Who are you here for?

Every male in the bdsm scene should ask himself this simple question,who are you here for? It's answer will tell him exactly where he needs to go,but I think that many of you do not pose that query internally. No doubt that a great many of you are new to the scene,and possess no idea of even the basic principles or practices,much less the definition of all the varied fetishes. It is ok to be new,and none should fault you for your interest,so long as you remain respectful in any inquiries you initiate.

Have you ventured in to sate your own desires(it's all about you),and yes that includes serving your penis. Example of what it means to serve your penis=looking for people to get your rocks off(that is self-serving,not submissive) You should not,I repeat should not be seeking out those that expect or demand to be served,you are not for them,and will only waste theirs' and your time. You fit more into the category of a fetishist or perhaps a bottom topper,maybe even a client/customer,so your best course of action is to seek out a service provider(online or in a dungeon),either to purchase a paid session or a cam site where you buy time with a female who will provide for your wants. If you cannot afford or refuse to pay much out of pocket to have your wishes granted,then you can find your way to clip sites customs4u  and iwantclips or phone sex operations niteflirt.This way everyone is satisfied :) **Note:if you are not willing to pay anything,I mean a big fat zero to spew your pecker puke,then you are better off cruising the net for free porn(vine or tumblr won't virus sweep your pc),and stay far away from the bdsm scene**

If you are here to find one to devote your life to,then you will find yourself most welcome with many. Some things that you need to pay attention to are,1)Is it a lifestyle Lady you are hoping to connect with? One where you engage in the lifestyle 24/7,live in,or even eventually marry.
2)Is your life complicated with commitments which deter you from full time service? Always be honest if so. 3)Are you just looking for someone to serve every once in awhile? 4)Are you unable or unwilling to commit to serving a single Lady,and prefer to "slut" around? Sites for you to check into for possible matches are fetlife or collarspace

Now if you happen into my neck of the woods,well then you are in findom country. You may be asking what the crack is findom country lol..well that simply means that you have journeyed into a place where you display your devotion and dedication with your willingness to see to the material comforts of your chosen Lady. It takes a special type of submissive to serve financially,for serving in such a manner is pure servitude. It is a power exchange unlike any other. Money is power in today's world,so to part with it is more meaningful than laying your ass on the line for a whipping. You are giving in a way that impacts your everyday life beyond that of a sore ass,and what a beautiful sacrifice it is. It is not the vulgar crass objectification those who lack understanding would deem it to be. It is life changing. It is focusing your energy on the happiness of another. A selfless giving. To me,that is what submission is meant to be. Submission is not about getting what you want as a submissive(that is a fetishist mentality),rather it is about providing for another's desires period. Sites to check into for possible matches include findoms and elite financial domination

If you are one that cannot grasp the concept of selfless giving,then I advise you to avoid findom all together. Some may say,well how do I know if a Lady is into findom?  DO YOUR RESEARCH!