Tuesday, September 19, 2017
Saturday, September 16, 2017
Friday, September 15, 2017
Dominance is not a super power
Welcome gents...
By now I have no doubt that you have all been told that in order for a dominant to be in control of a submissive they must first be in control of themselves,for if not,than they will not be able to responsibly be in control of another. It makes absolute sense yes? Of course it does.
It is a huge responsibility to take on the training,consideration,and eventual ownership of a submissive or slave,so if your own life as a dominant is in shambles,you need to sort yourself first and foremost prior to taking on that type of role. I am in full accord with this general consensus,for if your mind is divided,you cannot ensure that safety will not be compromised.
Here is a flip of the coin that does not garner as much attention,and truly it should. If you as a submissive or slave do not have your shit together,you do not belong either. There are some seriously unrealistic hopes and expectations placed upon dominants in bdsm.
Dominants are not
By now I have no doubt that you have all been told that in order for a dominant to be in control of a submissive they must first be in control of themselves,for if not,than they will not be able to responsibly be in control of another. It makes absolute sense yes? Of course it does.
It is a huge responsibility to take on the training,consideration,and eventual ownership of a submissive or slave,so if your own life as a dominant is in shambles,you need to sort yourself first and foremost prior to taking on that type of role. I am in full accord with this general consensus,for if your mind is divided,you cannot ensure that safety will not be compromised.
Here is a flip of the coin that does not garner as much attention,and truly it should. If you as a submissive or slave do not have your shit together,you do not belong either. There are some seriously unrealistic hopes and expectations placed upon dominants in bdsm.
Dominants are not
- licensed therapists(of course there are exceptions to that statement,but most of us are not equipped to treat and cure mental illness)
- knights on white steeds(we are human beings,not saviors,nor superheros)
- genies in a Domme bottle(we cannot be responsible for granting your every wish..that is your responsibility as a submissive..within reason of course)
- fairy godmothers who wave a magic wand to fix your life
- fetish dispensers who have no life outside of kink
- nymphomaniacs looking to fuck every possible person labeling themselves as a submissive
Thursday, September 14, 2017
Training for submissive service
Greetings gents an ghouls...
Do you know what mentoring is?
Mentoring is the same as training,and in many cases I have been asked to mentor both males and females in the findom scene.
I have always stated that I do not mentor fellow females..not because I do not want to see them succeed,but rather due to the lack of free time I possess towards doing so. Mentoring is time consuming,especially if you want to do it correctly,and I being the perfectionist I am,refuse to half ass anything,so that means that I cannot offer mentoring to my fellow Femmes,but I do post plenty of educational blogs and tweets in an effort to aid others who are just starting along the path of findom.
In regards to mentoring males aka slave training..yes I do offer training,but it is confined to those that are intent upon serving me. This means that I am not about to take time from my life to train males who are not going to be serving me. Sounds selfish? Tough! There is no incentive for me personally to train any male who is just going to apply that knowledge towards serving someone else. That would be counter-productive towards my own goals.
No matter what you may assume,I am not a walking talking bdsm protocol and terminology britannica. If you are looking for someone to explain bdsm,femdom,or findom to you,than I suggest google. Google has plenty of time,and willingly shares all of the knowledge it possesses freely. I on the other hand am not google,so if spending time with you answering questions does not benefit me,than I will take a hard pass on the opportunity.
I realize that alot of you males are new to the entire bdsm scene,so of course you have questions,but that is where research separates the wheat from the chaff. If you are not willing to invest your time seeking out answers,why should anyone else expend their energy spoon feeding them to you for free?
Fetlife is an awesome place for you newbies to gather nuggets of golden information. Use it! Not to mention that it is a free site,so you do not even have to pay for your education,which should appeal to all of you "paying cheapens the experience" males. Soak up all of the knowledge you can,then you will be prepared to be trained as how to serve a specific Domme since the basics have already been instilled in you.
The only training/mentoring any Domme can give you is the type that suits her personally. What I mean by this,is that I train males to serve my needs,my wants,my expectations,my requirements,and that may not be anywhere near what another Domme requires in a male who serves her,so it doesn't make any sense for me to train a male who is not serving me. Capisci?
Now go get your thinking cap on,and become the sponge in a sea of knowledge :)
Do you know what mentoring is?
I have always stated that I do not mentor fellow females..not because I do not want to see them succeed,but rather due to the lack of free time I possess towards doing so. Mentoring is time consuming,especially if you want to do it correctly,and I being the perfectionist I am,refuse to half ass anything,so that means that I cannot offer mentoring to my fellow Femmes,but I do post plenty of educational blogs and tweets in an effort to aid others who are just starting along the path of findom.
In regards to mentoring males aka slave training..yes I do offer training,but it is confined to those that are intent upon serving me. This means that I am not about to take time from my life to train males who are not going to be serving me. Sounds selfish? Tough! There is no incentive for me personally to train any male who is just going to apply that knowledge towards serving someone else. That would be counter-productive towards my own goals.
No matter what you may assume,I am not a walking talking bdsm protocol and terminology britannica. If you are looking for someone to explain bdsm,femdom,or findom to you,than I suggest google. Google has plenty of time,and willingly shares all of the knowledge it possesses freely. I on the other hand am not google,so if spending time with you answering questions does not benefit me,than I will take a hard pass on the opportunity.
I realize that alot of you males are new to the entire bdsm scene,so of course you have questions,but that is where research separates the wheat from the chaff. If you are not willing to invest your time seeking out answers,why should anyone else expend their energy spoon feeding them to you for free?
Fetlife is an awesome place for you newbies to gather nuggets of golden information. Use it! Not to mention that it is a free site,so you do not even have to pay for your education,which should appeal to all of you "paying cheapens the experience" males. Soak up all of the knowledge you can,then you will be prepared to be trained as how to serve a specific Domme since the basics have already been instilled in you.
The only training/mentoring any Domme can give you is the type that suits her personally. What I mean by this,is that I train males to serve my needs,my wants,my expectations,my requirements,and that may not be anywhere near what another Domme requires in a male who serves her,so it doesn't make any sense for me to train a male who is not serving me. Capisci?
Now go get your thinking cap on,and become the sponge in a sea of knowledge :)
Selfish misogynist or selfless submissive
Findom haters I see you out there. No matter how hard you try to blend in,you stand out. Most of you are not only findom haters,but psychologically closeted misogynists. The two go hand in hand..in fact the misogyny is a catalyst for the hate of FinDommes.
The majority of you have no concept of what findom actually is,but you hate it on principle alone. I mean why should you be giving the money you work hard for to some woman who ain't doing shit for you..in fact she should be doing for you just because you are a man,and that means that she is lucky to even get your attention. You know that she should be appreciative of any man wanting to get with her,and should be jumping at the opportunity to fulfill your desires. Isn't that women were created to do...serve the wants of men?
This is the mindset most of you embody. You believe that being born male entitles you to the privilege of a woman's time,and if a woman will not give it willingly,then you will resort to trickery,insults,or force to get it. My last statement is why women do not like you,much less want to spend any time with or on you.
Welcome to the world of Findom boy. A realm where you possess no privilege,or entitlements in the eyes of a dominant woman. Your money is the only thing of attraction about you. Your dick is a less than worthless currency,and you certainly cannot buy a moment of a woman's time with a dick pic. In fact,your dick puts you at the biggest disadvantage of possible success in findom. You are better off caging that ugly dumb fuck thing up. It will only hinder you. It poisons you slowly and surely. Do you want to die of penis poisoning?
Findom is selfless worship. It is the most pure form of worship. It is a form of worship that actually provides long term benefits for a woman,totally unlike the other actions you try to term worship. Get serious here..you complimenting a woman's ass,tits etc..is NOT worship..that is just you working your dicklet up into a frenzy. The same goes for those of you attempting to provide oral "worship"..now that is the biggest fucking joke of all time! Which would you yourself say is more beneficial in the long run,an orgasm or money to pay for an expensive meal? I know which one I would choose..nourish the flesh with food,and share the orgasm with a man who appreciates the honor..btw that is NOT you.
Findom is about giving of yourself with no expectations..no ulterior entitlement motivations..no giving to receive. If you are not giving for the pure pleasure of being useful,and providing for the wants of a woman,than you are being selfish,and thinking only of what you can get out of it..how you can come out ahead in the equation. This is where you are majorly fucking up. Findom is not about you..it never was,and it never will be,and that is why no Domme wants to deal with your ass.
Why would any Domme want to put up with you when there are males in Findom who actually get it? Males who understand that tributing is all about showing appreciation for a woman..it is about showing a woman that you value her. It is the one action that displays your willingness to subjugate that overly inflated ego you have,and just give for the sake of giving. Tribute conveys respect..respect for a Domme's time..her attention..and her being present. Anything else is merely all about you,and remember what I said "it is not about you".
Why should you give any woman your hard earned cash? You give it because she deserves it. You give it because you want to make an impact on her life. You give it because you know it is the right thing to do. You give it because you are intelligent enough to realize that you owe reparation to women for every single sexist thought,and action your have committed in your life. You give it because you want to be powerless at the feet of a woman,and you know that money is the most powerful form of power on planet Earth in this very day and age. These are the very reasons why you should give..now I will share with you the whys of why you do not give.
You do not tribute, because you are just looking to bust a nut. You do not tribute, because you believe that women owe you. You do not tribute, because you do not value women. You do not tribute, because it demeans the entire experience for your dick. You do not tribute, because you are a lazy fuck who has not the means nor the drive to earn a salary which allows you to. You do not tribute, because you want it all,and refuse to see past yourself. Any of this resonating with you yet?
Most of you will never get past the point of your own dick. How sad is that? Just you and your dick..hope you have a happy life together..NOT :)
I have cast light onto what findom is,and why you should tribute..now you make the choice boy.
The majority of you have no concept of what findom actually is,but you hate it on principle alone. I mean why should you be giving the money you work hard for to some woman who ain't doing shit for you..in fact she should be doing for you just because you are a man,and that means that she is lucky to even get your attention. You know that she should be appreciative of any man wanting to get with her,and should be jumping at the opportunity to fulfill your desires. Isn't that women were created to do...serve the wants of men?
This is the mindset most of you embody. You believe that being born male entitles you to the privilege of a woman's time,and if a woman will not give it willingly,then you will resort to trickery,insults,or force to get it. My last statement is why women do not like you,much less want to spend any time with or on you.
Welcome to the world of Findom boy. A realm where you possess no privilege,or entitlements in the eyes of a dominant woman. Your money is the only thing of attraction about you. Your dick is a less than worthless currency,and you certainly cannot buy a moment of a woman's time with a dick pic. In fact,your dick puts you at the biggest disadvantage of possible success in findom. You are better off caging that ugly dumb fuck thing up. It will only hinder you. It poisons you slowly and surely. Do you want to die of penis poisoning?
Findom is selfless worship. It is the most pure form of worship. It is a form of worship that actually provides long term benefits for a woman,totally unlike the other actions you try to term worship. Get serious here..you complimenting a woman's ass,tits etc..is NOT worship..that is just you working your dicklet up into a frenzy. The same goes for those of you attempting to provide oral "worship"..now that is the biggest fucking joke of all time! Which would you yourself say is more beneficial in the long run,an orgasm or money to pay for an expensive meal? I know which one I would choose..nourish the flesh with food,and share the orgasm with a man who appreciates the honor..btw that is NOT you.
Findom is about giving of yourself with no expectations..no ulterior entitlement motivations..no giving to receive. If you are not giving for the pure pleasure of being useful,and providing for the wants of a woman,than you are being selfish,and thinking only of what you can get out of it..how you can come out ahead in the equation. This is where you are majorly fucking up. Findom is not about you..it never was,and it never will be,and that is why no Domme wants to deal with your ass.
Why would any Domme want to put up with you when there are males in Findom who actually get it? Males who understand that tributing is all about showing appreciation for a woman..it is about showing a woman that you value her. It is the one action that displays your willingness to subjugate that overly inflated ego you have,and just give for the sake of giving. Tribute conveys respect..respect for a Domme's time..her attention..and her being present. Anything else is merely all about you,and remember what I said "it is not about you".
Why should you give any woman your hard earned cash? You give it because she deserves it. You give it because you want to make an impact on her life. You give it because you know it is the right thing to do. You give it because you are intelligent enough to realize that you owe reparation to women for every single sexist thought,and action your have committed in your life. You give it because you want to be powerless at the feet of a woman,and you know that money is the most powerful form of power on planet Earth in this very day and age. These are the very reasons why you should give..now I will share with you the whys of why you do not give.
You do not tribute, because you are just looking to bust a nut. You do not tribute, because you believe that women owe you. You do not tribute, because you do not value women. You do not tribute, because it demeans the entire experience for your dick. You do not tribute, because you are a lazy fuck who has not the means nor the drive to earn a salary which allows you to. You do not tribute, because you want it all,and refuse to see past yourself. Any of this resonating with you yet?
Most of you will never get past the point of your own dick. How sad is that? Just you and your dick..hope you have a happy life together..NOT :)
I have cast light onto what findom is,and why you should tribute..now you make the choice boy.
Thursday, September 7, 2017
Learn from your past
Hello my pets...
When you come to my feet..you come to my feet fresh,meaning that I expect you to leave your past behind you,rather than using it as a roadblock preventing you from serving me as I expect and require.
Who you served previously..how you served them..how much you tributed them,these are not relevant facts in service to me.
Many a time I have had males popping into my inbox stating that they really wanted to serve me,but they have been burned in the past by a Domme,so they expect me to mollycoddle them,and dominate them for free to prove that I am not in it just for the money. Now that type of talk royally peeves me,because you attempting to manipulate me into dominating you for "free" is you attempting to burn me. Do not even try this with me. If you have been scammed,YOU need to sit down and figure out where YOU went wrong before you even think to contact me,cause I will have no pity.
I live in the present,not the past,so if something is not actively affecting me,I do not give it thought. Nor would I expect the past to negatively affect the way a submissive serves me. If you have had shitty experiences in service,do not dump that luggage on my door step. Work out your issues before you ever approach me,cause I am not a licensed therapist,nor will I allow a submissive to serve me in a subpar manner due to their issues.
As human beings we all have a past. Some of it good,some of it regrettable,but the point is to learn from all of it. Experience teaches us how we should proceed,and how not to.
Each new experience is a new opportunity to learn..to grow as a submissive. Do not allow your past to hinder your future submission.
Who you served previously..how you served them..how much you tributed them,these are not relevant facts in service to me.
Many a time I have had males popping into my inbox stating that they really wanted to serve me,but they have been burned in the past by a Domme,so they expect me to mollycoddle them,and dominate them for free to prove that I am not in it just for the money. Now that type of talk royally peeves me,because you attempting to manipulate me into dominating you for "free" is you attempting to burn me. Do not even try this with me. If you have been scammed,YOU need to sit down and figure out where YOU went wrong before you even think to contact me,cause I will have no pity.
I live in the present,not the past,so if something is not actively affecting me,I do not give it thought. Nor would I expect the past to negatively affect the way a submissive serves me. If you have had shitty experiences in service,do not dump that luggage on my door step. Work out your issues before you ever approach me,cause I am not a licensed therapist,nor will I allow a submissive to serve me in a subpar manner due to their issues.
As human beings we all have a past. Some of it good,some of it regrettable,but the point is to learn from all of it. Experience teaches us how we should proceed,and how not to.
Each new experience is a new opportunity to learn..to grow as a submissive. Do not allow your past to hinder your future submission.
Saturday, September 2, 2017
Not a pimping FemDomme
Greetings pets...
Do you know what I think? I think that a great many of you do not see reality for what it actually is. You get so wrapped up in your fantasies that you fail to see truth. What truth am I referring to?
The one where you imagine that I am here to be your
Unfortunately for you, I must be the squasher of your whored out fluff fantasy. Ya see gents as you should already know, most males are selfish shallow shits, and not willing to pay for their pleasures (sound familiar). How does this apply to you expecting a FemDomme to pimp you out in order to enrich your Domme's finances..well let's look at this from a realistic perspective.
1)If most males are not willing to pay for their pleasures, than do you really expect them to pay some cock slut to suck them off?
2)Do you think that males who can get their cock sucked for free are going to pay you for doing it? If you said yes, slap yourself hard in the face with a car door, cause you are too ignorant to exist!
2)Do you know that it is illegal to pimp someone out..yes it happens every single day, but it does carry legal ramifications is caught via law enforcement, so no I am not going to put myself out there advertising that you want to suck cock for cash.
3)Do you know that prostitution is illegal, so if you get caught, you will be doing a stint at the grey bar motel?
4)Are you over 35 with a far from stellar physique, and an even less aesthetically appealing face...hang it up son...males are shallow sams who expect pretty perfection if they are going to pay for the experience.
Aww I know that I just shoved your fantasy into the light of day, but someone has to be real here. What I advise is that you tribute your Domme for the fantasy..meaning you gift me with a tribute, then you go out and suck a cock free of charge in my honor. The majority of males will not turn down a free blow job, even if you do look like something that has been beat with the ugly stick too many times. This allows for a mutually beneficial outcome. I receive a gift, and you get the "gift" of a gullet full of cum :)...so send your tribute, and get to work cocksucker!
Do you know what I think? I think that a great many of you do not see reality for what it actually is. You get so wrapped up in your fantasies that you fail to see truth. What truth am I referring to?
The one where you imagine that I am here to be your
1)If most males are not willing to pay for their pleasures, than do you really expect them to pay some cock slut to suck them off?
2)Do you think that males who can get their cock sucked for free are going to pay you for doing it? If you said yes, slap yourself hard in the face with a car door, cause you are too ignorant to exist!
2)Do you know that it is illegal to pimp someone out..yes it happens every single day, but it does carry legal ramifications is caught via law enforcement, so no I am not going to put myself out there advertising that you want to suck cock for cash.
3)Do you know that prostitution is illegal, so if you get caught, you will be doing a stint at the grey bar motel?
4)Are you over 35 with a far from stellar physique, and an even less aesthetically appealing face...hang it up son...males are shallow sams who expect pretty perfection if they are going to pay for the experience.
Aww I know that I just shoved your fantasy into the light of day, but someone has to be real here. What I advise is that you tribute your Domme for the fantasy..meaning you gift me with a tribute, then you go out and suck a cock free of charge in my honor. The majority of males will not turn down a free blow job, even if you do look like something that has been beat with the ugly stick too many times. This allows for a mutually beneficial outcome. I receive a gift, and you get the "gift" of a gullet full of cum :)...so send your tribute, and get to work cocksucker!
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