Findom merry go round

This past week for me has been a study in patience due to the deceitful nature of those I have come into contact with. To know me,is to know that I have always invested time in getting to know those that come calling with the supposed intention of submitting to my dominance,prior to the expectation of initial tribute,but (and this is a big but) I have found this action to be counterproductive,and in fact detrimental to my time schedule.

It is common knowledge within the financial domination realm that one should expend with a prospective submissive only the amount of time that they feel comfortable with having wasted if by chance the one contacting them is either a poor match,or a lover of lies. Generally I am a spot on judge of character when it comes to whether the person I am speaking with is going to fail upon the first task allotted to them (tribute),but even I can be on the fence when it comes to some,which in that case I usually give the benefit of the doubt. This is where change is going to be enacted,atleast with me. Have no doubt that if this new rule effects you,you will know it,for I am not shy when it comes to showing a male the way out of my inbox.

Sadly though for Dommes,there are entirely too many that will attempt to get on the merry go round of financial domination sans a ticket. They will claim that either a)they need to get to know you or b)that you are only in the fetish for the money. In response to (a) I am more than willing to spend time "getting to know" each other,after you have shown me that you are capable of seeing to the fin side of the equation. That sounds greedy does it not,but the truth is that,financial domination is not based solely on domination,and to expect otherwise is you fooling you,not the other way around,so be prepared to prove yourself worthy of attention,and (b)of course I financially dominate because of the money. Don't get it skewed though. I love and I mean love dominating males,but the financial aspect is the butter on my baked potato,and without it,it is just a plain bland potato.

Unfortunately sometimes there is this never ending cycle which infiltrates the best intentioned interactions,in that the male(you)refuses to tribute til he feels comfortable with me,and I(Domme)refuse to take the conversation any further til you have tributed. Both sides feel that they are correct,so neither gives,and what happens in that particular situation is that I sever all connections between us,and you lose out of ever speaking with me again,so my advice is to simply tribute. I am not saying that it need be a shockingly large amount,in fact as I said,even a token amount will assure me that you are serious. Now this is never even an issue when I am corresponding with the type I describe next.

Gentlemen admirers are my preferred type of servant,hardly shocking. One of the things I have noticed when it comes to a gentleman admirer is that they are courteous,respectful,and steer clear of sexual innuendos or queries as to how or what I would do in fetish scenarios. They spend their time in my presence getting to know me as a woman,rather than as a fetish vending machine,and they would never attempt to bother me with unsolicited penis photos,for that is ill becoming of a man who respects women. The absolute action I have noted when dealing with a gentleman is that he will always without mention of it,send a token of his appreciation,and that is what pleases me most,so if you want to get off to a good start with me,take a page out of the gentlemanly book of behavior!

Guys gone bad

***Disclaimer***
In no way shape of form does this post resemble certain videos or commentary released in said videos which is based upon sophomoric female actions.

In fact this post pertains to the title specifically. Not many Ladies contain their online presence to a mere site,and I do not differ in that train of thinking(more is better,and less is less likely to happen).
Anyway I have spent a great deal of my time these last few days logged into a site which has earned a gimlet glare from an unprecedented amount of Ladies in the financial domination fetish(bet each and every Domme knows which one I am referring to).

The real reason I indulge my presence there so much,is that it has been the most successful for me in the action of acquiring servants,shocking that my appeal is better received on a site not geared to my chosen fetish over a site that is(yup I scratch my head over that one too). These last few days though have seriously tried my patience. My profile there does not spell out in direct terms that I engage in financial domination(against their TOS),but it is easily deduced seeing as I mention twice that I do not engage in training for free,but no different than other sites, male members are notoriously disrespectful in that they do not read profiles. Reading profiles is something I have taken to the podium over, many many times,yet it never changes. Could it be that I am flogging a dead nag,or that bausch and lomb could be in the market for a substantial financial windfall due to all of the males with faulty eyesight(maybe pulling that puke stick so much really does rob males of their vision).

Of course I do not ever just assume that a male has read my profile,so I generally ask point blank if they have,even those that I know for a fact have not(I inserted in the first and last sentence of my profile how I am to be addressed),so when I get a message starting out with Miss,Ma'am,or Mistress, I know that my words have gone unread. I am polite though,and point out that it is important for them to read it,in order to form an opinion of whether they are a good match for me,or if we are ill suited,yet many still do not bother ack! So dear reader can you guess how this scenario progresses from bad to worse?

Let's pretend that you cannot for the sake of my content running short. Well most often said males will start off by proclaiming that they want to serve me,to do anything for me,perform any action which will make them mine(heard that one about a thousand times,and no I am not overestimating). Now comes the butthurt part. I remind them that I employ financial domination in every single D's exchange,for I view it as simply another aspect of TPE,no not the entirety,but a part of it. Whelp,oh my gosh the tone of the interaction changes,and that is if they respond at all,so we go from begging to belong to me to static silence. Sheesh all of this could have been avoided,all they had to do was read my profile first. Something so simple,yet laziness or loss of blood flow to the top head(due to photo erecting erections) prevented it's accomplishment.

The moral of the story is once more to read read read,and for all of the douche canoes that even when caught out,lie and pretend that of course they knew about my penchant for financial domination,and definitely they are more than happy to serve in such way,yet turn tail and scamper away when the time comes to put their money where their words proclaimed intent,well,I do wish you the best in finding what your heart(not your dick)seeks,and if you just happen to stumble and fall ass first onto a cactus,it would not bother me a bit :)

Finsubs, victims or willing conquests

Unbeknownst to those ignorant of the intricacies pertaining to financial domination dynamics,there are real dominance/submission relationships forged out of the sight of public consumption. To the untrained eyes,findom appears a shallow game of victimization,wherein mentally and emotionally downtrodden males fall prey to voracious feminine predators intent upon devouring all viable assets. The reality though differs drastically from what is perceived. One must actually look beyond the surface appearance to truly see that real relationships are developed in this fetish.

Financial domination is not a vicious power struggle where one emerges the victor over the defeated,nor the ploy of a hustler running a scam. Most generally it is not even the alpha whom approaches the beta for service,in fact the inbox of an alpha female is typically overflowing with messages and pleas to serve her financially,so she has no need to "scam",for the line has already formed two feet deep with wallets opened.

Similar to any intimate(note I said intimate,not sexual) relationship,there is effort expended,and time spent developing a lasting bond,which is the foundation for any long term association. It is not entirely idyllic,but than what relationship is? Nor is it without the ups and downs which any two beings overcome as a unit,and make no doubt that they are a unit regardless of where the hand of control lays.

What exactly is it though that portrays financial domination relationships in a poor light? The financial aspect of course. Dirty money grubbing lazy sluts too stupid to get a real job(yup those are the typical insults to rear their ugly heads in my inbox) I wonder why that is though,atleast from my perspective,these types of relationships have much in common with what is commonly called marriage,the main differences being that most likely the duo will not dwell in a single residence,nor will progeny be born,but as in the structure of marriage,one partner will control the finances and make all monumental decisions(alpha),whereas the beta partner generally sees to the comfort,care,and happiness of their alpha. Not that different,now are they.

One may argue that it cannot be a "real" relationship since sex is not involved,but I would advise one to look to the latest studies pertaining to how much actual intercourse occurs within a marriage(hint,it is not that much) rather it becomes about companionship,and whilst I do not consider my slaves as friends,they are indeed a part of my life,and I am very much a driving priority within their lives. I give them reason to get up each day,to work productively in society,and to develop the traits most desired in a decent human being ie selflessness,generosity,dedication,loyalty,and devotion to something other than themselves.

As their alpha I am responsible for them,in that I ensure they maintain their physical health,that they conduct themselves with respect to others,that they are corrected when mistakes are made,that they develop self -control. The picture I am portraying is definitely far off from how outsiders view it,but it is a closer fit than what most think,so the next time you say that financial domination is only about ruining poor hapless,and helpless males,try to remember that if the males in question were not happy with their lot in the relationship,then they would not continue with it long term,as so many do,so save your pity and outrage for the true victims in life,rather than males whom come willingly, hell even beg on bended knee to be ensconced within a financial domination relationship.

Findom spoil backs

Spoil backs seem to be a popular catch phrase these days especially on twitter. The first time I seen it used,I scratched my head,and thought what the hell does that mean...okay I am not totally standing in the corner with the pointy cap on,but it simply did not make sense to me. I am well versed in the definition of financial domination,and no where in that did I see anything about spoiling back,did you...seriously cause if you did I want to know.

I actually took the time to research the phrase,and how it was being used. What I read comes across as a tit for tat type of interaction,with most of the spoils back being nude photos or videos. Now correct me if I am wrong,but isn't financial domination based upon dominating a submissive's finances? I am pretty sure that I am right,but it could be that the term financial domination has been redefined,and I missed the memo(note to self,check spam mail).

What I am having difficulty reconciling is how sending nude photos or videos falls under the line of financial domination. Of course I grasp the concept of gifting submissives that have excelled in their service to a dominant,but it appears to me that this is more of a business deal. Customer pays,and seller sends goods. Sound right? I guess some would attempt to group in like that of a tip,but still tips are received when service is provided,and if the sender is providing a service,then it still isn't financial domination,so yes here I sit,still going huh!

I guess that I am just not meant to get how it fits in,oh well. Anyways I should tell you that I abhor the phrase,and the ramifications of it. Now I know that to each their own is the motto right? Be accepting,unbiased,and non-judgemental...yup I sure am so long as it does not rain shit on my parade,then it catches my attention,and my ire.

One would say,why let what others do bother you? Well here is the thing. This phrase has infiltrated the scene,and has brought with it the ugly rearing head of entitlement,which needs lanced like an inflamed boil(nasty visual yes). I will give you an example of how this spreads like crabs in an unlicensed brothel. Exhibit A=new to the scene "submissive" who is just learning the ropes so to speak. He checks out twitter to see that woohoo smexy females are offering something called spoils back...wow he makes a bee line post haste to the DM box of a female offering it,and finds out that for a minute amount (generally under $25) he can get pussy and titty pics,OMG how sweet is that!!! Yup now he has some cheap prime spanking material,but dang a couple of days later he is horny again,and wants to try a little something different,so he contacts a woman with the title of Domme asking how much she charges for spoils back,and guess what,she is not liking it,not at all.

 Do you see where I am going with this line of reasoning? So,if an estimated 100 new submissives enter the scene daily,and if even a quarter of them jump right on the spoils back bandwagon,that means most likely that 25 Dommes a day are going to be dealing with this shit in their inbox(probably the number is higher,cause we all know how new submissives hit up several inboxes a day til they get what they came looking for),and what are the odds that some of them are going to make an appearance before me hmmmmm...so yes I detest this phrase,and all that it stands for,simply because it will affect me,and I am a domination Domme(I dominate submissives),not a spoils back entitlement providing provider(a pay for wank spank with a sprinkle of sugaring),so please do keep your spoiling back shit outta my inbox,Thanks!

Dismission of submissives

This day has been a bleak one for all but a single male pet of mine. On what is known to be a day of celebration,I chose to release all but the boy who has been with me the longest. Sounds crazy when you hear of a FinDomme kicking paying pigs to the curb,and it would be if I were not more than just a FinDomme. I have forever told those beneath me,or begging to be beneath me,that it takes more than money to remain mine. Complacency when under my consideration is a vast mistake,for truly I will replace you with a pet that values my time and energy in the ways I require.

An initial tribute to me will gain you my notice for a moment,but even that is not guaranteed if I do not believe that you are worth a second of my time. Yes monumental sums of tithe are glorious,but you must be willing to give of yourself as well as your wallet...oh and before any misinterpret my words thinking that "oh the money does not matter to her,so I will run my broke ass to her inbox",save yourself the time,for I have no interest in those that cannot afford financial power exchange in conjunction with the relinquishment of their ego,pride,and time.

It amazes me how few actually get it,and by it I am referring to what it means to serve,to devote your life to your owner,to recognize them as the guiding force in your life,a willingness to display your submission to them daily by following the rules and rituals set for you. Serving is an esteemed honor,which less than 1% of you deserve,and even then the majority of that single percentage will screw it up.

In short,what I am saying,is that none of you are indispensable,which is what I have just proven to the recently released/deceased to me. A D's relationship is hard work,and slacking off is not going to get it,so keep that in mind when you make a promise to always do your best then fall short or lazy.

"submissive" negotiators

This is something that some of you attempt to do,and truly you should not even have the thought of doing so. Negotiation is an action best suited to business matters,not service. To clear away any confusion,yes you are allowed to have soft and hard limits(this is a granted),but the rest is at the discretion and direction of your dominant. They are leading,you are following,so if you are trying to alter the steps they take,then you are not following. Make sense?

Negotiation reminds me of the word compromise,and compromise is not an action which I engage in. As harsh and unyielding as it may sound to you,I do things my way,and that is not going to change for any special little snowflake. Of course the same method of training,and terms of service do not apply consecutively across the board,for each circumstance,and D's relationship is unique,rather than a cookie cutter cutout,regardless though,once I have taken the lead,this is the path to be followed.

It comes down to this,yes you have free will,and choices,but once a command is given,you are narrowed down to 2 options. You may either comply,and remain in service to me,or you may bow out,and be banished. No negotiations,no second chances.

As of late I have dealt with entirely too many males whom play at the pretense of serving,rather like they are role playing,and I am not. I see no point in leading people on,which is why I am generally blunt in my speech with those applying to serve me,for if there is no order from the get go,then there will only be chaos later,and that will be a downfall of any efforts towards erecting a viable dominant-submissive relationship.

Basically it boils down to acceptance and obedience. You accept that you were created to obey,and refrain from ploys to get your way through negotiation. Examples=1)My previous Domme would have done things this or that way.2)Offering a tithe to your owner which you know is insulting,and far below what you have to give.3)Declaring that you will do "this" if she does "that". 4)I do not really like doing so and so,could you give me this task instead. Any of these actions are unacceptable,and without a doubt insulting,which is the very last thing you should wish to do.

Remember that a D's relationship is based on power exchange,and if you are not relinquishing it,then there is no foundation,nor future in the relationship,so don't quibble,and never try to negotiate.

Non-sexual servitude

Esoteric concept is it not? Bdsm service sans sex. Truly a bummer,a let down,a cock kill.....but this is all that I accept and expect,so for all of you that want to cream in the cake,buh bye.

Non-sexual servitude keeps a servant focused,and purely driven towards the goals I set,which consist simply of pleasing me,in ways that do not at anytime involve sex. Sex is overrated for inferior and under endowed males,and their partners anyway(if you doubt me,sneak a peek at the face of the very next woman you thrust yourself upon) that look you see is one of absolute boredom and disgust,a wondering why she took pity on you. An entire 2 minutes of her life that she cannot get back,wasted on an uneventful,unrewarding experience. Be a decent human being,and just say no to wasting the time of your superiors.

I myself prefer to treat my servants as asexual beings. Kept in chastity with no signs of release. Is that not a beautiful ideal? I free them from their testosterone driven lives,thereby allowing them the sanctity of peace from all of those filthy self indulgent desires. The only sex they shall ever know,is that which they partake of vicariously from my life,or the same sex porn viewed as a form of punishment.

Chastity. I love that word. It thrills me to hold the keys to cock cages. I adore knowing that I own the sexuality of grown males,that I have effectively neutered them. No more humping every stray that comes along,nope not for them. Once that key is in my hands I possess the tool to effectively bring them to heel. Such good boys they become at that point. Willing and eager to do my bidding. Content to walk behind me,rather than pulling at the leash. No control,and no concerns,other than making me happy,and seeing to it that I lack for nothing of want. Doesn't that sound like a perfect life? This could be your life,if you are found worthy.

Think about it. Freedom of knowing that you are finally accepting your purpose in life. That you are no longer seen as someones one night regret,or the focal point of laughter in the female locker rooms,but then some of you actually get off on that don't you? You thrill in the humiliation factor,but it is a selfish craving is it not,for you are the only one that gets excited about that thing between your legs. Society is better off with it locked away,where it cannot procreate. Do the world at large a favor,procure a cage,and remit the key to a superior female like a good boy.