let the chase begin

As the title suggests I am going to talk about chasing. What exactly is chasing when it comes to the findom fetish,why it occurs at times,and possible long term effects from chasing.

Chasing in my opinion is when a female is going after males,any male maybe even every male. They besiege them with messages,some even with a tone that would not be considered dominant at all. Waiting for a servant to approach is bypassed altogether.

This goes on for a few possible reasons. a)Someone is desperate for money,which leads them to seek out any and all possibilities of receiving it,therefore they will jump into any inbox. b)Insecurities: One needs to hear from all that they are the best,so they will actively seek out their fix. c)Sheer competitiveness:Generally I think of this behavior when it comes to males,but I have and do see it playing a role in findom today. It appears that a mindset of "I must have the most sycophants,the most tributes to brag about,my collar on the most males"

Taking into consideration the state of the male ego and entitlement which runs rampant in society as a whole,how does chasing create lasting effects? To begin with,it provides males with an overwhelming sense of worth and inflated ego,for surely they must be special if all these women are chasing after them,I mean seriously think about it. For instance consider the average male,he makes mediocre pay,well hopefully enough to pay his bills,with unremarkable attractiveness physically,and the personality of an inert rock,BUT he can log into a findom site,or forum,and suddenly he is pursued like a movie star. His inbox is full of females wanting to own him,to have him serve them,so really is it all that surprising that he begins to think that he is THE SHIT? How will this teach him to treat femdoms,much less women in general? Do you think that it empowers them in his viewpoint,or does it further entrench patriarchal teachings?

I will say this. I know what it is to have,and what it is to have not,so please do not consider that I hold myself above other women,for I do NOT. I have put in long hours of hard work professionally to get where I am(and no findom is not my job),to feel secure financially,so yes I do comprehend what it is to need money,but if it comes at the cost of self respect,then is it worth it? For some the answer may be yes,and to you I say,do what you gotta do,but always be aware that your actions do affect others. What you do online is seen by others,and to those looking in from the outside of the findom scope,yours may be the only basis they form their opinion upon,so they will paint all with the brush you have shown them.

If insecurities ride you into the chase,why is that? Who has made you feel less than awesome? If you seek your validation externally,you are ALWAYS going to be disappointed. Knowing your worth comes from knowing that you are worthy :) so by God look into your mirror and see the beauty reflected,peer into your soul and praise yourself,embrace that mind of yours,and know that you are smart,and that you do not need anyone else to tell you what you yourself already know.

If a sense of competition is what drives you,I ask you to consider why it does. Who is it that has conditioned females to believe that they must be the prettiest,the smartest,the best at everything to be worthy...men of course,and do you truly want men controlling your actions,even on a subconscious level? Does that sound like feminine empowerment to you? If you would apply that drive to uplifting other women,you just might find yourself making a difference towards how women are viewed and treated in society,and that is the most profound impact upon the future we can hope for as strong confident women.

My intentions for this post are not to bust male ass or ego(well not all of them anyway),but rather to point out that we as women do not need to chase males. They will come to you,if you just let them. If you show them by your words and deeds that service to you is the "prize",the "reward",and by making them actually work for it,then they will esteem you all the more.