The forgotten virtue.

Patience. Why is it sadly lacking in most individuals, and how does this affect a successful D's relationship?

My thoughts are that as we have evolved into an instant gratification society, we have put to the side of the road the virtues which fail to satisfy the entire "what I want,when I want it, and how I want it" mentality. This approach reminds me of how a child would think and react. A young child has yet to develop patience therefore they expect to receive what they desire when they desire it, else wise they are known to act out in a tantrum...does this behavior remind you of any adult individuals you have interacted with within the scene?

This occurs on both sides of the findom fence everyday. Look to the males who want to rush through the entire process of being considered and trained, right to the collaring phase. Fortunately for these boys, most experienced ladies recognize when a male is experiencing sub frenzy, and take the necessary steps to slow their roll. If not then a sub would miss out on the fulfillment of earning the title of being owned. Working and putting forth effort towards reaching a goal heightens the appreciation of reaching it. Just having it given to you detracts pleasure from the experience, so heed my advice to take the time to smell the roses along the way boys. Following the measured lead of your lady will enlighten you as to how service should be to her, and this will shape you into a sub worth collaring.

Onto the other side of the fence. Daily I see ladies claiming ownership of a male the very day they meet and receive an initial tribute, which eventually if not sooner than later leads them to disappointment when they realize that the male in question does not align with their views on how a submissive should behave. This creates an unnecessary strain which most times places both in an unenviable position, where each side suffers through a negative experience. If only patience had been employed by placing the boy under a consideration instead , then a period of coming to know each other would have turned the negative into a positive, so you see, rushing through all things is not always the most prudent route. You never know what you may miss out on if you had only taken the time to get to know those that serve you.