Winter is the best time to start your cock lock journey
Why is it the best time though?
Because it is cold outside
Being as it is cold outside, you are able to dress in layers, and loose baggy clothing, unlike in the summer time when you are basically forced to dress down to the least amount of clothing. This affords you the distinct opportunity to cover up that cock cage in public settings most effectively. Keeping your chastity cage a secret is difficult to do when you are wearing shorty shorts in the dead hot heat of summer lol Not to mention that the little demon in your pants is less likely to be popping it's head up when it is 10 below outside, cause walking out in the brisk winds of winter makes a shriveled mockery of your manhood anyway. Another benefit to cold weather chastity, is that when your willie gets frosty, it is not going to be straining at the bit to get loose and create havoc, which means less pain for you since erections in a cage cause constriction of your cock..ie ouch! That is a definite plus!
It will make your winter more productive
Ever notice how in the cold months, all of your activities are mainly sedentary and indoors? You sit around bitching and moaning about how cold it is, while you are downloading porn in the hopes that you can seduce your hand. Nothing gets done, except your dicklet making a mess on the keyboard, and who has time for cleaning up after his ass, so do yourself a favor, and lock that cock today. Now you can get on with getting productive. You will find yourself able to concentrate on getting more out of your life without his obtrusive presence constantly calling on you to selfishly pleasure him. Haven't you allowed him to take up too much of your precious time as it is? Make the choice to give him the cold shoulder by locking him away under a cold steel chastity cage :) and freeze him out by tossing the key into a container of water in your freezer.
Your cock will be conditioned to keep calm
By the time summer rolls around, your cock will no longer be caterwauling to be set free. It will become your good boy, so that you can get out to enjoy the sunshine without worrying he is going to call undue attention to you at the beach. No one likes pervs at the beach popping a pup tent. Save yourself that embarrassment. You and I both know that you only lose out when women find out that you got the short end of the stick so to speak. You don't need that type of rejection. You are way better suited to locking that jolly joke away for Goddess anyway :)
So be MY good boy, and commit to chastity today!
And as always, don't forget to send an amazon gift card as a display of your undying appreciation to mzsydney34@yahoo.com, and feel free to leave your comments, thoughts, or opinions on today's post!!
**Note, I have a free chastity task for unowned males who are interested**
Has society changed in regards to BBW's
To some degree we have seen change in the way BBW's are treated in the media and general society. The uprising of body positivity and eff the beauty standards have led the way to greater acceptance of non-comformative body beauty. I for one am pleased as punch to see this, and hope that it surges forward in momentum. It is time for the world to cease their hatred lobbying against BBW's. We do have a long way to go though, considering that most still deem it acceptable to bash and trash on larger sized women under the guise of caring about their health, and the better part of the time they do not even bother with that tactic, it is simply a targeted vicious verbal assault. You tell me...why is it unacceptable to judge people according to their color, sex, creed, or religion, but yet body shaming is rampantly active and celebrated?
Who keeps body shaming active and alive
The majority of "fat shaming" is perpetrated by men. Men obviously lack discretion or common sense in relation to acceptable social behavior. The patriarchy for centuries has set and defended their outlined standard for female attractiveness, and either women toe that line, or they will be verbally stoned til they conform. Irony is that the majority of women in this country fail to meet those standards either, which is why the patriarchy employs the media to do the shaming for them. Ads in print, billboards, television, and online all portray a similar body type for women. That image is young, thin with larger breasts, collagen injected lips, long hair, and unblemished skin. You tell me, does the average woman on the street look like what I described? Nope they do not, which is what led to the rise of flourishing cosmetic surgery. Now women can get nipped, tucked, breast enlargements, lip fillers, hair extensions, and lipo to within an inch of their lives.
Body shaming leads to far reaching outcomes
Companies (ran by men coincidentally) will claim that they do not promote unhealthy images for women and young girls just developing their self-esteem, but they are LIARS. Sure they refuse to use models of BBW, or Lord forbid, SSBBW sizes, because that wouldn't be portraying a healthy image, but they have zero issues glamorizing women who are severely underweight, which is "unhealthy" as well. They airbrush and airbrush, and photoshop out all "imperfections", so what is left is barely humanly possible for a woman to attain. This sets a standard that no female can reach without surgical intervention. It that healthy? It is positive for young girls on the threshold of becoming a woman?
The real reason why the struggle continues
Men. Yes they are at fault, but women must step up and accept part of the load, for we have allowed this travesty to continue for way too long. In our quest to be seen as of having value in society by men, we have dieted, purged, went under the knife, just for male acceptance and appreciation. It needs to stop, and I mean right now. We can no longer allow this unfit image of what men call sexy, beautiful, even hot, to poison our sense of self worth. Stop bowing your head in shame when men attempt to malign you with the "FAT" label. Take a stand Ladies please. If not for yourself, atleast do it for the girls coming of age.
What can you Ladies do to affect change
You can call out people when they trash non-conforming body shapes. You can start campaigns to call for non-conforming body types to be used in media advertising. You can refuse to purchase from companies that are not tolerant of BBW's, which will send a strong message, a financial call for them to change. You can personally pledge to never debase women who are larger than you. The change can begin with you, and radiate outward. Be that change!
How you men can make a difference
STOP shaming women about their weight and body type, just STOP. You have no basis to do so, and no right either. I understand that most of you are not attracted to larger women, and that is ok, but it becomes not ok when you are verbally bashing them. You don't like the way they look, DON'T LOOK at them. It is that simple. And another thing, start calling out your fellow men for their shitty behavior. If you set the example of what is acceptable, others will follow. Do it! You never know gents, someday you yourself may be blessed with female progeny, and you will not want to be the shoulder she is crying on when some inconsiderate asshole shames her for her body type. Chew on that image, and be the change!
Not my sexy self
I realize that my readers most likely do not come here to read about my views such as this, and prefer to just see the sexy fetish side of me, but if you are seeking to serve me, than you should appreciate all sides of me...which includes my big fat brain and outspoken opinions :)
As always, amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com are always a welcome form of appreciation!
Why speak if your words have no meaning?
Each and every day we venture out into the world at large, and we speak with no meaning. Our words are as empty as the false platitudes we offer. Why? Why bother to speak at all? We speak because it is polite. We speak because it is expected of us. If we did not speak, than others would form a poor opinion of us, and the majority of people who wander this planet, actually care what others think of them.
Caring about what others think of you
Why do you care how others see you? Why do you care how they speak of you behind your back? Does the opinion of others affect your life in a tangible manner? If you are disliked by the masses of society, will it devalue your life? One thing that I have learned in my life, is that others cannot live your life for you, and if you are living your life for the acceptance of others, than you are not actually living your best life at all.
Living your best life
Live your life the way you choose. Do the things that bring happiness and peace to you. Of course I would never advise anyone to purposefully act in a way that brings harm to others, but neither should you fear to be present in your life simply because others would not like how you choose to live it. If you want to immerse yourself in fetish play, do it! If you want to dedicate the rest of your life to serving a woman, do it! If you want to lock your cock up, and hand off the key to a woman, do it! If you want to wear panties, or stockings, even a dress, do it! Stop allowing the fear of public scrutiny to keep you from loving your life! You truly do only have this one lifetime, and to squander it is criminal.
Why meaningless words will hinder you in findom
Gentlemen I want you to really listen hard to what I am about to say. Your words mean nothing to a FinDom if your actions are not backing them up. It truly doesn't matter how many times you tell a Domme how beautiful, how sexy, how powerful you find her to be, if you are not complimenting her with tribute right along with it. In Financial Domination, your money is your verification of authenticity. It is your passport, and your ticket into the scene. You will be denied entry without it, this I promise you. Words will not take you where you wallet itself can. Remember this.
Why caring about what others think of you in the scene will matter
If you toss your dick pic into every inbox, you will be talked about poorly. If you are rude and demanding, you will be talked about poorly. If you lie, steal, or cheat a FinDom, you will be talked about poorly. Now you may harbor a false belief that the Financial Domination community is this huge bubble where no one knows anyone else, but you are making a mistake. I may not know all of the females in the fetish scene, but I guarantee that everyone has friends of a friend, and yes I openly admit that we do share the names of those males who have burnt bridges with us, which in turn will make fellow Dommes look at you askance when you try to talk them up. This is why you seriously want your reputation to be pristine. You must hold rein on your tongue, no matter how badly you want to lash out in anger when you are denied whatever it is you hoped to gain from a FinDom. You must act with integrity in word and deed. Do not forget this.
Denial of your best life
When you deny your submissive self, you are paring away a piece of essential self, and that can be quite harmful psychologically. You cannot deny who and what you are for a lifetime, and not expect repercussions in the form of depression, anxiety, and stress. You must allow yourself to express your submission, lest you permanently damage yourself, and no one wants that, least of all you, so don't do it! Be your submissive self, and be proud of it. Men who are submissive make better men. They are more considerate in their actions, and conscious of how their behavior affects others. Submission makes you a better person all around, and that should be towards the top of your personal list of goals. Do better, be better!
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Is Findom a fetish designed for the rich only
Why would anyone say this? Well, truth be boldly known, financial domination is a luxury fetish. Why? The reason being, that this fetish is not free. Findom can be quite costly, and should make a dent in your wallet if done correctly.
Findom requires males to be at minimum financially stable in order to engage in it. Being broke is not a positive when you are playing in the financial fetish field. It definitely gets steamy when men go into the red with tribute, but they should never begin there. Findom is meant to be fun, and for most, living in a cardboard box due to fetish play is not fun.
Financial Ruination
Of course there are a select few that enjoy taking findom to the extremes. There is an erotic element in going broke and bankrupt for your FinDom. Sounds rather hot :) Imagine giving your absolute all for your Domme. The ultimate sacrifice. Orgasmic power exchange!
As I said though, most do not want to take it to this level, and that is understandable.
Findom for the executive to entry level
These are the men who enjoy a moderate level of financial freedom. They possess an excess, which allows them to play and tribute in higher degrees. They make up a small contingent of finsubs, and are most welcome to serve. They are the ones who take command in their workplace, and crave to relinquish all of that delicious power into the hands of a dominant. The lower you take them down, the happier they will be! I adore this type of servant. That could be due to my insatiable hunger for tribute and power. Yes I want it all bb :)
Blue collar Laborer in Findom
This is the majority of males in the scene. They work hard, and play even harder. They want to experience it all, and don't complain about paying for quality luxury. They are the true bread and butter of findom. This is the type that I always want to put in panties. It is humorous as hell to see a rough looking manly man decked out in satin and lace :) Yes yes yes. I like this type of servant, why, because they are down to earth and dirty in their fetishes ;)
Findom for college boys
Yes I see alot of you, but 9/10 of you are looking for free or reduced fees to play. You tend to suffer from entitlement syndrome, and view women as objects for your use. You need to get your heads out of your asses, and your dickbeaters into your pockets asap! There is no valid excuse for you boys not to tribute. The overwhelmingly used excuse for non-tributing is "I am just a poor student, and cannot tribute financially", and if that is you, here is my advice "GET A JOB". Students are capable of working and getting an education at the same time. I did it, so can you. Plenty of employers love hiring college students, and if all else fails, get to selling semen and plasma. No excuses numbnuts :)
Broke boy findom
Ugh there are too damn many of you coming out of the woodwork like little leeching cockroaches. You bring zero value to a findom exchange, and no the offer to shove objects up your ass is not entertainment. The only possible way you are of worth in service, is by building a large presence on social media to promote for your Domme, and even then, do not expect much attention. You are the grunt, and while you may serve a purpose, you are not high in the hierarchy of servants. Your main focus should be on financially bettering yourself, so that you may make tangible contributions towards the enrichment of your Domme.
Did I miss anyone? Feel free to agree or disagree, or just plain offer an opinion. I welcome your comments :)
And as always...sending amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com is the best way to say thank you!
Why I am thankful for financial domination
Today is a recognized national day to give thanks, and one of the things I am thankful for is the findom community, which has brought me into contact with so many wonderful women of strength and creativity. They are leaders of inspiration for both females and males, and I feel blessed to be a part of it all!
Financial domination has graced my life with the presence of lovely selfless males who give their all to be my best of bois. I even give thanks for the horrid little cretins who have attempted to diminish my joy in the fetish, for they have taught me invaluable lessons, such as insight into the minds of users and how to spot a loser in life..so swallow that up shitstains :)
Concerning matter on social media
Something I seen on my twitter feed today (do you follow me on twitter..if not, you really should) really saddened me to the core. It was a fishing post by a male (not really about fishing for fish) where he asked if there were any females into accepting small tributes such as $1. Why did it bother me, well it did so, because so many females responded in the affirmative, and even went so far as to throw out their cash apps for him.
Small tributes discussion
There has always been differing stances in findom about small tributes, and I understand both sides of the equation. Yes tributing is good, but it can also be a dead fish slap in the face. How can a tribute be insulting, I mean it is a gift afterall right? Yes a tribute is a gift, but within the realm of financial domination, a tribute is meant to be remitted as a sacrifice, and if you are in a place financially where $1 is a true sacrifice, than you really should not be here. That is not me being cruel, that is me being honest, cause if you are not financially secure, you should not be attempting to indulge in financial fetishes. Any finsub needs to be financially solvent before they toss their tribute into the arena..seriously.
Unfortunately there are some males who treat the fetish like it is a McDonalds. They want to tribute the price of a value menu item, and consume praise for less than minimal effort, which is why it is insulting as hell. Findom is not a bargain basement fetish. It is not a dollar tree tease either, and more than being angry at the rotten refuse that brings such disgusting offers to the table, I feel so very sad for the females who are willing to accept $1 as their due.
Women are the most marvelous of creation, and they deserve so much better than most men are willing to provide. Low balling is offensive. Findom is not a flea market gents. Findom is at the root, a relationship, and if all you are willing to invest is $1, what good are you?This type of mentality could very well be why you are a loser on and offline. Ponder that a moment, and straighten yourself out.
All tributes are good
Let's look at the opposing view. All tributes are good regardless of amount. The old, "it is the thought that counts". Is it really though? It is the thought that counts when a man is trying to use and abuse your time for $1, cause that is exactly what he is doing. Here is the difference, and why $1 is ok. If a $1 tribute is sent, and the sender expects zero notice, or requires no attention for said $1 tribute, then and only then would you ever get me to say that it is borderline ok. But if the sender attaches strings to a $1 tribute...he is a POS in my estimation.
This is where the moaners are going to chime in, "all you care about is money, and aren't dominating for the love of it". I am in agreement with you that findom is about more than money, but it is also all about money. Make sense? It simply cannot be called financial domination if there is no financial aspect in play, and as I said before, if $1 is a burden upon your wallet, you do not belong here. Take a step back, and get your life in order before you come back. I am being totally upfront with you about that. A dominant is supposed to care about those that come under their heel, and it would be a travesty for a dominant to financially dominate a male who has no finances. Afterall a human being needs to eat, procure shelter, and living amenities right? And if that is the case, than every dollar should be spent towards securing those needs, so me taking that $1 could make the difference whether a male has enough money to buy some ramen. See, that is me being a responsible dominant :)
Of course it is up to each individual female what she is willing to accept as tribute, but I am outright telling you gents not to be shady like the dude on twitter. Yes I know that you all crave attention, but there are good ways, and bad ways to go about getting it, and $1 is a shitty move. Up your game, and get to sending a sacrifice that accurately reflects your desire to serve women, rather than one which announces the value of your penis.
Think about what I have said gents, and feel free to send an amazon gift card to mzsydney34@yahoo.com in thankfulness and appreciation for my words of wisdom!
So....guess what I did Saturday night!! Bet you won't get it lol
Anyways, I went to my very first hockey game!
Mind you that I am not really that into organized sports at all, but I have to say that I had a wonderful time. In fact, I plan on attending a few more :) Now I just need to sit down and read up on the rules of the game. Are any of you hockey fans? Of course like everyone else, I have seen movies where actors play hockey, but to be right there and see it live is a totally different thing. I loved the physicality, and the grace of athleticism it requires to maneuver around like that on the ice.
Ok so the sadist in me delighted when the players would slam each other against the wall lol.. Not to mention the fantasies about tying up one of you in the goalie netting, and shooting pucks at your balls. I bet all of the masochists reading this are popping pup tents in their pants right now. How much do you think it would hurt to get hit in the nuts with a speeding puck? Just curious wink wink!
There was only one downside to the evening. No free t-shirt for me :( You should have seen me pouting when I did not catch one of the t-shirts the cannon guy shot out. That was totally a time when I needed one of you there to fetch for me! After all, good boys do best at fetching. You like to play fetch don't you?
The remainder of that night was spent wrapped up in the hot sweaty embrace of my man, which is how every night should be ;) Yes I live the Goddess life, and yes you can be a part of it. How you ask...by contributing financially to my adventures! Send amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com to pay for all of my naughty indulgences!
Hello gentlemen
Do you want to know how to interact with me for the very first time? I realize that I can be an intimidating force of nature lol, but it really is easier than you would imagine.
I do want you to understand though, that your initial message to me is going to set the tone for how I respond.
These are the things that you do NOT want to start off with
1)An obvious generic copy and paste message
2)Your autobiography
3)Your bank details, or any type of passwords
4)Dick pics
5)Photos that you want exposed
6)Addressing me in what I find to be passive aggressive demeaning terms ie hey sexy, bb, sugar, honey, girl
7)Giving me a list of your turn ons
8)Telling me that I make your dick hard
9)Relaying what you want to do to me
10)Stating what you want me to do to you
I think that you gents get so carried away with your fetishes, that you forget entirely that the person you are interacting with is a person too.
If you are a smart gent, you will have already read my profiles, tweets, blogs, website etc. You will be well acquainted with my expectations in regards to submissive behavior I deem acceptable and pleasing, so all of the mostly inane chit chat will not be necessary, for you are informed.
I honestly do not care to "shoot the shit" with random strangers, or answer questions that are already answered in my profile.
I want you coming into my inbox already prepared to tribute and serve, because if you aren't, than you have not put in any effort in getting to know me at all, and that is unacceptable. The fact that I include findom in ALL of my femdom exchanges is widely known, so this should not be coming as a shock to you, and if you do not know what findom is, than google it gents.
As well, it should be plain as day to you that I am to be addressed as Goddess, or Mz..no deviation. It may seem old school, but in my estimation, it is about respect, and I do not tolerate disrespect.
Believe me when I say that you want to start off on the right footing with me, because I am not a big believer in allotting second chances. I understand that you may be nervous and in awe of me, so you may flub up a bit in your communication,which is ok, but never do so intentionally gents.
I can be one of the easiest going Dommes you will ever talk to, but at no time am I ever not the dominant in the exchange, and I have zero issues booting you out my door if you forget it. As well, I am a genuine sweetheart to those who treat me with all of the deference due to a Goddess. To those who are generous with their time, attention, and financial worship of me, I am most benevolent :) Regardless though, I will ignore you into non-existence if you ill treat my kindness. My kindness has never been a weakness.
If it is not apparent to you as of yet, I will speak plainly. I do not want you to fear approaching me if you are sincere in your desire to serve me. In fact I always welcome males into my sect who have proven that they are intent on putting my happiness above their own, my fetishes above their own, and my comfort above their own. If this resonates, than you are what I seek, and I bid you to come beg an audience..I did tell you that I adore when males beg, didn't I lol
