Dominance is not a super power

Welcome gents...


By now I have no doubt that you have all been told that in order for a dominant to be in control of a submissive they must first be in control of themselves,for if not,than they will not be able to responsibly be in control of another. It makes absolute sense yes? Of course it does.

It is a huge responsibility to take on the training,consideration,and eventual ownership of a submissive or slave,so if your own life as a dominant is in shambles,you need to sort yourself first and foremost prior to taking on that type of role. I am in full accord with this general consensus,for if your mind is divided,you cannot ensure that safety will not be compromised.

Here is a flip of the coin that does not garner as much attention,and truly it should. If you as a submissive or slave do not have your shit together,you do not belong either. There are some seriously unrealistic hopes and expectations placed upon dominants in bdsm.

 
Dominants are not

• licensed therapists(of course there are exceptions to that statement,but most of us are not equipped to treat and cure mental illness)
• knights on white steeds(we are human beings,not saviors,nor superheros)
• genies in a Domme bottle(we cannot be responsible for granting your every wish..that is your responsibility as a submissive..within reason of course)  
• fairy godmothers who wave a magic wand to fix your life
• fetish dispensers who have no life outside of kink
• nymphomaniacs looking to fuck every possible person labeling themselves as a submissive

It is not all fun and games being a dominant. Of course we love being feted,courted,catered to,and served,but with that comes the knowledge that we are responsible for the safety and well being of those in service to us,and that can be a tremendous amount of pressure at times,so just imagine trying to train a submissive whose life is out of control,and in the shitter due to their erroneous choices in life. It becomes an impossible task. Mind you that many enjoy a challenge,but even the most courageous must draw the line somewhere,so in all seriousness here..get a grip,dig in,and work your life out,so that you may come to the feet of a dominant without two tons of baggage expecting them to sort that shit out for you,cause in the end,you are responsible for your life and it's failures,not your dominant.