Hello and welcome to Sydney Claire's slice of femdom
The name of the game is findom.
Now, some of you gents keep trying to change the definition of the game. Whelp I am here to relay to you that it is not going to work.
I so get it that you do not like the rules of findom, but you have 2 choices
1)suck it up, provide and abide
or
2)get your ass outta fetish
I know that you newer peeps get confused about the definition since it gets mislabeled so much of the time, so I am going to be a generous Goddess, and educate you here and now.
Findom has always been about giving your money to women, and getting nothing in return. Ya ya ya, I am not forgetting the domination aspect of the term, but what you aren't grasping is that the domination part is about dominating finances. Dominating the money, not your dick.
Seeing as most Dommes are not one pony tricks, they harbor many fetishes, and play them out alongside findom. This is not a bad thing. It is actually a pretty awesome thing, but it can lead to possible confusion, so here I am to clear away the grey.
I am going to break it down for you even further, thereby offering clarity to the fullest.
1)Buying clips is not participating in findom. Buying clips is buying a product, just as selling clips is selling a product.
2)Paying for an online or in person session is not findom. You are paying or offering a service.
3)Procuring used items from a woman is not findom. Acquiring goods or peddling items is business.
Now that I have schooled you as to what findom is not, let's move on to what findom is.
1)Giving, sending money to a woman with zero expectations of receiving anything in return.
2)Giving a woman control over your bank account so that she may decide what you spend and what you buy.
3)Giving gifts to a woman, and once again expecting nothing from her.
See the difference? Awesome!! I knew that you were a smart cookie ;-)
You are now ready to dive in deep into the exhilarating fetish of findom. Feel free to thank me with a tribute
SydneyClaire@protonmail.com
Hello hello, and welcome peers, pets, puppets, and pervs
You have officially crossed into the realm of SynAddicts :)
The topic of the day here in SydneySphere is:
Mean girls and boys
You all know that I tend to keep an open eye on social media goings on and whatnot, and some sentiments really do need deeper than shallow depth discussion, so here we go!
Teen findom
Does it serve a purpose? I say yes, and here is my reasoning.
Take a look at research data when it comes to men seeking out women. What type of women do they gravitate towards first and foremost.
Young women. Late teens, early 20's. I am not going to ascribe this to men being shallow shits, but more along the lines of it being a biological drive. Men are programmed with the imperative to mate and procreate. It is a biological design. I get that, do you?
It is more than that though, especially for men who are at that mid life crisis point and beyond. They are reaching out to young women as an ego boost. It is rather like a fuck you in the face of Father Time who has declared them past their prime. The attention of a younger women lends them a false sense of sexual relevancy. It empowers their inflated erroneous ego. It screams "look at me, I am powerfully virile".
It honestly is no different than the balding grandpa bod men driving around town with the top down in a new shiny convertible. Yes we notice them, and yes we chuckle at their level of pathetic, but we do understand the whys.
These men are why teen findommes will always prosper, and maintain a standing in the fetish scene. I am not about to blame these young women making bank off of male insecurity. If a man willingly opts to part with his money, than who are any of us to stand in judgement. It does not involve, or affect any of us who are not playing a part in that scenario, so let those Ladies be.
Women in it for the payout.
Yup there are plenty of them in the scene. Do I care, fuck no. They are not hurting me personally, and as long as they are on the upfront about it, why do you care? There are tons of men (most likely they are the majority of men in the scene) on the prowl to bust a nut, who zero in on exactly this type of woman. They do not want the complication of commitment to serving as a submissive, so once again, these Ladies are not taking anything I desire away from me, cause this is NOT the type of man I want to attract to my stable. Instead of hating, celebrate these women for getting that cash!
There is no valid reason for anyone whether female or male to get angry with these females. They are NOT ruining the scene. If anyone is ruining the scene..it is like I said BROKE MEN. Broke men are the only ones who do not belong, and should be frozen out of the findom scene. I do not even believe that they should be taking up valuable femdom space either. If you are not contributing to a woman's success, you are irrelevant period. Oh and FYI, yanking your dick is not a turn on, and half ass prancing around pretending to clean a woman's house is not a viable skillset, nor is shoving shit up your ass a sought after form of amusement. You offer nothing of value, so begone cockroach.
And there you have it. My 2¢ take on why being mean to women is not needed.
Welcome my poppets, puppets, and pervs
Is today your first time sliding into Sydney Sphere? If so, than you should know right from the start that this is not a space for the average gooner. Jack and gos, just aren't going to get their fix up in here :)
This is the realm where you come to learn obedience to Sydney Claire. A place where you take that first step towards becoming a SynAddict. I am here to make you mine. Taking over your mind, cock, and wallet. Afraid?
You should be, because my claws will sink so deep into your psyche, that you will never fully be rid of your unquenchable desire to serve my every wanton wish.
Do you know what human beings have in common, other than the physical obvious? They want to belong. They want to feel as if they have a purpose. They want to believe that their lives have meaning. This is natural. It is completely normal, and nothing to be ashamed of. I get it, honestly I do.
It feels good to belong to ME. Being Sydney Claire's servant gives meaning to your life. Serving Sydney Claire provides you with a purpose and direction in life. All that you sought, all that you NEED, can be found at the feet of Sydney Claire.
Serving me is the most natural expression of self. No more feeling alone, divided, despised. Here you will know your place. You will feel accepted. You will know happiness.
I love when the lost and misguided find their way to the fold. Aren't you tired of pretending to be something and someone that you aren't? Imagine how wonderful it would feel to finally be at peace with who and what you really are? You don't have to hide from me. I already know that you belong.
No more fear. You will find yourself fearless in your service to me. Every step forward is one step closer. You want this. You need this. This is where you belong.
Close your eyes my little puppet and imagine how good it will feel to just let go. Let go of your everyday struggles. Strip yourself of the chains society constrains you with. Allow yourself to relinquish that false ego weighing you down. You were not meant to stand before me, you were created to crawl at my feet. You are a servant, and I am your superior. This is your life.
Giving your all, being your best. All of this is possible. The fantasy can become your reality when you are in my presence. No holding back. No turning back. You belong. You are mine! Say it out loud for your ears to hear, and your soul to accept. You belong to Sydney Claire. Sydney Claire is your most holy Goddess. Sydney Claire owns you.
Welcome to all who have found themselves here :)
Take a seat on my couch, relax, and prepare yourself for some hard cold truths today.
Day in, day out tends to blur into a revolving screen of repetitiveness when it comes to the fetish scene. The majority of what I see are complaints. Disgruntlements lodged by females and males alike. Of course they differ in the wording somewhat, but they all boil down to the same basis.
Before I get into the nitty gritty, allow me to share this disclaimer
*Not all women, and not all men*
Now that we have gotten that piece of business out of the way, let's delve into the pot shall we?
The findom, and a greater aspect of the femdom you see playing out online is commercialized. Meaning that it is a business. An occupation. A source of livelihood. It is about the financial return upon products advertised. In these cases, the product is a fantasy. Men are the customers, and women are the sellers of fantasies, whether that be via clips, or sessions. This is why broke and fetish do not mix. No money means no product purchased, and that negates the need for existence in the scene.
This is
reality, and regardless if you like it or not, it is just the way it
is. You cannot change that which is inexorable. Accept, adapt, or give
up. Those are your only options.
The overwhelming majority of people do NOT work for free. Do you? Bills must be paid and food must be bought. Compensation for time spent and effort expended is not an option, it is a requirement, and anyone attempting to procure a service sans the intention of rendering payment is a scammer. Are you a scammer?
For those whom cannot afford to pay, you honestly have no place here. I realize that you do not want to hear the truth of it, but it has to be said. Fetish is a luxury, and luxury has never been cost efficient.
It is comparative to vanilla dating in a financial sense. No money equals no date. Women are not seeking out men who bring nothing to the relationship other than their cock. The desire to be spoiled with gifts is in the very nature of women, so if you are not gifting(paying), you are not getting anywhere with women. This is why you are single, and this is why you will remain that way til you are able to do so.
The worst thing you can do in this situation is to get angry with women over it. It is not a woman's fault that she prefers men who are financially able and willing to enrich her life. The fault lies with you. Work harder, do better, earn more. Go back to school, snag overtime, seek out a second job if you have to, but do something, cause sitting back being pissed off at women will get you no where. Do you want to end up a lonely miserable misogynistic bitter incel?
Okay my Ladies, your turn.
Men in the scene do not give a flying fig about you, your circumstances, or your future. It doesn't matter to them if you are having a difficult time, or in desperate straights. They are here for the fantasy, and that is all. You exist to sate their desires, and when they walk away from the computer, you cease to exist in their minds. Sounds cold and sterile eh? It is the way of it though.
Do you think customers shopping in a brick and mortar store sit around thinking about how that business is doing financially, or even care if that business will be there the next time they want to shop, other than it being a minor inconvenience if they have to seek out a new store to shop at? This is the reality you face in the fetish scene. Men do not tend to be brand loyal. Their attention ebbs and flows when the market is saturated with an endless supply of shiny objects. Yes, you are more than that, but to men, you are not. They are just as happy to slip into someone else's inbox as they were yours. In fact, they thrill to the adventure of trying someone new, so please please please, do not place your hopes, dreams, and financial future in their single basket. Diversify :)
I am not going to get into the whys or hows the scene came to be this way, for it matters not since it would be damn near impossible to alter the course set at this point, and it would be cruel of me to mislead any of you as to the reality of how the fetish scene works right now. You can opt in, or opt out, but complaining about it serves no purpose. Accept, adapt, or give up.
The worst thing you can do at this point is complain about timewasters, advertise your inability to make rent, beg for money, or bitch about other women. You are selling a fantasy, not a sob story.
I hate to end posts on a negative note, so allow me to spread some positivity here. If you are a man, and you are willing to spend, you are golden, and if you are a woman who has a fantasy to sell, you are diamond!!
Welcome back for segment 3 in guiding you to giving me your best.
The goal obviously is to begin altering your mindset in order to best serve me, and make a positive impact on your life.
You are home
Open your door, and begin rolling your shoulders back, than forward slowly, and gently. Roll forward, inhale, roll back, exhale. Perform times 10. Feel your body inch by inch begin to relax. Ahh now this is better. Kick off your shoes by the door. Never walk through your home wearing shoes (google the studies which reveal all of the foul germs the bottom of shoes accumulate during a normal day).
Change your clothes
Removing the reminders of your workday is conducive to relaxation. Comfort is the goal.
Grab a glass off water
Hydration is key to maintaining health.
Music
Opt for a mellow tune. Remember that you are winding down, not revving up. Find a comfy spot to just squat for 20 minutes. Treat yourself.
Dinner
Eating early provides your body with extra time to digest before bedtime.
A heavy meal is not needed at this time. Keep it light and simple, and by all means do include some roughage.
Wash your dishes
Oh my lands did I say that? Yes I did. Of course most of you are used to the convenience of a dishwasher, but doing them by hand gets them cleaner, and clean is good.
Fun time
This is your slotted time for computer use, or watching a movie. Do try to include something educational. Expanding your base of knowledge is a good thing! Perhaps you may even take a few moments to watch the sunset. I especially love this time of day.
Lay your clothes out
Having your clothes set and ready after your shower in the morning saves you time. Develop this routine.
Bedtime
Do NOT stay up all night watching porn, and yes I know that some of you do that! Sleep is essential. Being well rested means that your morning mindset will be positive.
I realize that change is difficult, but getting into a routine is not a bad thing. You may complain that it lacks spontaneity, but the work week is not the time for it. Days off are for spur of the moment outings or such. Devoting yourself to doing and being better requires self discipline, which routine will aid you in molding. I want to change your viewpoint, and help you help yourself. Are you willing to try?
The decision is yours to make.
**If you are married, alternative actions might need to be taken in order to comply**
Hello and welcome to the sphere of Sydney Claire!
Today we delve into segment 2 of guiding you into giving me your best.
Breathe
You have left your dwelling, and get on your way to work. A man who works diligently, is a man who prospers.
The reason I advise you to breathe is that we all know how hectic and frustrating a task driving can be in this day and age. The roads are jam packed with people who possess neither manners, nor common sense. Do not emulate these folks.
Heading to work is a time for mentally gearing yourself up for whatever the day will bring, and if you allow others to negatively impact your mindset during this period, than the odds exponentially increase of your entire day being a shitshow, so set your radio to the station which manifests positivity for you.
Smile
Walk in the door of your employment, and greet your co-workers with a genuine smile...even if you detest their very existence. You set the tone.
Be grateful
Have you seen the unemployment numbers? I for one do not swallow the spoon fed lies in regards to all of the supposed job opportunities the media reports on. Every single day positions are lost to outsourcing, and automation, so consider yourself fortunate to be gainfully employed. Take a moment to reflect upon the blessing of a paycheck.
Honest effort
Do your job to the very best of your ability every single day. Do not be a slacker. Slacking is a poor reflection upon you as a human being. Some days will leaving you feeling as if no ever notices how much effort and time you put into doing your job correctly. Regardless, you will know it, and you can take pride in yourself for giving 100%.
Eat your lunch
Do not skip it. Your body needs to be nourished in order to promote peak performance. Peak performance ensures that you are not racking up medical debt, and lost time at work. Do try to drink some water :)
Stay late
If your assigned workload cannot be completed by clock out, than go the extra mile, and stay a few minutes after to get it done. A little overtime will not kill you.
Hit the road
Once you have clocked out for the day, leave your work behind you. This is YOU time. Time to clear your mind of distraction, and focus on relaxing.
Of course the traffic is just as bad going home as it was heading in, so be prepared. Never engage in the road rage fad, or waving the single digit hello. Your chore is to make it home safely, and that means leaving your damn cell phone out of sight while driving. We all know how tempting it is to quickly peruse the news or tap out a text, but DON'T. Listen to your tunes, and keep your eyes on the road.
Home sweet home
At last, yes!
TBC..hope to see you return soon :)
Good morning, afternoon, or even evening to you!
Welcome puppets, poppets, pervs, and curious pedestrians to the world and word of Sydney Claire.
Today is the day. What day is it? It is the day you are finally going to break free, and make some alterations in your way of thinking, which in turn will change your life in meaningful ways.
How does one begin? Which step is of prime importance? Fret not little chickadee, for I am here to guide you along the path.
Step 1
Wake up in the morning, and before you even open your eyes, give thanks, and be grateful for the blessings you have been given.
Now some of you sour duds may be of a mind that your life is an utter pile of steaming dog doo, and that you have nil to be thankful for, but you would be wrong. This type of negativity is one of the reasons why your life sucks dirty dishwater. You are the root cause of discontent in your life. YOU.
Sure it is easier to blame someone else for everything wrong in your life, but that is not what mentally healthy people do. You absolutely must own your decisions whether good or bad, right or wrong. Personal responsibility is a requirement, not simply an avoidable option. Of course some of you have been molded, even scarred by circumstances out of your control in your childhood, but using those experiences as a crutch and excuse for poor decision making is not helping you one little bit. Resolving lingering issues is your responsibility, and by resolving, I am referring to working them out and letting them go. Cease ceding power over your life to whatever, and whoever wronged you. Get into therapy if need be. Heal yourself in order to be whole. This process may take years, but that is ok, so long as you are putting in the work.
Moving forward
After giving thanks, open your eyes and smile. Yes I said smile. Happiness begins within, and radiates outward. Happiness is a positive goal, and how you go about achieving it is what gives you purpose. Life without purpose is a meandering meaningless journey. You want your life to have meaning don't you?
Get up out of bed slowly
Do not jump out of bed like you are in a race for your very life. Enjoy the moments of feeling your body coming alive for the day. Feel the languor of sleep dissipating. Stretch your body towards the ceiling, and allow your body to breathe in for a few seconds, then exhale for a few seconds. Wake your brain up gently like a lover worshiping your flesh.
Make your bed
Yes I realize that you are only going to mess it up later on, but that is not the point. This is you taking responsibility. This is you taking control of your life in small ways.
Relieve and clean
Release accumulated waste, and prepare yourself to wash away the filth from your flesh. Starting your day fresh and clean has a positive impact on your mindset.
Dress with pride
Take pride in presenting an orderly and neat appearance. Sloppy, and sloven does not suit you anymore. Neat has nothing to do with designer labels. Clean and pressed is what you are aiming for. I understand that some days you simply do not care how you appear to the public, and that is all fine and well for when you are staying in, or going to the gym, but looking well put together boosts confidence, and confidence promotes inner happiness. You want to be happy yes?
Eat
Feed your flesh. Eating breakfast makes your body happy. Note that I did not say gorge yourself. Overeating in the morning makes your day begin miserably, so moderate your intake, and try your very best to drink some water :)
Open your door
Smile, and get on your way
This is the first post in a series I will be sharing with you about how I guide those who devote themselves to serving me. Come back soon for the next installment!
