Separating trash from treasure.
You know that proverb
" One man's trash is another man's treasure ", well in this instance I would replace man with woman..perhaps an accurate reflection for this piece would the use of the Domme descriptor.
Many Dommes have publicly stated that they have found treasure within one that has been declared a timewaster by the findom community at large. I myself in all honesty cannot from personal experience vouch for the validity of such a happening, for it has never been the case with me. To be frank though, I am more closed off than most, and do indeed make it relatively an effort to gain my attention without an initial tribute, which may deter the lot of who have been titled as a timewaster.
In truth, I apparently am quite difficult to approach by males, or most likely, it is that I do not appeal to the majority of males in the scene, as I do not possess the physical attributes most often sought out. I have even put out polls on twitter posing the question whether my followers believe that findom success is based upon being young and thin. Of course the results were as I expected, but they were incorrect nonetheless. My life experience has taught me quite well how males think(regardless of how women wished they thought), and what look they will chase, pay, and obey. This is not me bashing, this is me conveying truth. Magazine covers well and truly reflect what males desire, and yes there will be exceptions, but they will be very few. Not only do I not physically appeal to the conglomeration of males sporting the submissive nomer, but I am old enough to sense a line of BS when spouted my way, and this is a massive deterrent for wasters. Effort and finesse are a requirement of earning my precious time, so you can surely see why the few who are left avoid my inbox like the plague. I am straightforward, and have no issue with burning a male to the core if I believe him to be attempting to perpetrate a deception with me. Frightening eh?
I got off topic didn't I lol..treasure vs trash. Treasures are the males who serve without expectations, and with devotion regardless of circumstance. I tend to notice patterns, especially in findom, and some are so very disheartening. Example: A Domme becomes physically ill, and she is unable to work for compensation to pay her bills, so she reaches out to the findom community for aid, but lo an behold, which group do you think fails her in her time of need? Males, that is who. It is always her fellow Femmes who come to the rescue. Ya know, back in the days when gentlemen existed, a man would not stand to see a woman suffer with worry over financial burdens, for he knew that he was obligated to care for women. Those days have passed, and what is left is a pile of trash..yup I am calling YOU trash. Now this has never been the case with me, thank goodness, but many a fine woman in the scene has experienced this stumbling block, and the results are always the same. What can I gleam from this information?
Obviously I would deduce that males in the scene will not be moved to help a woman if he does not stand to gain from said action. How selfishly sick is that? Not only does this apply to fetish males, but to males in general. I am aware of the attack on masculinity being played out in the media right now, and you guys are not helping your image at all. I in no way would ever wish to see masculinity expunged from my male counterparts. It would be a travesty. I like men. Do note that I said men, not males. I define the two terms differently. A man is honest, loyal, dependable, and firm in his conviction to protect and provide for a woman. He does not act in such a way that places himself to the forefront in a relationship. He does not require a gain in order to give. You guys on the other hand are an entirely different beast. You are shady, you are selfish, you do not provide, you are a quintessential leech. You take and take from women, and when a woman is in need, you are no where to be found.
The only humorous aspect of the entire scenario, is that as soon as a Domme is back on her feet, you are the first one there trying to sniff her ass. That is not the funny part, the aspect which humors me, is when you are turned out from her inbox without a fair thee well. Seriously I doubt that it hinders you in any way, for you are always looking for the next hottie to masturbate to, but it tickles me anyway. One would think, and yes I mean think, that after repeated occurrences you would eventually evolve into a decent man, alas though that does not seem to be the case, and you will be the one who suffers for your actions. You will be the one who at the end of your life is alone. None will care for your passing, and not a soul will mourn your loss, for you thought only of yourself, when you were intended to do so much more. That is the future you are facing, so reflect upon that when you are jerking your dick for the thousandth time. You meant nothing, and your life was fruitless. That is sad, and this is why you earned the distinction of being a loser.
There is still time though. You can turn this around. You can do better. You can cease focusing upon yourself, and what your dick demands. You can be a good man, and a wonderful treasure of a submissive if you want to be. It is on you.
I personally do not believe that you will change. I think that my words fall upon deaf and dumb ears. for you have convinced yourself that you are entitled to put yourself first and foremost, and fuck off to anyone who says otherwise, afterall, your dick keeps you company just fine. Who knows though...I have been pleasantly surprised by a select group of males previously, you just might be one of them. Otherwise, enjoy your time on the trash heap :)
This blog has been my baby for years. I have employed it to rant, to rave, to boast, to educate, to train, and to simply share a side of myself that enabled many to get to know me. I have posted hundreds of pieces, and always felt like putting my thoughts out there was a good thing, but I no longer believe that to be true.
Over the past few months I have put out a shit ton of blogs and photos, yet the work has not been appreciated tangibly by any of you. Not a single one of you aided in my blanket charity drive. Not a single one of you sent me a birthday tribute. Not a single one of you has seen fit to send me a gift for the upcoming holidays. These facts combined are quite telling to me.
None of you appreciate the time I have taken, nor the effort I have expended, so honestly I do not see the point in wasting my time further. Of course I do not expect any of you to comment upon this, or even regret your lack of action. This is not a woe is me post, this is a post reflecting that I no longer choose to invest my time in those who do not invest in my overall happiness.
I most certainly do not enjoy the feeling that I am being used by males, and that is all that you males have done over the past year, but that is over. I am just going to relax and chill over the holidays, and if I get the itch to post ever again, it will be private and shared only with those who show appreciation in findom form.
Today's subject will be waxing on about the subject of doxxing.
You will see the word doxxing used quite frequently in nilla instances and fetish ones. It is a seriously offensive action. It has the potential of fatal repercussions, which it is why it is never and I mean never ever ever a joking matter. This is probably why I do not engage in blackmail play, since I am never ever going to out someone, regardless of how much you pay me.
One of the first rules you learn about in the fetish scene is safety. You play safely, and you do all within your power to be safely played with. Play has real life ramifications if done improperly. This we all know, right? I sincerely hope so.
Now in the fetish scene, it is more common than not for people to employ stage names. This is a safety measure. It is used as a line of protection to deter stalkers, and those whose intent is ill willed. Women whether you realize it or not, are more likely than men to be murdered or abused in the fetish scene, hell in the world at large, so it only makes sense that women will take steps to ensure that they are untraceable in their nilla spheres. No one should be faulting a woman for taking precautions.
A woman who uses a faux name is no less a "real Domme" than a woman who doesn't use one. The only thing she is hiding is a direct route to her person, which many of you males do as well. Males in the scene are very likely to provide a false name as well, along with refusing to post any type of photo with their face included. They reason this to be for privacy reasons due to employment, yet it is as well a form of protection of their person. No one that I know of desires to have a random fetish stranger calling their personal number, or showing up at their home without an explicit invitation. It just is not done. In fact, quite a few people compartmentalize their vanilla life far away from their fetish one, so keeping your information private is a sensible rule of thumb.
I understand that after having known someone online for a goodly amount of time that tidbits about your life and person will slip out, and this is where issues can arise. The person you had confidence in to keep your data secret suddenly turns on you. I have seen both males and females alike stoop to this unforgivable behavior. Trust is paramount in bdsm, so to see it abused is reprehensible to say the least.
I have noted males getting angry with Dommes they have served, and outing them to the public, which then opens the Domme up to possible danger. In turn I have witnessed Dommes putting a male on blast with his personal information shared, and that is vile as well. Even the threat of doxxing someone should earn you a shunning, and no I do not give a flying fuck for how successful you are in the scene, or how much money you have in your bank account, cause if you doxx or threaten to doxx anyone, you do not belong anywhere near the fetish scene. You in fact need to seek mental help immediately for your toxicity.
The best thing to do, and I really do dislike advising this course of action, but the best thing you can do to protect yourself, is to not share personal information at all with anyone. I realize that the temptation is there, but you must resist, because in the end, you may very well be putting your life at stake. Is it really worth that risk? For me, I say no, but of course you must choose your own path, but I do hope that my words have given you food for thought.
Be safe all!
You come before me lost. You come before me unsure. You know not the way to go.
I stand before you as a living symbol of what could be. I stand before you as the breathing embodiment of Goddess.
Are you ready? Have you caught your breath...is your heart beating a staccato of anticipation? You are on the precipice. Don't look down, just close your eyes and take that step. You are ready.
I stand as the last bastion of safety in your search for the perfect Goddess. I alone stand here. Your eyes forward, you can see no other. I am the promise of purpose, the declaration of peace you have desired. Nothing and none so great as I, your Goddess.
Prostrate yourself at my feet and beg for the redemption you need. Shed the pieces of self that have dragged as chains upon you your entire life. Discard that false shell which you reflect to the world. Goddess sees you as you truly are, and finds value in your submission.
You are ready. Give yourself into my keeping. Yes I will push you. I will bend you. I will carve from you the undesirable bits, and you will be reborn as a servant of her most exalted, Goddess Sydney. You will be as never before. You will listen, you will learn, you will evolve.
Sever the threads holding you to your former self. You are ready to become...to become what you were destined to become...MINE. The sands run quickly through the hourglass..come to Goddess, lest your most poignant regretted loss at the end of your life be that of not coming to Goddess.
YOU ARE READY!
Have you ever been blocked by me on a social media site, or a messenger service?
Odds are that you have not. Why? Cause I do not make a practice of blocking folks. There are only a handful of reasons that I ever block anyone.
1)You have been rude to me. Now rude can be defined in different ways. I am not talking about people who in general do not share the same views as I. I always welcome dissenting opinions, so long as they are relayed in a well mannered context..ie none of that "you are wrong you stupid bitch". You can disagree with me respectfully, yet still remain in contact with me :) FYI unsolicited dick pics are considered the height of rudeness, please don't do it.
2)You make misogynistic statements. If you do not like or even hate women, do yourself the service of not interacting with them. Sure it may make you feel all special and superior when you disparage women on the internet, but it really makes you look like a pile of steaming shit. That is not an appealing look for anyone. This does not apply to men alone, for I have seen plenty of women who like to trash fellow women as well, and they get blocked too.
3)You outright lie to me. I am going to tell you now fellas, I have been around the block more times than I can count, so pulling a fast one on me is pretty darn difficult, so let's just you some time by not expending effort in that direction at all ok. I have a definite hate hard on for liars, and will block you before you can get the delivery line out. You have been duly warned.
4)You are a bully. Ugh I detest people that nit pick at others to make themselves feel better about their own crappiness of a life. This goes as well for those that jump on the band of bullies wagon. You know what I am talking about. We have all seen where 1 person gets pissed at someone, then all of their buds pipe up in on it. That is so junior highish..just say NO.
5)You are trying to use me for your own gain. Now this can be a fine line to walk. I realize that some of you fetish guys are seeking out someone to fulfill your fetish desires, I totally get that, but if you do not intend to compensate for that woman's time, than I lose all respect for you as a human being. I do not like being taken advantage of, and at my age, you are highly unlikely to get anywhere near using me with my consent.
There ya go, a handful of reasons why I block. Don't fall foul of my blocking hand, cause it is straight up sadistic lol
***Feel free to share with me here why you block people!***
I do not play with strangers
If you knew me, you would know that I have no desire to play with submissives whom I know nothing of. It brings me no pleasure, and it is actually a debbie downer for me.
Dominating a male that has taken the time to make a connection with me, ensures that we both find fulfillment within the exchange, and fulfillment is what we all seek is it not?
I definitely do not play in person with random strange males. 1)That is a safety NO NO for me, and should be for you as well. 2)It leaves me feeling cold and detached. Whilst some of you pisspots on the net do deserve a brutal ball busting session, I won't offer to engage in it without knowing you first. FYI I love nut busting :) so get to know me first, and I just might drop you to your knees lol!
All males who serve me are told flat out that real time will not be an option til they have served out an online probationary period, and there are no exceptions to this rule. Serving me online is similar to a courtship in a fetish relationship. You get to interact with me daily, learn my likes and dislikes, see a side of me that is not available for public consumption, and I gain the knowledge I require to break you to my bit:)
Getting to know someone is an exhilarating experience if done correctly. It is like foreplay for the mind. Take your time. There is no need to rush through it. It is definitely not a sprint to the finish line. Slow your roll, and keep a steady pace. You will get there in time. I prefer long term servitude anyway, so anyone that lacks the patience to get to know me properly is not going to last in my stable, and I would rather find that out early on, rather than wasting any of my precious time on someone who does not possess the same goal.
I understand how exciting it can be to come across someone that you really want to indulge your fetish with, but trying to steamroll your way into their presence is just not going to end up very well, especially for those of you seeking out someone to mindfuck your existence. Dommes need to know your buttons before they can push them doll.
Yes drive by tributes, and one off sessions with slutty nuts can be fun for me, but it really isn't my preference unless it is a slut that I have played with before. I get that some of you treat fetish like a Baskin Robbins. You want to try all 51 flavors of domination, and that is ok so long as you realize that not only will it break your piggy bank, but it may sour you on fetish altogether, cause all you are going to get is a flash bang for that buck, so unless that it really what you are looking for than I advise to avoid that type of approach. There is an upside to slutting though. Engaging with multiple Dommes ups your odds of finding that special ONE. The one that you are meant to serve long term, and that is a definite positive!
The choice of which type of Domme you serve is ultimately yours to make, but don't act like a dick when you come across a Domme that is not in to shortstack session servitude. Respect the right of a woman to decide which males she wishes to play with, and her rules of engagement. That way, if either of you ever changes your stance, you will have left the door open to the possibility! You never know what the future may hold, so don't burn those bridges bb :)
As always...amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com are a great way of saying "I appreciate you"
What
The what is Findom. You do know what Findom is don't you? If not, than why not? You know how to google don't you? Now that is a crux is it not. You lazy turds are certainly not going to want to waste your own time searching for an answer now are you? Whelp since I am an all around nice person, I am going to help you out this one time.
Findom is a fetish. A fetish in which men aka you give their money to women with no expectation of reciprocal services. Sounds pretty crazy huh? I bet. I know that most of you are scratching your balls after reading that, cause you cannot figure out why you should give your money to any woman who is not doing something for you to earn it. You are drenched in the customer mindset. The one that dictates that you should receive a product when you provide currency. This is something that you are going to have get over. You will get no where fast if you do not.
Why
Why do men give their money to women with no hope of reciprocation? They do it out of respect. They do it to convey appreciation. They do it because they cannot help but to provide, for it is ingrained within men to be providers. They do it as a form of power transfer, after all bdsm is all about the exchange of power, the relinquishment of self, and money is POWER. They do it to convey worship, a tithe, a tribute, a contribution to the life of their Goddess.
When
The whens of tribute is set via the FinDom. Of course the initial tribute should be sent prior to engagement. That is to say that you as the man should have already researched the Domme in question way before you ever approached her. Study her as you would the holy grail..quietly in awe and from a distance til you are prepared to offer her your servitude.
Once you have received the tribute schedule, do not ever think to disregard it for your own selfish intentions. A man will be judged by his adherence to his word. Be the type of man who lives up to his word. If at any point you cannot meet your obligations to your FinDom for any reason, than you need to convey to her the whys of it asap.
How much
This is not a question to ask. Sacrifice is not an option, it is a requirement of serving a FinDom. If you are not suffering to some degree from the amount of your financial contribution, than you are in essence stealing from your FinDom, and that is never acceptable. Do not be the sketchy trickster who attempts to cheapen the experience by withholding from her financially. Selfless, sacrifice, suffering, and servitude all go together hand in hand.
Is Findom for you
Findom is for all those who seek it sincerely with generosity. If you are not willing to give, to tithe, to tribute, to provide, to contribute, than no it is not for you. If you believe that you must gain other than the pleasure of enriching your Domme's life from serving than no Findom is not for you. If your only intent is to stroke your penis, than no Findom is not for you. If it does not excite you to give your money to a woman, than no Findom is not for you. If you will not commit your cash, than no Findom is not for you.
If you receive an incredible rush, a stomach full of butterflies, a lightheaded soaring, a flesh tingling feeling whenever you send tribute, than yes Findom is for you. If you cannot imagine anything more right than devoting your life and fruits of livelihood to your FinDom, than yes Findom is for you. If you are prepared to serve with all that you have, than yes Findom is for you. If you see women as Goddesses deserving of all your riches, than yes Findom is for you.
Now
You have been educated. Are you ready to begin your journey into financial servitude to a Golden Goddess? If so, than send your first tribute today to mzsydney34@yahoo.com
