Welcome to the divine sphere is Goddess Sydney
Do you believe in the existence of a Femdom utopia? A place where Female Dominants either laze around all day in a velvet chaise being waited on hand and foot by submissive bitch boys, or a deep dark wet walled dungeon where males are caged, and beat all day long? Sounds more like a fantasy doesn't it, or a delusion which wankers jack off thinking about.
Y'all need to get real about Femdom, and let off taking your education of the reality of it from porn. There are all types of Femdom exchanges, and please do believe me when I state that none of them resemble the above mentioned scenarios.
Femdom boils down to a female dominating a submissive or slave in the manner which suits HER needs best. Some of you get downright ridiculous in your notions of how Femdom plays out. Wake up, and smell of the sweat of effort expended in service.
The odds are not great that you are ever going to end up locked in a dungeon as a treasured bound gimp, nor is it likely that a female dominant is going to want to bind you as her sex slave. Unlike males, most women are not turned on by the thought or reality of having an absolute stranger in their home, or eating their pussy. You must and I mean, MUST learn to distinguish between your wet dreams, and reality.
Neither are you going to be receiving a notification that a dominant female is seeking you out to show up at her home in your faux maid outfit to play at cleaning her house. That scenario suits and serves your purpose only.
What female dominants want most is
1)submissves (real ones, not the type who play at it)
2)submissives who see a dominants wants, as their needs
3)submissives who respect the authority, and existence of dominant women
4)submissives who actually serve out of a desire to please women
5)submissives who harbor no misogynistic motivations
6)Submissives who enrich the life of a dominant woman through their actions
What I listed is fairly simple, yet it becomes the most rare when sifting through submissives who contact female dominants. Do you know what we see the most of?
1)males who are not submissives
2)males who want their wants granted, and disregard the wants of the dominant
3)males who view women as objects
4)males who possess an underlying or blatant hatred of women
5)males who act as if they are entitled via patriarchy to the time and attention of women
Can you see how this creates an endless cycle of woe on both sides? If the end goal is not the same (pleasing the dominant), than you are just pedaling in place, which leaves no one satisfied.
I want males to succeed in service to Femdoms, but that means change is required. Change that shifts your focus from self to selfless. Can you, and are you willing to change? If not, strap in for the roller coaster ride of failure.
Welcome,welcome,welcome to the domain of Goddess Sydney
I am a betting woman, and I bet that many of you ended up here, thinking that I was going to rant about FinDommes not being "real" Dommes, but you were mistaken.
FinDommes get trashed a hella lot in the bdsm arena. By who?
1)"lifestyle" submissives
2)Lifestyle Dommes
3)"Dominant" males
4)Moderators
5)Site owners
6)Vanilla folks
7)broke males
8)entitled dudes
9)Even Pro-Dommes sometimes do it
etc
etc
etc
You get the gist yes?
Tons of people have entered into online fetish play over the last few of years, and continue to keep coming like a tidal wave, sweeping clean away what once was, and redefining it by their desires, regardless if it is safe, sane, or correct. The prevailing thought, is that bdsm = sex. It is all about being tied up, tied down, and jacking, sucking, or fucking a dick. The scene always ends the same as a porn flick. Yup yup, bdsm is all about getting off.
Now I want you to add MONEY into the equation. Hmm this is gonna muddy things up a bit, so let's shine some light on it shall we?
These are the opinions, and accusations hurled...
1)If money is involved, you ARE a prostitute
2)If money is involved, you are not doing it for fun, cause fun=free
3)If money is involved, you are NOT a real Domme, cause Dommes dominate for the fun of getting random dudes dicks off
4)If money is involved, than they better get their money's worth from a woman, or else!
Did you know that money rules the world? I realize that we all would like to believe that fairy tale about love overcoming all, but let's get real. Money makes the world go round. Money ensures that you have a roof over your head, food in your belly, and a pot to piss in. Money provides you the power to do the things you want to do. Money allows you to enjoy luxuries. Money is life, and without it, you would be homeless, hungry, and shitting on the sidewalk. Think about it, how desperate would you become to acquire money to feed, clothe, and house yourself? I can imagine the depths you would go to!
Do you see now, how important money is? This is exactly why money is so very powerful. You cannot live without it. You need it as much as the air you breathe, or the food you eat. So, sure you wanna offer up your dick for cbt, or your ass for a pegging good time, but when it comes to relinquishing something that equates to a true power exchange, you balk, and you bitch, cause for you, it all becomes very farking real when you have to sacrifice something of real worth. FYI (no one wants your dick or ass).
Most of you don't really want to be dominated, and are the furthest thing from submissive, and yes we all know it, which means that you should be the very first one to offer up tribute, cause paying for your pleasure has always been, and always will be the decent thing to do, and if you cannot stomach being a proper male, than I advise you to straighten up, and find a kinky girlfriend who will get your rocks off for free, but we all know that it is going to cost you one way or another lol!
Back to FinDommes. Do you know that it takes effort, drive, and determination to last in findom? Did you get the memo detailing that we are real human beings with morals and everything. Did you hear the whisper that FinDommes care about their submissives, and that they train them to their preferred style of service just like free Dommes do? Had you ever read that tributing is a form of appreciation for the time and attention that FinDommes bestow upon submissives? Can you imagine wanting to make a woman smile by giving her a gift, just as she gifts you with her dominance? Pretty freaky huh?
No matter what you have heard, or been led to believe, FinDommes do dominate their submissives. In fact, I have seen some awesome, and even some holy shit videos of finsubs being dominated by their owners. The only difference between lifestyle Dominas, and FinDommes is the MONEY. Well that, and most lifestyle Dominas are seeking out a life partner, a kinky bf, a fetish lovin hubby, whereas very few FinDommes are looking for that type of 24/7, but I highly doubt that the majority of you males are even hoping to plunge into that depth of commitment. So, if you are calling a FinDomme a faux Domme because of MONEY, well you would be 100% farked up. It is just another form of power exchange, and believe me when I say that money means more to a woman than your dick or ass.
Now that you have been schooled, let's can all the BS please. A Domme is a Domme is a Domme, and all are real in the eyes of the males they own, so if you cannot be nice, stay in your own lane, and staple that mouth :)
Welcome to the realm of Goddess Sydney...where her desires become your bidding.
Dependability. Do you know this word? The dictionary defines it as such:
"Dependability is defined as the quality
of being able to be counted on or relied upon. When you always do
everything that you say you will and never make promises you cannot
keep, this is an example of dependability."
Does this sound like a quality which you yourself possess? Are you the type of sterling submissive that a Goddess can always count on to be reliable, and honest in your words and deeds? If not, than are you a submissive worth having? I would respond in the negative.
One of the very first things new Dommes are told, is that you must never ever ever depend upon a submissive to stick around, and most often not even to keep his promises, for the majority of so called males the the fetish scene will play a woman false in order to achieve their objective of self gratification. How sad is it that women must warn fellow women in regards to the likelihood of such perfidy perpetrated by males who are supposedly servile to the will of women?
The most prized male in my stable is one whom I know without doubt that I can rely upon. I know as sure as the sun sets and rises, that he will do all within his abilities to make me happy. For example, today I posted on twitter in regards to an item that I dearly wanted on amazon, and gave you males the opportunity to prove to me that my desires mattered to you. Mind you that this was not even an expensive gift, but each and every one of you failed to care for my wishes. How selfish is that? Thankfully though, my brat stepped up, and purchased the item straight away when he seen my tweet. He has proven many many times over, that his concern is for my happiness.
You on the other hand have not, and doing nothing will not bring you any closer to serving me. I abhor repeating myself when I have made my wants known, and it is your duty and honor to provide for them.
Too long now, males have been catered to, and feted in the findom scene. We all know why that is, now don't we? Findom is infamous for attracting users, and abusers of trust. It brings in females whose only intent is to chase down the dollar, and males who are jerking off to all of the freebies they receive. I do not believe that any other side of bdsm is as flagrantly filled with actual real life losers such as findom is, and no I am not referring to males who possess a fetish for being called a loser.
In my judgement book, a loser is a liar, whose only piece of dependability is that you can be assured that they are lying to you. Is this really who you want to be? I sincerely hope not, cause if you are, than you are racing down a dead end road, seat belt off, with your dick in your hand. Not exactly a pretty picture.
I would say with certainty, that almost every single Domme I know, is looking for males who can be depended upon. Women want males whom they can trust, rely upon, and believe in their integrity. What does that tell you?
You will most definitely go further in femdom service if you can be depended upon, in good times, AND bad times. Don't bail when the going gets tough. That is what pussy ass soy boys do. You can, and you must be better than that. You need to set the example of how a submissive should, and is expected to behave & serve. Being a better submissive, makes for a happy Domme, and a happy Domme makes for a happy submissive!
Welcome my little wanderers, to the kingdom of Goddess Sydney
Your life begins to take on purpose and meaning when you first acknowledge that Goddess Sydney is your divine ruler.
Right now, you are drifting through life without a visible destination. What you have yet to grasp, is that your path has been predestined.
Your fate is to serve at the feet of your one true Goddess.
The journey awaits you. Your mind automatically tunes to the will of Goddess Sydney. You know that your life will have been lived in vain, if you do not follow kismet.
Life becomes simpler when you allow Goddess to guide it. Goddess knows what is right, and good for you. You need only obey Goddess.
Once you accept Goddess as your divine ruler, your life will finally be worth living. You will no longer seek to serve yourself, for you will be conditioned to serve greatness.
Goddess eclipses all others in your life. She alone comes first. She is your priority, your sanity, your salvation.
She shall lead you, and save you from your selfish self. You want to be saved don't you? You want to change your life, don't you? You are so very tired of being the one in control of your life. You need Goddess to take the reins. You want Goddess to show you the way.
Breathe in her name, breathe out her praise.
Bow down, and yield yourself to Goddess Sydney.
Welcome to the realm where my fantasies become your reality
I have been declared a bitch,an arrogant cunt..and the entire plethora of ill descriptors by males at one point in time or another,but it ceased having an impact long ago.
The number 1 reason why males resort to insults is
*They cannot get their way*
Am I inferring that males are infantile in their response to being told no,why yes,yes I am. Why else would a grown ass human being sling mud rather than approach the situation with reason? There is no further explanations which come to my mind. Feel free to share if you have a more logical explanation.
Moving on to why males cannot get their way with me.
1)I am a dominant female.
2)My self-esteem is not derived from outside influences,so attempts to sugar me up with compliments will fail each and every time.
3)I am in control of my sexual urges,therefore they do not possess the power to force me to act against my own best interests.
Some people have even titled me a misandrist,and that sincerely is inaccurate. I do not hate males. I simply do not hold them in the same regards as I do females.
In my eyes,males are the weaker sex. Not physically mind you,but of course I have encountered some women who could definitely kick mens' asses. The weakness I refer to resides in a male's pants. Point blank,your dick is your weakness. It whistles,and you dance to it's tune. This is what makes you inferior to women,and this enfeeblement is what opens males up to become prey to women.
Women are infinitely more intelligent than men give them credit for,and a great many are willing and able to capitalize upon the shortcomings of men. Your deficiency ie your cock is what keeps porn profitable,strip clubs cashing in,and fetish afloat.
Do you honestly believe that women do not see your agendas for what they truly are? Your words,and actions dedicated to a sole purpose...arousing and pleasing your cock. Pretty plain and simple isn't it? Have you ever done anything for a woman unrelated to you,without hoping to gain in some way from that action? Think about it.
Serving a woman is serious business. It is not all fun and games,or arousing interludes of stroking your dick. Most times it is not even about performing actions that you want to enact. It really does take a special breed of man to serve women without conflict of interests,and that is the type of man I respect.
This is just one of the reasons why I am selective about who serves me,cause if they do not have my happiness as their main motivation,than they will do a piss poor job,and who honestly wants lackluster,lukewarm service? I don't,so let's get real gents...serve because it pleases her,and not because you are trying to please yourself.
Be selfless,be worthy,and worship your Goddess!
Welcome to the wonderful wide world of Goddess Sydney
A place where the face of Goddess immediately becomes your lifelong infatuation
I simply adore when males cannot help but to fall in love with me! Note I did not say lust,for lust is a fleeting infatuation..quickly dispelled with the squirt of semen.
I want your thoughts centered upon me..always ME. You live,breathe,eat,sleep,and work..all for Goddess Sydney. I am your reason for being.
You cannot imagine a life worth living if I am not a part of it. Your waking thoughts are consumed by ME. Your dreams revolve around ME.
I am all that you can see. You strive to be worthy of ME. You will push yourself to the limit of your endurance,just to see me smile.
You will toil,and suffer to mold yourself into something of value in my life. To be accepted as a submissive to Goddess Sydney is all the honor you desire. You want to belong to me. You would do anything,be anything,to be mine.
The moment you first seen ME,your life began to change. You began to change. Your breath stilled,your heart seized,and you began to tremble. You recognized that your purpose in life was to become a servant to Goddess Sydney.
Destiny awaits you.
Welcome to the divine world of Goddess Sydney
Gentlemen,gentlemen,gentlemen...ack I am hesitant to even employ that descriptor to the majority of you,and you know why.
I am going to share some personal experiences with you, and explain why I find a certain prevalent behavior amongst the male sex to be a rather disturbing.
To begin with do you know what ghosting is? Ghosting is where someone just ups and disappears off of another person's radar altogether. Interactions, and contact ceases without reason or excuse provided. Dommes see this alot in the fetish connection. Males who are so eager to serve, and beg to be of use in the onset, just poof without notice, or regard of how their actions will impact the Domme. Ghosting is at best, the act of a coward. It is shameful, and should be treated as such.
Ghosting is not contained to the fetish world, but branches out into the vanilla scene as well. It is an equal opportunity crime perpetrated by both males and females alike, and seriously it is disgusting. If you were raised with any decency at all, you would not do it!
I myself have had this happen to me many multiple times in the kink realm, but never in the nilla one. Why do you think that is?
I have had long time serving males engage in this behavior, and believe me when I say that YES it does have an impact, not to mention damaging the ability to trust future submissive applicants. In fact I have reached the point where I no longer bat an eyelash at it, because I place no faith in a male's good behavior until it is proven over a long period of time in service.
I have heard submissives as well complain about being ghosted after the first tribute. Does it happen, of course, do I condone it, NO. There are reasons why people ghost, but most times, they are known only to the ghost.
I am here to tell you now, that it is never acceptable, and that it makes you look like an asshole. Of course you may think nothing of it, but the fetish scene is smaller than you may think, and information travels at the speed of light, when it comes to ill behavior. Doubt me not!
Dislike of confrontation is quite normal to human beings, which is just 1 reason why people ghost without explanation, although it still does not excuse it. My advice is to "man up" so to speak, and just flat out tell a Domme that you do not want to serve her. Of course she has the right to be upset, or to ask why, and most likely she will ask. When I have had males relay to me that they have decided no longer to serve, the very first thing I did was ask why. Feedback is very important for growth, so if I their decision has been motivated by my actions, I want to know it, so that I can take steps in the future as to not repeat my mistakes. Does that make sense? It is about being an adult, and showing the same type of respect that you expect to receive yourself.
I have let males in service to me go, but they are always made aware of why I am doing so. Explaining to them why I came to the decision I did, allows them the opportunity to learn from the experience, and perhaps evolve into a better submissive someday, and is that not what we all seek...to be a better dominant, or submissive?
It takes a mere moment of time to end a connection, and even if you feel the need to protect yourself by immediately blocking after sending the "pink slip" notice, send the notice! Never burn those bridges gents, cause someday you just might want to revisit where you have once been.
