A couple of teaser pics for you feet freaks :)
Tuesday, July 14, 2015
Monday, July 13, 2015
Til death do us part
I recently commented on a particular findom site in regards to marriage and dating in the financial domination scene,and decided to post a little write up comprised of my personal opinion upon the subject formed from my own experiences,observations,and thoughts.
Of late there have been many males approaching Dommes with the hope burning bright that they would somehow become a permanent fixture in her life,even to the point of holding legal status in a relationship,and this is where the train of thought is derailing into fantasyland. I as a mindful conductor of submission and reality check inspector must at this point hold up the naysaying hand. Aww poor males forcibly brought short with the realization that you are chasing your own tail.
Financial domination is not the realm where the dating show is hosted. Chuck Woolery does not dwell here. Of all the fetish arenas,this one is the LEAST likely to net you a girlfriend,fwb,or wife. It is not a bad thing,it just is. Yes of course long term bonds are forged,and fin relationships last years,but the outcome is not conducive to marriage,maybe if you are fortunate a friendship will evolve,or a connection of caring,and those should be what you aspire to,not a gold collar. I myself have grown quite fond of a couple of males that have served me,but not once did I consider dating them,much less marrying them(submissive is a sexual turn off for me),and I am not alone in this thought process.
This is not an absolute though,for I have known of a handful(within my groups) of Dommes that do date submissive males,so it does occur,but the odds are significantly lower(buy a lottery ticket for better odds). It does no male any good to set his eyes on a level which he cannot reach,even if he is a masochist. I am not one for blowing smoke up asses which is why I felt the need to post this piece.
Basically what I am saying,is that if you are on the hunt for a realtime fulltime FLR,the findom forums are not the place to pin your hopes and dreams. There are plenty of dating sites,even ones with a kinky twist,so do give that option due consideration before you make an ass of yourself trying to date Dommes that are here to dominate your finances,rather than saying "I do" to you.
Of late there have been many males approaching Dommes with the hope burning bright that they would somehow become a permanent fixture in her life,even to the point of holding legal status in a relationship,and this is where the train of thought is derailing into fantasyland. I as a mindful conductor of submission and reality check inspector must at this point hold up the naysaying hand. Aww poor males forcibly brought short with the realization that you are chasing your own tail.
Financial domination is not the realm where the dating show is hosted. Chuck Woolery does not dwell here. Of all the fetish arenas,this one is the LEAST likely to net you a girlfriend,fwb,or wife. It is not a bad thing,it just is. Yes of course long term bonds are forged,and fin relationships last years,but the outcome is not conducive to marriage,maybe if you are fortunate a friendship will evolve,or a connection of caring,and those should be what you aspire to,not a gold collar. I myself have grown quite fond of a couple of males that have served me,but not once did I consider dating them,much less marrying them(submissive is a sexual turn off for me),and I am not alone in this thought process.
This is not an absolute though,for I have known of a handful(within my groups) of Dommes that do date submissive males,so it does occur,but the odds are significantly lower(buy a lottery ticket for better odds). It does no male any good to set his eyes on a level which he cannot reach,even if he is a masochist. I am not one for blowing smoke up asses which is why I felt the need to post this piece.
Basically what I am saying,is that if you are on the hunt for a realtime fulltime FLR,the findom forums are not the place to pin your hopes and dreams. There are plenty of dating sites,even ones with a kinky twist,so do give that option due consideration before you make an ass of yourself trying to date Dommes that are here to dominate your finances,rather than saying "I do" to you.
Saturday, July 11, 2015
boys boys boys
Sit right down,cause I am gonna school you a lesson in submission. Okays then,here we go.
Saying that a Domme needs to do this or that to gain your submission is a bullshit ploy of yours to top from the bottom..no excuses,and no trying to deny it. It is what I said it was.
I have spoken to more males,than farts fly in the wind,and you are not going to tell me something that I have not heard before(seriously). Let's start with the most common ones. a)"I need to be made to suck cock to feel submissive"...yup heard that one alot,and my reply is simple,if you are setting conditions on your submission(other than absolute hard limits),then you are not actually submitting(you are just seeking a facilitator for your fantasies),and I have no use for you period. b)"I need you to force me to tribute" ack that one makes me gag. Do I or any other Domme look like your Mommy? Handholding is for parents,and high school sweethearts(I am neither),so do take that whiny manipulative shit next door. c)I need to be teased with your flesh in order to submit" *puke* yup you are just another misogynistic male seeking to objectify a woman's body for your visual gratification,and that seriously sucks ass.
Do you see the common thread in each of those examples? Clearly each one is about males(I will not honor them with the term submissive) getting what they want,claiming it as a NEED. Every one of those scenarios is about male wants,he wants to be forced,he wants to see flesh,so tell me how in the hell any of that is about what the Domme wants? It isn't.
I am not trying to devalue actual needs of subgents,but attempting to dress up a want's clothing as a need,is not cool,and is quite obvious. This behavior is exactly why Dommes get pissy and fed up with the lot of you. Submitting is not about getting off,or getting what you want. It is about letting go of self serving agendas,and focusing your energy on the wants of another. It is selfless,not selfish. Why is that such a difficult concept for so many of you to swallow?? I wonder about the educational systems of the world,if the majority of the male fetish scene population cannot decipher the difference between selfish and selfless. Serving can NEVER be about you the servant,else it would not be deemed serving.
Perhaps the issue stems from males seeking out the lifestyle for their own wants,and if so,then there is a solution. They will not run afoul or get blocked if they keep their inquiries contained to the boxes of service providers,and far from the door of Dommes who expect actual service. If you "need" to be flashed flesh,there are tons of cam sites just for that purpose alone,if you "need" to be forced to tribute(do not call it tribute though,tribute is a gift sans expectations,call it a payment) or to suck cock,once again there are providers who will happily take your cash,and make demands such as you want. Bottom line,unless you are selflessly seeking to serve a Domme,then do not contact a Domme.
Saying that a Domme needs to do this or that to gain your submission is a bullshit ploy of yours to top from the bottom..no excuses,and no trying to deny it. It is what I said it was.
I have spoken to more males,than farts fly in the wind,and you are not going to tell me something that I have not heard before(seriously). Let's start with the most common ones. a)"I need to be made to suck cock to feel submissive"...yup heard that one alot,and my reply is simple,if you are setting conditions on your submission(other than absolute hard limits),then you are not actually submitting(you are just seeking a facilitator for your fantasies),and I have no use for you period. b)"I need you to force me to tribute" ack that one makes me gag. Do I or any other Domme look like your Mommy? Handholding is for parents,and high school sweethearts(I am neither),so do take that whiny manipulative shit next door. c)I need to be teased with your flesh in order to submit" *puke* yup you are just another misogynistic male seeking to objectify a woman's body for your visual gratification,and that seriously sucks ass.
Do you see the common thread in each of those examples? Clearly each one is about males(I will not honor them with the term submissive) getting what they want,claiming it as a NEED. Every one of those scenarios is about male wants,he wants to be forced,he wants to see flesh,so tell me how in the hell any of that is about what the Domme wants? It isn't.
I am not trying to devalue actual needs of subgents,but attempting to dress up a want's clothing as a need,is not cool,and is quite obvious. This behavior is exactly why Dommes get pissy and fed up with the lot of you. Submitting is not about getting off,or getting what you want. It is about letting go of self serving agendas,and focusing your energy on the wants of another. It is selfless,not selfish. Why is that such a difficult concept for so many of you to swallow?? I wonder about the educational systems of the world,if the majority of the male fetish scene population cannot decipher the difference between selfish and selfless. Serving can NEVER be about you the servant,else it would not be deemed serving.
Perhaps the issue stems from males seeking out the lifestyle for their own wants,and if so,then there is a solution. They will not run afoul or get blocked if they keep their inquiries contained to the boxes of service providers,and far from the door of Dommes who expect actual service. If you "need" to be flashed flesh,there are tons of cam sites just for that purpose alone,if you "need" to be forced to tribute(do not call it tribute though,tribute is a gift sans expectations,call it a payment) or to suck cock,once again there are providers who will happily take your cash,and make demands such as you want. Bottom line,unless you are selflessly seeking to serve a Domme,then do not contact a Domme.
Friday, July 10, 2015
Reality trumps fantasy
I am not Prince Charming(no penis),and you are a far shot away from being Cinderella(you have a penis),so please oh please do not come to me with the expectation that I am going to whisk you away from your life of drudgery and toil. Submission is not about running away from your life(it is about embracing your inner submissive),and you are deluding yourself if you believe that it is. I know not of a single dominant who craves to kidnap a male from his life just to have a total stranger living in their home,and living off of their livelihood like a parasitic leech. Women were not created to pay your way through life,while you sit on your ass or prance around in a tutu,playing at cleaning house. Get a grip. I can afford a "real" housekeeper who leaves when the work is done(no headaches,no whining)and definitely no strain on my patience or budget.
Any mature individual knows that you cannot run away from your problems in life(they follow you like bill collectors). Reality kicks the ass of a fairytale everyday. Yes fantasies are wonderful,but they are not realistic. I myself would adore setting upon a throne,septor in hand,but I know that it is not going to happen in the waking world. What I can hope for though,is submissive males treating me as their Queen,and that is feasible.
I am not stating that 24/7 does not exist(I know it does,perhaps even ones where the male does not work outside the home),but I do not believe it to be the prevailing trend,and never with me. You as a submissive male are going to be laboring under the expectation that you provide for your dominant,yes work(a filthy 4 letter word). It is a rarity like that of winning the lottery that you as a submissive male will locate a Domme who will not expect you to contribute to her life financially,even pure lifestyle Dominas require gifts,so there are no free rides.
In short I advise getting your life in order(yes it is difficult at times,and sucks rotten eggs) but it is the only way you are going to be of worth,so get your head on straight,and cease expecting submission to be a ticket to a free room and board position. A collar does not absolve one of responsibility,nor the obligation of actually serving.
Any mature individual knows that you cannot run away from your problems in life(they follow you like bill collectors). Reality kicks the ass of a fairytale everyday. Yes fantasies are wonderful,but they are not realistic. I myself would adore setting upon a throne,septor in hand,but I know that it is not going to happen in the waking world. What I can hope for though,is submissive males treating me as their Queen,and that is feasible.
I am not stating that 24/7 does not exist(I know it does,perhaps even ones where the male does not work outside the home),but I do not believe it to be the prevailing trend,and never with me. You as a submissive male are going to be laboring under the expectation that you provide for your dominant,yes work(a filthy 4 letter word). It is a rarity like that of winning the lottery that you as a submissive male will locate a Domme who will not expect you to contribute to her life financially,even pure lifestyle Dominas require gifts,so there are no free rides.
In short I advise getting your life in order(yes it is difficult at times,and sucks rotten eggs) but it is the only way you are going to be of worth,so get your head on straight,and cease expecting submission to be a ticket to a free room and board position. A collar does not absolve one of responsibility,nor the obligation of actually serving.
Tribute is not a 4 letter word
Tribute tribute tribute tribute. Yes I like the sound of that word lol. There are differing interpretations in regards to that word,but the only one I concern myself with,is my own.
My views on tribute are as such: It is a gift,and gifts do not have expectations attached to them. They do not come in as one side of an exchange ie tit for tat(meaning a tribute is not something that you send to receive a service). The exchange service is most often how I see the word misused. A chap comes along desiring a cam session which is a paid service(entirely different than service),and calls his payment a tribute..eck do not pass go or collect $200 because this is wrong. Note where I said that a tribute is a gift.
The word tribute is the magical wand of fetishes,almost like a pregnancy stick in the vanilla world,as both make males run screaming. Why does it frighten though? I have many theories. 1)A male who is dead dick broke and cannot even afford to take a date to Mickey D's,definitely is going to haul ass when he sees this word(perhaps even leaving with an angry tirade lashed out,you know the type,the ones who call females whores because they won't put out for free). 2)A male that is centered upon his own selfish self serving agenda is going to backtrack quickly as well,for he does not believe in gifting without the expectation of having his jollies rubbed off. 3)A male that equates serving with sex..he does not pay for such,for you should do it purely for your own enjoyment,and at your own expense,cause we all know that fetish gear should be acquired out of your pocket only. 4)Misogynists..oh how they hate...and women are objects to be used for their personal gratification. That is just a few,feel free to add to it.
After picking your way through the above mentioned rubbish,you are left with a very select few males. These are the treasures. They are those that grasp the honor of tributing. They relish the fact that they impact a Domme's life in a positive manner. They beg to be allowed to enrich her life,to play even a small part in her happiness. They do not make demands,they do not snivel and whine if she is busy with life. The prevailing goal in their minds is to be all,and do all that she requires. Of course he is over the moon to have a moment of her time,but he will never bitch to receive it. He bides his time,he works hard,and at the end of the day,he is thankful to serve his purpose in life,which is serving the superior sex. This is why these males are coveted jewels in a crown.
My views on tribute are as such: It is a gift,and gifts do not have expectations attached to them. They do not come in as one side of an exchange ie tit for tat(meaning a tribute is not something that you send to receive a service). The exchange service is most often how I see the word misused. A chap comes along desiring a cam session which is a paid service(entirely different than service),and calls his payment a tribute..eck do not pass go or collect $200 because this is wrong. Note where I said that a tribute is a gift.
The word tribute is the magical wand of fetishes,almost like a pregnancy stick in the vanilla world,as both make males run screaming. Why does it frighten though? I have many theories. 1)A male who is dead dick broke and cannot even afford to take a date to Mickey D's,definitely is going to haul ass when he sees this word(perhaps even leaving with an angry tirade lashed out,you know the type,the ones who call females whores because they won't put out for free). 2)A male that is centered upon his own selfish self serving agenda is going to backtrack quickly as well,for he does not believe in gifting without the expectation of having his jollies rubbed off. 3)A male that equates serving with sex..he does not pay for such,for you should do it purely for your own enjoyment,and at your own expense,cause we all know that fetish gear should be acquired out of your pocket only. 4)Misogynists..oh how they hate...and women are objects to be used for their personal gratification. That is just a few,feel free to add to it.
After picking your way through the above mentioned rubbish,you are left with a very select few males. These are the treasures. They are those that grasp the honor of tributing. They relish the fact that they impact a Domme's life in a positive manner. They beg to be allowed to enrich her life,to play even a small part in her happiness. They do not make demands,they do not snivel and whine if she is busy with life. The prevailing goal in their minds is to be all,and do all that she requires. Of course he is over the moon to have a moment of her time,but he will never bitch to receive it. He bides his time,he works hard,and at the end of the day,he is thankful to serve his purpose in life,which is serving the superior sex. This is why these males are coveted jewels in a crown.
Thursday, July 9, 2015
Goddess has returned from vacation...yay for you that divinity will be available to brighten your life once more. My time was spent in utter relaxation with my family,and no I will not be posting photos,as they were shared only with those that contributed to the financial aspects of making this trip possible.
How I adored being back in my small town where you need never lock your doors,or concern yourself if you left your purse in plain sight while strolling downtown. There definitely are perks to small town America...such as beautiful firework displays,people waving as you go by(and no I do not mean the one finger salute)..couples in rocking chairs on their porches,parades with horses,and carnivals with huge corndogs and lemon shake ups!! Just being me was wonderful. No need to cake my face with the civility of make up,or check constantly that every hair was in place. No use for fancy tech or jewels...doesn't that sound amazing?? Trips to the lake,and an amusement park(definitely you should add six flags to your vacation planner).
Alas though,all good things come to an end,so here I am back in the big city. Your job is to scrimp and sacrifice to fund my next trip,so get to it minions! Labor day sounds like the perfect time for a weekend getaway. Plenty of time for you to make it happen.
Onto further news..a sweet little pet has drifted away due to personal issues(they always come back) but he did spoil me aplenty this month..to the tune of $620 in cash and $2400 in amazon gc's(too lazy to post pics of them all,but some of the spoils are on twitter)!! That is orgasmic :) The rest of you better step up your gifting.
Of course my little brat remains as faithful as ever to my happiness by funding my charitable projects,and keeping my lawn tidy,such a good boy. That is the extent of my stable at the moment,and honestly I am not sweating it. My goal was only to ever hold sway over 2-3 boys. Anymore and I would not have the time needed to train them. Drive by cash sluts are always welcome to visit the royal stables,but no permanent lodging :) Since I am rejuvenated and most pleased at the moment,I will be accepting applications for 1 single slot,so let the competition begin. Impress me,woo me,court me with your cash,not your compliments,and perhaps you shall be the honored boy to spend time with a Goddess :)
How I adored being back in my small town where you need never lock your doors,or concern yourself if you left your purse in plain sight while strolling downtown. There definitely are perks to small town America...such as beautiful firework displays,people waving as you go by(and no I do not mean the one finger salute)..couples in rocking chairs on their porches,parades with horses,and carnivals with huge corndogs and lemon shake ups!! Just being me was wonderful. No need to cake my face with the civility of make up,or check constantly that every hair was in place. No use for fancy tech or jewels...doesn't that sound amazing?? Trips to the lake,and an amusement park(definitely you should add six flags to your vacation planner).
Alas though,all good things come to an end,so here I am back in the big city. Your job is to scrimp and sacrifice to fund my next trip,so get to it minions! Labor day sounds like the perfect time for a weekend getaway. Plenty of time for you to make it happen.
Onto further news..a sweet little pet has drifted away due to personal issues(they always come back) but he did spoil me aplenty this month..to the tune of $620 in cash and $2400 in amazon gc's(too lazy to post pics of them all,but some of the spoils are on twitter)!! That is orgasmic :) The rest of you better step up your gifting.
Of course my little brat remains as faithful as ever to my happiness by funding my charitable projects,and keeping my lawn tidy,such a good boy. That is the extent of my stable at the moment,and honestly I am not sweating it. My goal was only to ever hold sway over 2-3 boys. Anymore and I would not have the time needed to train them. Drive by cash sluts are always welcome to visit the royal stables,but no permanent lodging :) Since I am rejuvenated and most pleased at the moment,I will be accepting applications for 1 single slot,so let the competition begin. Impress me,woo me,court me with your cash,not your compliments,and perhaps you shall be the honored boy to spend time with a Goddess :)
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