that I hold myself above other women,for I do NOT. I have put in long hours of hard work professionally to get where I am(and no findom is not my job),to feel secure financially,so yes I do comprehend what it is to need money,but if it comes at the cost of self respect,then is it worth it? For some the answer may be yes,and to you I say,do what you gotta do,but always be aware that your actions do affect others. What you do online is seen by others,and to those looking in from the outside of the findom scope,yours may be the only basis they form their opinion upon,so they will paint all with the brush you have shown them.

If insecurities ride you into the chase,why is that? Who has made you feel less than awesome? If you seek your validation externally,you are ALWAYS going to be disappointed. Knowing your worth comes from knowing that you are worthy :) so by God look into your mirror and see the beauty reflected,peer into your soul and praise yourself,embrace that mind of yours,and know that you are smart,and that you do not need anyone else to tell you what you yourself already know.

If a sense of competition is what drives you,I ask you to consider why it does. Who is it that has conditioned females to believe that they must be the prettiest,the smartest,the best at everything to be worthy...men of course,and do you truly want men controlling your actions,even on a subconscious level? Does that sound like feminine empowerment to you? If you would apply that drive to uplifting other women,you just might find yourself making a difference towards how women are viewed and treated in society,and that is the most profound impact upon the future we can hope for as strong confident women.

My intentions for this post are not to bust male ass or ego(well not all of them anyway),but rather to point out that we as women do not need to chase males. They will come to you,if you just let them. If you show them by your words and deeds that service to you is the "prize",the "reward",and by making them actually work for it,then they will esteem you all the more.

Misunderstood and maligned

Findom,findom,findom...what is this fetish? That is me putting it kindly,for many from the outside looking in do not even deem findom a fetish at all. They claim it to be a scam where money hungry women prey upon hapless and helpless forlorn for attention little male souls. What they fail to do is actually delve far enough into the scene to see exactly what occurs though.

There is more than one type of male present in the findom realm. First we have the "player",now the player is out to get a nut off. He will finesse and finagle,barge and bulldoze,even lie his way into the inboxes of any female he sees,hoping for just a few precious seconds to bust out his weeny. Does this sound like a male who is being taken advantage of...surely not. He is more like a greedy gutless wonder of nature. Kinda difficult to take advantage of someone who is so focused on their own sexual gratification that they cannot have a care for the wants of others presiding over their own. Oh and just in case you did not notice,some of these types even mask themselves as male doms. Ever see the profiles of males claiming to be dominant whose only dialogue is about females getting them off? Yup them. To them bdsm is ALL about sex,and having their sexual wants met. Hmm who is using who there?? Some of you should don your capes and rescue those poor souls being used in such a manner.

Next we visit needy nellie..now nellie just might be the one who needs the aid of those who sympathize with what they call "victims". nellie is a black hole of need,someone,anyone pay attention to me. I don't care if it is good or bad,just lemme leech some of your time,cause my need is paramount to anything else in your life. I will message you 50 times a day,even if you do not respond,and lord help you if you do,cause I talk more than long lost friends gossiping on the phone. Secretly I need a kick in the ass,cause I never outgrew that phase of childhood where the whole world revolved around me...so please please please,rescue me!

Onto slutty sam. Hey hey I am mister fun guy. I am the life of the party. I cannot commit for one reason or another,so I flit from box to box,smelling the lovely aroma of all the beautiful belles of findom. I am generally a nice guy,and do indeed pay for the time and attention I receive,so I bring no harm,unless you get it into your head that I will stick around longer than it takes the sun to set upon a new day. sam needs the aid of no one,for eventually he will find the box where he finally settles down. He just wants to have some fun along the way,and definitely does not require a hero swooping down and carrying him far away from the evil schemes of cash grubbers.

The last type I am going to speak about(not that there is not more types though,just that my fingers are cramping :) is george the gent. Now george is a male who sees what it means to serve. He cannot conceive of a complete life that does not include being of service to a woman. He knows that he was born for such,and embraces it fully in a healthy manner. He craves only to please,and does so by gifting a woman with his finances. He has no qualms about ensuring that the Lady he has chosen to serve receives his best,and spending his excess of cash upon her is his way of contributing to her life in a positive manner. Wow he must need help. How dare women persuade and con males such as george into thinking that he is not born by his sex into the entitlement of a woman's attention just for the fact that he possesses a male member in his pants. How horrid is she to believe that her time is valuable,and should only be spent with those that truly appreciate it!! You best call out the bdsm police on her.

In conclusion I am NOT stating that there are not some women in the scene that do take advantage of males,or push beyond limits,but they are not the norm,so by painting all with the same brush,you are in essence displaying your own ignorance of the reality of findom...and who truly wants the world to know that they are lacking in intellect hmmmm?

I checked my list twice

Those of you that did nothing to enrich my Christmas...well you can visit someplace warm..cause any male that had been speaking with me before the holiday and did not send a gift is now banned from my divine attention! I have zero tolerance for selfish sots period. A male's duty is to please,and you FAILED..which means you meet the definition of a loser,sorry not sorry to see you go :)

Oh and thank you to those that employed their wallets to ensure my happiness on Christmas morn,you will surely be blessed to continue providing for my wants,lucky little bitches aren't you lol.

Moving along. I have been keeping a very close eye on where my time is best spent,and with that said,new males are going to have put extra effort into gaining my attention since I am backing away from sites and venues which serve no purpose for me. It is only logical that I focus my precious time where it is most appreciated.

Now since I have your attention,aren't these new socks from my brat too cute

Unfortunately it poured buckets and buckets of rain here all day,so my new mattress set was not delivered,and that is NOT making me happy,but you can change that by sending me lots and lots of amazon gift cards :) Now get to it!! I want to wake and shop all morning,so sign into your amazon account and send to mzsydney34@yahoo.com


DON'T ASK WHY,JUST DO AS YOU ARE TOLD LIKE A GOOD BOY

brat boy stepping up

Spending my day relaxing ahhhhh

Had a wonderful time last night with my brat boy shopping! he bought me a new mattress set for Christmas(won't be delivered til Saturday though :()
Along with a few amazon gift cards..he definitely made me a happy Goddess!

Now it is your turn to step up,what are YOU going to do to make my Christmas a happy one??

Why isn't your face beneath my foot

Crawl for me,and beg to smell the aroma of my sweat soaked feet!

Hmm seems like you forgot something...oh yes get those Christmas gifts of gratitude to me now. I want to see my inbox flooded with amazon gift cards.

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I WANT GIFTS!!

Make the season sparkle with amazon gift cards at my decadent feet

It is your job to supply the gifts under my Christmas tree

Keep my feet happy with lots of gifts