Focus on your goal

Focus is a key element to success. Focus aids you in achieving your goals, and lack of it is sure to send you in a downward spiral. This pertains to all areas of life, even Findom. It is even applicable on both sides of the fence (Domme&submissive).

You will never reach and or sate your desires if you lose focus. Whether intentional or not, we all set goals in our lives, and formulate an agenda to meet those goals. It is not required that we obliterate every other factor of our lives to get there, but a purpose driven life is more likely to yield the results we crave.

Say for example that you want to be the very best possible submissive that you possibly can be for your Domme, than you should keep that thought uppermost in your mind, and find ways to apply it in every aspect of your life. That includes the "vanilla" realm of your life as well.

As a submissive you should be working hard at your place of employment in order to climb the ladder, and earn more revenue for your FinDomme. You can take classes to further your education in your chosen field, which just might earn you the promotion you seek, thereby allowing you to enrich her life further. In this place of employment as well, you can honor your chosen Lady by displaying respect for women, by not engaging in the "good ole boys" mentality. Be that one male who doesn't catcall women, or talk about them lewdly openly or on the down low. Do not sexualize the women you see, nor relegate them to one dimensional beings whose only purpose is satiation of male desires. Stand out among your peers by opening doors for women in and out of the workplace. Aid women in their advancements. Make it known that you are an advocate for women, and that your advocacy is not a weakness, but a strength. Donate to women's causes. Give your patronage to female owned businesses whenever possible. Tip your waitress atleast 20%. Intentionally look for ways to advance awareness of how patriarchy is nothing more than abuse of women. These are all ways to grow in your submission towards the feminine.

On the flip side Dommes who keep their eyes and actions trained towards the finish line are more likely to reach it eventually. Part of this is not allowing the actions of others to woo you from your path. It is so easy to get discouraged when you see so many others doing the things you want to do, getting the tributes you yourself wish to receive, receiving the accolades and acknowledgement that you believe you deserve, but here is the thing! You will never reach your desired destination if your eyes are focused upon others. You must keep your focus on you, on your goals, and how best to achieve them. This may mean going out of your comfort zone a bit. Now I am not advocating that you change, or do anything that just does not fit in with who you are as a dominant woman, but I am relaying that you cannot gauge your success by the standards of others. Focusing and obsessing on how well others in your field are doing will only distract you, and in some instances even depress you. To discourage this from happening, you could spend your excess time reading, researching, and furthering your knowledge of fetishes, and how best to bring males to their knees before you. After all what woman would not like to have a harem of males bowing before them lol :) Seriously though, seek out ways to propel yourself forward, so long as it is not upon the backs of other females, go for it. Do not be afraid to be ruthless in your desire to succeed. Take chances, and if they fail, get the hell up and get back on that horse. Never allow your worth or chances of succeeding to be set by outside forces. Be you, do you, and in time success will be your bitch!

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User=loser

You are a user baby! A user,what is a user? A user is a male who is trying to get his kink on for free when dealing with a FemDomme. Users try all kinds of ploys to obtain their objective,such as "if you really loved femdom,you would do it for free" or "real FemDommes don't charge" even "paying to get my kink on takes away from my pleasure". Hmm last I checked,Femdom was not based upon the wants of males,now is it? It is not even based upon what your dick wants,so tell him to shut the fuck up,cause he is ruining your chances of ever serving a FemDomme.

Are you males so deluded that you actually believe that you should not be conTributing towards the expense of a FemDommes time and attention? Her time is definitely more valuable than yours nitwit,and besides,you do not see her banging into your inbox demanding attention now do you,NO. The very best things in femdom are NOT free baby.

I do not believe it to be delusions alone,but selfishness as well. You have been told your entire life how special you are,how you deserve the very best,but guess what...YOU WERE LIED TO. That's right,your lovely parents lied to you. You are not entitled,you are not a special snowflake,and nothing worth having comes easy or free. You are going to have to squash down that entitlement BS,and accept that tributing financially,and putting forth sacrificial effort is required if you are ever going to be worthy of serving a FemDomme.

No FemDomme worth a grain of salt is going to come knocking at your door,proverbial or literal,stating that you are just so awesome that she must have you serving her. Get that fantasy outta your head. Not happening. You need to wake up quickly and realize that dominating males IS work,and she should be compensated for it financially,and seriously shithead, pics of your dick are not qualifying tributes. You are a single solitary walking skinflap amongst hundreds of others vying and hoping for the golden opportunity to serve a divine FemDomme. Flapping your jaws and slapping your wank is just not good enough to garner attention. You must go above and beyond the norm to receive that "atta boy" nod.

If you truly are a fan of femdom and devout in your desire to serve a FemDomme than open up that musty moth eaten wallet,and show her that you mean it. Show her that you appreciate her time and recognize it as being of worth,else you are nothing but a filthy femdom wannabe junkie jerk off. You tell me,is there anything to be proud of for attempting to use women for your own means? No there is not. It is utterly shameful that any male would perpetrate such actions,so man up and shut up til you have tithed your FemDomme Goddess.

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The annihilation of male entitlement has chosen it's form: WOMAN

A kind Dominatrix

When people hear the word Dominatrix,they automatically associate it with leather,latex,a whip,and a badass attitude. This is a common misconception. I assure you that this is definitely not how I am dressed sitting here typing this post up. In fact no one would ever gain that impression from seeing me out on the street in everyday life,nor would they make that connection from speaking with me. I do not walk around with RBF,or shout orders at those in contact with me. In fact I make a point of not raising my voice in anger ever. Ironically I become very soft of voice when I am vexed. Maybe that is because I am biting my tongue ferociously lol.

My posts,and speech online do tend to come across as aggressive and authoritarian. I have never denied that I am blunt in my approach,but it is always tempered in honesty. I would rather dent an ego than tell a lie. If a male is not remotely suitable in personality,or compatibility towards serving me,than I will simply make it known. Not that I am cruel in relaying the information,it just is truth,so why would I want to waste my time,or his by dragging it out? That would make absolutely no sense at all. In fact that would be quite unkind in my eyes to convey hope where there is none. I have had a great many males approach me with the offer of friendship extended,but once again I come across as an uber bitch when I politely decline,not because of the words I say,but because no one likes being told no. I can honestly state that I am not going to become best buddies or friends for life with the males I encounter online. I have a plethora of real time friends who meet my needs for camaraderie,so this is definitely not something I seek out online.

What I do aspire to achieve from my online explorations is to form lasting connections with those that see and feel the correctness of serving me. These relationships may indeed lead to real time interactions at some point,but I must always be clear in saying that none of these relationships will lead to the altar,or a meeting of parents,or a joining of the flesh. Is it not kind to be real about my expectations,and exactly what you can count on with me?

You can count on me to never scream at you,to not lie to you,to not have hidden agendas,to never perform actions which will leave you irreparably harmed,to display respect when respect is given. These are my promises. What I will not promise is to coddle your ego,or stroke any sense of entitlement you may harbor with untruths. Is this being unkind?

Whilst I will not vow undying friendship for you,I will share that I do come to care for those that serve me,just not in a sexual or romantic manner. I grow fond of those males who have proven their value to me,so yes it is true that I will not dub you my bff,I will call you my own if you earn it.

How much kinder do I need to be?

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I know you want to touch them,to smell them,to drown beneath their smothering caress. It is your duty,and honor to spoil my pampered peds. You know what you need to do. Give in to the desire,and send tribute to their glory.

You aren't a real Domme

One of the basic aspects of being a human being is opinions. Everyone has one. In some situations that is a good thing,whilst in others it is detrimental and unwanted. I am going to share some insights as to when opinions are skewed,and require redefining in regards to the fetish scene.

You are NOT a real Domme if you do not have a clip store. This opinion has sprayed the sides of my inbox many a time. This is only an opinion,not a proven fact. How do I know this? Well let's see,I know of women that rock their workplace,that rule their home,that have men begging to be with them,BUT yet they do not have a clip store. How can that be true??? Sheesh people,not every dominant woman in the world has a fetish account,or engages in online domination,but that does NOT negate the fact that they are dominant in life. Oh and another tidbit to chew on for a bit. Just because a female has a clip store does not mean that she is even dominant at all. There are studios out there that have capitalized on the monetary boom of selling fetish clips,so they employ actresses to play the role of Domme,and you fools are none the wiser,nor do I actually believe that you would care if you did know it,cause buying clips is NOT about submission,but rather it is about males getting a nut off. Maybe I should form the opinion that you are NOT a real submissive if you purchase clips..hmm or maybe I already have.

You are NOT a real Domme if you do not do sell cam sessions. Look back to my explanation stated above. Exactly how many women do you think have no idea of the online realm of domination? How many women do you think live the Femdom lifestyle without ever publicizing it online? How many women do you think dominate in their home without a cam in sight? How many women do you think are disgusted by the thought of watching males jack off,or shoving objects up their hairy asses? Does this make them less dominant? NO it does not. It merely means that they are not focused upon male gratification. What is male gratification anyway other than selfishness in disguise,or so you think it is disguised when it is claimed as a need. Need my fat ass. Getting off is NOT a need. It is a want,so cease parading it around as a need. Shoving things up your ass is not a need either btw.

You may think that I alone am not a real Domme because I do not offer services,and yes clips and sessions are services,but I am not alone in it. I have a real life,and yes a real time servant who is dominated without ever getting off in my presence. A servant that sees the goal of service as my happiness,not as a bodily release. This my readers is what I would define as real submission,and do believe when I say that he feels and doubts not my dominance in his day to day life,without ever having purchased a clip or session from me!

My dominance is not defined by having an online presence,or by my number of followers on twitter,not even by the number of tributes I receive. At the end of the day,I remain in control of my life,and those that serve me. That dear readers is the truest statement in regards to my dominant nature,for dominance by nature is about control.

Reminders: An online label does not prove accuracy,neither dominant,nor submissive.

Never settle

Surprising,but I spend most of my time within my own mind. Sounds odd yes? What I mean by that statement,is that I prefer my own company above all others,and base my decisions upon my own beliefs rather than going along with the popular trains of thought and action. I have no qualms standing beside my words even when others attempt to derail my confidence within them.

Lately I have given much pause and thought as to what it truly is that I seek to gain from my time online. Some look for friendship,others burn for undying love,and for the greater majority sexual release. Basically in my eyes we all seek to fulfill an aspect of our lives that remains devoid,else our time would be spent elsewhere.

For some of you,your every desire and expectation is focused upon your own gratification. This is human nature,although I find it an abhorrent quality in males.

Back to me lol :) What is it that I want? I want that which appears almost miraculously impossible. I hunt the near extinction beast,a finsub. The creature that serves not out of a desire to be rewarded with sexual favors,or scenes that gratify the base nature of males. A male who equates his happiness and fulfillment with mine. No hidden agenda,no overbearing ego,no sense of entitlement due to being born with a penis. A Y chromosome who recognizes that X is superior,and deserving of worship. One who truly believes it an honor to play any part I allow within my life,who takes pride in serving my wants above his own. Have you ever heard of such a being? Is it even possible for a male to be that selfless? Can such a paragon of submission even exist in this day and age? I certainly hope so,for I am not willing to accept into my service any other than one such as this. I have no need to settle for less than I desire. Settling is for the weak,and that is not an apt adjective when describing me.

My advice to all those seeking in this scene,be honest about your expectations,and what you are willing to offer. Keep lies away from your lips and fingertips,and with some effort,you just might find fulfillment. Happy hunting  :)