Welcome all to the ultra exciting and sometimes exasperating world and words of Sydney Claire
Why is our world such an angry place?
I am going to wax on today about 1 possible aspect.
TRUTH
Have you ever noticed how people react when they are confronted with a truth which they disagree with, or outright disbelieve? Anger, anger, anger, and on occasion you will see them resort to violence. Violence as a response to the words or opinions of another human being is NEVER acceptable in a polite society, which we claim to be, yet one only needs to seek out social media news to view the proof of how individuals become almost feral in behavior when THE TRUTH is not their truth.
I myself understand how the truth can be uncomfortable or even painful at times, but come on folks, we would do better to venture out from our selective echo chambers, than to allow ourselves to go along with false pretenses for the sake of getting along or fitting in with brain dead duds. Your best chance at success in life as an individual involves being able to think for yourself, and form independent opinions. Critical thinking is a positive here, peeps. Embrace truth regardless of how it makes you feel, for the truth cares nothing about your feelings. It simply is.
A list of truths
*Not all men are trash
*Not all women tell the truth
*Science is real
*The media misleads
*Politicians and governments lie
*meat is good for you
*high fructose corn syrup is poison
*you can be pro-life and pro death penalty
*Trump is your president
*socialism is suicide
I could go on and on, but I will spare you today :)
The question I pose is, did any of the outlined truths make you angry? If so, why? My intent here is to make you think. Truth
hurts (I know), but whether you like, love, agree, or disagree...truth is always
truth, and your preferred truth is not going to change that fact. I invite and implore you to explore the basis of your anger, in order to solve or resolve the negativity within the equation. Anger is not the way forward.
Welcome to the glamorously seedy slice of Sydney Claire.
Sex workers is an umbrella term which many shelter under.
Who are sex workers?
-cam girl
-Dominatrix
-escort
-prostitute
-phone sex operator
-clip producer
-porn star
-premium snap chat sellers
-strippers
-nude models
Long list huh?
Sex workers are walking down the sidewalk beside you. They are dining in your restaurants, sleeping in your hotels, shopping in the grocery store with you. Your typical sex worker looks just like any other woman you see out and about. I have not seen a single one wearing a scarlet letter, or holding up a sign proclaiming her occupation while out just living life.
Sex workers are highly disdained by the general public men and women alike. Sex workers are considered unclean & immoral and as such are stigmatized. They are banned from payment sites, and websites. Some are even shunned by family members. Does this sound like the recipe of a happy life?
There are a variety of reasons why women engage in sex work, and despite what the main stream media declares, the overwhelming majority of these women have not been forced into the lifestyle via trafficking. Some need the money gained from sex work to survive, whilst others thrive upon the sexual excitement of sex work. Regardless of the reason, these women do not deserve the less than humane treatment they receive from a judgemental society.
Sex workers are shamed and blamed for all sorts of issues. They are accused of being the harbingers of disease, and divorce, yet this is a lie. Did you know that sex workers are tested for stds at a higher rate than the general public? Sure, you are thinking that they must due to their "risky" lifestyle, yet you have thousands of ordinary people walking around untested & infected, but hey, atleast they aren't sex workers!! In regards to being the root cause of divorce, they are not the married man stepping out. They are not the husband spending hard earned dollars to bust a nut. They are not the men ignoring their relationships in favor of peeking at porn. Hold men accountable for their actions, instead of blaming sex workers for providing a service.
It is entirely too easy to blame ills at the feet of sex workers, and I am absolutely not absolving them as an entirety, for they are flawed human beings just like the rest of humanity, but I am calling foul to the world of sin setting upon their shoulders.
Why do people blame the sex worker, but not the customer/consumer? You do realize that without a market, sex workers would not exist yes? Think of it like this. If ALL men stopped frequenting strip clubs, would those clubs remain in business? If ALL men stopped clicking on porn hub, would they go under financially? This is simple truth. Sex workers exist because of a demand for their existence. They serve a purpose, so unless you are actively shaming, shunning, and imprisoning the very market which keeps them in business, shut up!
Hello hello hello...and welcome to the sanctum of Sydney Claire!
Some of you gents need to seriously reconsider your actions, or lack thereof when it comes to serving dominant Women. Ya ya ya I know that some of you are brand spanking new to the scene, but sometimes you just got to learn the hard way, and that most often is the wrong way on a one way street.
The main subject of discussion here is TRIBUTE. If you are ill educated upon the subject of tributing in a Financial Domination sense, than you can quick and easy google for the answer :) Go ahead and do that for me right now, so that I will know that you are up to speed. Done?
Progressing.
Do you know how many excuses I have been given for not being able to tribute? Take a guess....WRONG! Try again, only add in a couple of zeros to the equation. Do you know what excuses are? They are falsified reasons losers and liars toss about. Are you a liar or loser? If so, than stop, do not pass go, and get out of here NOW. I have done my time on sucker skidrow, and paid my listening to lying "paypig" dues.
Onward.
There are zero, and I do mean zero legitimate reasons not to tribute a Woman.
I get it, and I imagine that most Women comprehend that the majority of males in the findom fetish are not on par with Daddy Warbucks when it comes to disposable income, but you can still contribute financially towards the lifestyle of a Lady. Now if you are sitting there, and can say in all honesty that you cannot invest a single cent in the relationship, well than I would advise you to exit behind the liars and losers, cause you are of zero value in a Financial Domination power exchange. Net negatives are a drain of time and valuable feminine resources.
Forward.
If you fear tributing because of
1)past negative treatment
2)uncertainty if She is the one(need to get to know her)
3)being scammed or ghosted
Solution: Sit back quietly without contacting Her at all. Study Her social media to ascertain if She is the one you want to serve. Then proceed with tribute.
Your initial tribute doesn't have to break your bank account, but nor should it be insulting either. Figure in what you would spend if you were taking Her out to a nice dinner (not a fast food joint) and send that amount. Once sent, never forget that tribute is a gift. It is not a payment for services expected. You are not owed a single second of Her time for that money, but most likely you will receive a response, and the chance to speak with Her, which is most definitely a reward worth chasing.
Tribute is the platform which springs you into Her orbit of notice, rather than as a right of entitlement. Financially investing in the relationship displays your intent to provide for Her physical comfort, and since providing is already embedded in your dna, tributing is a given :) No need to fear it, or make up excuses to get out of it. You are definitely not going to get anywhere in findom without it, because as I stated previously, we have heard every excuse, so you are not going to get a foot in the door if you lead like that.
Take pride in the act of giving. You are enhancing Her level of happiness, and serving Her interests, which should be the goal of every single submissive boy and girl. You want to be a good little subby, yes? Of course you do :) All it requires is an open mind, heart, and wallet/pocketbook. You can do this. I believe in you, so get out there and send a tribute today!!
SydneyClaire@protonmail.com
Hip hip hooray...it is New Year's Day, and here you are celebrating the changing of a decade with the divinely celestial Sydney Claire :)
I wonder how many of my faithful readers made the obligatory New Year's resolution. Did you? It seems to me as if there are recurring themes to the annual promises. Such as, health, wealth, or happiness. Does that sound about spot on to you?
I myself, made no resolutions. Resolutions tend to be exhaustively huge life changes, which are statistically bound for failure, unless you are one of the scant few who actually successfully holds up your end. Have you made resolutions which failed? If so, why do you believe that they bombed?
In my opinion, people tend to reach entirely too high and too fast when making resolutions. They place unrealistic expectations upon themselves, and that leads to failure, which creates self-directed unhappiness, depression, and even anger. People in general would benefit more from making more easily attainable short term resolutions.
Example 1
*Say you want to lose 50lbs. Well than, instead of saying "I am going to lose 50lbs this year", begin small by vowing to
-cut back on eating out
or
-fast 1 day per week
or
-drink an additional 8oz of water daily
Any one of these alterations may very well enable you to lose 1lb per week. Add that up, and voila bb!!
Do you see the point I am directing you towards? If you keep the step short, you are far more likely to climb it!
Example 2
*You want to save up money for a luxury item
-cut back on eating out
or
-fast 1 day per week
or
-drink water instead of coffee and soda
Now take the money you would have spent on these items, and piggy bank it til you have enough to treat yourself to the desired item :)
I honestly want to see people succeed, but to do so, we must first acknowledge that we are the ones preventing it from happening, and actively seek to help ourselves reach the goals we set. It feels so good to achieve positive changes in our lives, and we all know that there is a strong correlation between positivity and happiness, which is the ultimate goal, yes? It definitely is for me.
Wishing you all success and happiness in this coming year!
Welcome all to the thought provoking posts of Sydney Claire!
Towards the end of the year, it is only natural for one to take stock of both the success and failures of effort expended throughout the year. This allows for a being to plan out their course of action for the following year, and I differ from none in this task. It is a positive step towards managing your life.
What has become glaringly obvious to even an untrained eye, is that I have had minimal, and by minimal I mean almost non-existent success in reaching and securing servitude from submissives through my social media endeavors this past year. Nary a single tribute hit my inbox for my birthday, nor Christmas, and this is the most telling data of all. Online submissives without doubt had zero concerns or cares about my personal happiness or comfort. What does this mean for me though?
1)It means that I will no longer seek out submission online.
2)I will no longer entertain private conversation on social media sites with submissives claiming that they want to serve me. (My Dm's will be closed to all but those whom I follow)
3)My posts will now reflect more of my well rounded personality, rather than being fetish specific.
By no means is this a "woe is me" blog post. I am not depressed, angered, nor surprised a single bit. Fetish has quickly evolved into a customer service business, and since I do not sell goods, I was bound to feel the sting. Knowing the facts, does not change my stance though. It is far better for me to have no servants under my heel if the only ones in the market are the self serving vermin which I see peppering the landscape with their selfish stench.
My decision actually fills me with a sense of empowerment as a woman. I need no longer fret over each and every post I make in regards to whether it will appeal to male specimens. I can leave off with sexual innuendos, and just be ME. The concern of whether I am sexy enough, thin enough, young enough etc... has vanished. I am free to be bluntly honest in my speech, and even cruel when warranted without remorse.
I no longer have to care about a brand or keeping up appearances. It is far more liberating than you would ever believe!
This does not mean that I am ghosting social media. I intend to continue blogging, and posting my thoughts and opinions on all things fetish. It simply frees me from caring whether my voice is popular with men. I am actually smiling, and humming a happy tune as I type this up :)
I invite you all to stick around for the remaking of Sydney Claire, the woman, rather than the reflection of a dominant.
Welcome to the wonderful world of All Things Sydney Claire!
It is purported to be the most joyous time of the year, yet for many of you beta flops, it is the season of despair, for you are once again glaringly reminded of your failure to secure any type of meaningful connection with a woman to share the holidays with. You have fallen short of the goal, but than that is nothing new for you, now is it lol.
So here you are scouring the internet looking for your next masturbation mash up fix, hoping it will fill that black hole of a void you call a life with a few seconds of hand humping happiness. Utterly pathetic aren't you... This behavior is just one of the many things that sets you apart from real men.
REAL MEN GET REAL TIME PUSSY
You on the other hand, cannot even get the notice of a woman without paying her to pay attention to you, and that is what you crave most isn't it? You want attention. Someone to validate your less than stellar existence. Like a puppy begging for petting, only in your case the tail wagging is your pecker. Unfortunately for you, puppies are cute, your dick is not. No woman wants to pet it. Neener neener neener, no woman wants your weiner!!
Aww how sad a specimen of manhood you are. You want want want, yet you are denied denied denied. How does that feel? Are you ready to admit that you are not worthy of any woman, that you will never hold a special place in a woman's heart? Good, now you are ready to accept your intended purpose.
Yours is not the destiny to get the girl, but instead to serve the woman. Your mission is to make yourself useful to a woman. Your worth in a woman's life hinges upon your ability to manifest her material wants. If you refuse to do so, than you will be forever barred from any type of feminine attention. Women have no use for broke or miserly men. Such males should be consigned to living in hovels far away from the sight of women. They are ill suited to walk in a woman's world.
You on the other hand, if useful with a willing and wide open wallet, could be allowed to dwell on the outskirts of a woman's world. At last, you would find a place where you belong. You want to belong don't you? You want, but deserve no more than minute morsels of attention from a woman, and this is the only way you are going to get it.
Now get your wanking hand off your puny piece of penis, and get to pleasing a woman by sending her gifts :) You will find ultimate unending pleasure in giving, and pleasure is what you came here for isn't it...
Send a gift card today, to SydneyClaire@protonmail.com
Hello and welcome to all who come to serve the will of Sydney Claire, or merely to absorb my words of wisdom.
No doubt that we have all heard that old saying about "less is more", but the only time I ever heard it applied was when referencing makeup, and I am definitely not here to discuss cosmetics lol.
When I say less is more, I am employing the statement to signify that more followers, more likes, more retweets, more fans, more admirers, more slaves does not mean more success, more happiness, more money. I have seen social media accounts with thousands of fans and followers, yet beyond minimal engagement rates, and even less financial remuneration for time invested. In those cases, more is not more in a tangible sense, and it certainly does not produce that giddy dopamine rush.
I personally do not fixate on follower count, or even likes. My posts are not intended to resonate with the majority of social media users. In fact, my aim is narrowly fixed upon a scant few.
Of course I could share provocative imagery in order to increase my reach, but I would not be able to maintain the interest of those drawn in, for it goes against my nature. If in doubt, take a peek at the number of likes and shares a photo of a woman's bare ass, breasts, or vagina receives. Yes sex sells, and it always will. In this instance less clothing does equal more engagement. Therefore an astute businesswoman would use her sex to her advantage, and honestly could you fault her? Some would and do, but the lack of a man's will power will never be the blame of a woman, as it is entirely at a man's discretion whether or not to succumb or deny the lure of feminine flesh. Which means that the men you see falling for fetish, should not be pitied or provided victim status, as they are cognizant and consenting.
Having fewer followers, and following fewer people allows me to enjoy my online experience more by providing a less cluttered TL, and increasing my engagement rate, as I am only following people who interest, challenge, and inspire me. This is a positive. Less equals more engagement, more room for growth, more contentment in my interactions.
I realize that not everyone is going to concur with my assessment, and that is ok, cause we all are allowed our own opinions :) It is fun though to share my thoughts, views etc...just to see if they resonate with my audience. Feel free to share your thoughts on the subject in the comment section!
