Hello hello little submissives everywhere who have happened upon my blog!
Are you a sly guy? Are you the type of man who tries to butter the bread with flattery? How has that worked out for you? What percentage of the time would you say that it has been successful for you? Did you get the Domme of your dreams by uttering sweet nothings in her ear?
Do you know how many males have earned the opportunity to serve me by offering me a tray of compliments? None, that is how many. Why? Compliments in my eyes, when relayed by males, are meaningless. I do not want, nor chase them. Knowing the scope of my worth and level of attractiveness means that I am not subject to being preyed upon in such a manner. If you believe that complimenting me upon the physical will garner you an iota of attention, you are sadly mistaken. The physical alters as one ages, so why would I put stock in any male being around for the long haul if his interests are based upon fleeting physicalities? That would be utterly ignorant.
Flattery is a tool, driven by an agenda. In the findom realm, compliments are tossed about like dollar bills at a strip club. Men have deluded themselves into believing that compliments have intrinsic value. Wake up, wake up, cause they do not. Compliments are not valuable contributions to a woman's life. They are actually annoyances if not backed up by actual actions that provide enrichment tangibly.
Discerning women do see through this ploy. They know full well that men will attempt to grease the wheels to gain entrance attention. My question is, when will you realize that you are trying to lead someone to a well from which they do not want to drink ? Get better, get smarter, get real!
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I had no intentions of typing up a post today, but in light of the recent SESTA/FOSTA laws awaiting a final signature to enact them into law, I felt that I needed to take a few moments to make absolutely clear my thoughts and intentions in regards to the subject.
If you are not US based, you may not have heard of these possible new laws. They were supposedly created in order to cut down on human trafficking, which remains a concerning issue even in this day and age. I am in agreement that human trafficking is a horrid practice which must be stopped, but I will not concede that the means and measures of doing so should in any form punish those that are not perpetrating it. Why should any one person be penalized for an act that they have not committed? Many will argue that the ills caused to a few for the benefit of the many is just cause, but is it really? Do you see the far reaching ramifications of this type of mindset? I hope so, but I fear that most do not.
Of course legitimate sex workers are against human trafficking, but when laws come into place targeting ALL sex workers, it becomes a shitstorm of astronomical proportions! Some of the very people who voted upon the passage of these proposals do in fact avail themselves of the services of sex workers. How hypocritically ironic is that?
There are petitions circulating asking that these proposals do not be enacted into law, which in all good conscious should be signed by you. As I stated above, this will avalanche until it prods into all walks of society. Doubt me? Take a look at the new policies of skype. As it stands, if you and your significant other are separated by distance, and want to engage in watching each other masturbate, or even talking naughty to each other using their service, than you will be banned. Isn't that lovely? This will eventually broach into your life, so it is in your interests to act preemptively.
Fetlife has recently apprised members of their stance in relation to the proposed law, and have decided upon the action of banning findom activities from their website. It is their right to take this action, but what they are purposely overlooking, is that findom is NOT about sex. It never was, and those that make it so, are taking fate into their own hands, but regardless, there is so much hatred for findom on the site to begin with, that it is not surprising to me that they would ban it. How many of you actually thought that findom was about paying for sex?
Having said all of that, I want to shine light upon my own practices, so that no grey area can be slid into.
I do not offer or engage in ANY sex acts with the submissives that serve me. Now this is definitely separate from the lifestyle submissive who serves me, and has served me for 13 years. He is exempt, and NO I am not taking on any other lifestyle submissives, only financial servants. Is that crystal clear?
I am a law abiding citizen of the US, which means that NO I will not
1)Nude facesit with my pay pups
2)Engage in oral or anal, nor vaginal(with my female pay pups) sex with my pay pups
3)Engage in sounding, catheterization, or any activity which involves me touching a pay pups penis or vagina
The state of Kansas defines sex acts for money as prostitution, which is illegal, and I will not place myself in jeopardy for any male's desire to get off, so do not come to me with that type of expectation. Just know that your tribute freely given to me is a gift, and not payment for sexual services, else it is you scamming yourself. I will never provide sexual service for payment.
That is all for today, back to the regular pervy programming :)
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Do any of you have twitter, or any other social media accounts? I imagine that you do, because in this day and age, everyone is listed somewhere. A rather inane question than, is it not? I promise that I will get to the point in a minute!
When you scroll through your feed or TL do you ever roll your eyes, and cringe? I do this each and every single day. Why? The number 1 reason is dick pics, number 2 is asshole pics, number 3 is drama drama drama.
For the purposes of this post, I am going to concentrate my thoughts upon number 3, and why it is detrimental.
Drama kills progress and reputations, yet you see peeps engaging in it left and right. Both females and males engage in it on social media. What is the purpose behind it though?
Engaging and initiating drama is almost like holding up a sign saying
While it may bring attention to you, I highly doubt that it will be the type you sought. Human beings are naturally drawn to the dramatic, but the majority will avoid it like the plague, especially when it comes to fetish. To some though, any attention is better than no attention, but they would be wrong. Negative attention will deter people from trusting you enough to play with. That is not a good thing. You seriously do not want to be known as the resident shit starter.
Let's take a peek at why any male in the fetish scene would go around stirring the pot.
1)He gets off on the catfights
2)He believes that he will come out smelling like a victim that peeps will rally behind
3)Sympathy is the only way he can get attention, cause he is broke or refuses to pay tribute
Now for the female reasoning
1)The scene is over saturated with females, so they want to get their brand out in the public eye
2)They simply enjoy starting shit
3)They are jealous of the success of others, so they want to put a contender in the shade
Regardless of female or male, you are barreling down a slippery slope if drama is your primary game plan for conquering the fetish scene. Take my advice, and just say NO to it.
For the Ladies, build your brand the old tried and true fashioned way. Sweat, blood, and tears baby. It works!
For the gents, it ain't cool to pit females against each other, and your broke/cheap ass will be put down for the count, cause patching a ripped rep is almost impossible.
Blessed day all, and may the drama not be with you!
You seriously do not want to be known as the resident shit starter.
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Have you ever joined a fetish site (no I will not name and shame any one in particular) where you see a mix of lifestyle fetish folks, and professional fetish folks? If you have, you are bound to have noticed the blatant animosity brewing and spewing from the left to the right. What you see so much of if you are involved in findom is
Anger and blame assigning are the name of the game here. Whose panties are in such a wedgie in regards to Findom and Professional domination though?
1)males who are broke
2)males who are cheap
3)males who feel entitled
4)misogynists(males and females)
5)women with low self-esteem issues
Let's take a moment to probe into why each is embittered with anger towards FinDommes and Pro-Dommes shall we.
1)males who lack the financial means to tribute a FinDomme or pay for a session with a Pro-Domme are naturally going to explode at those that require financial compensation for their time, why, because it completely bars them from playing with the women that they desire to have feed their fetishes. It is no different than wanting candy, but having no money, so you illogically become angry with the vendor for charging more than you can pay. It becomes a poisonous mindset reconciled to the belief that no one should charge for effort which they supposedly love performing. This makes zero sense. Millions of people hold down positions of employment that they find enriching emotionally, but without that compensation, they would look elsewhere to fund their lifestyle. You are delusional if you believe that people work for free, and yes domination is work.
2)males who are miserly with their coin. I know all about living a frugal life, but as well, I know that if I want quality in my life, than I am going to pay for it. You simply cannot expect a car dealership to agree to your attempts to barter down the price of a benz to the equivalent price of a mazda, so why bother trying to browbeat and cajole a dominant to accepting less than her worth? No one is forcing males to pay for sessions. males are making the decision to contact dominants who require compensation for their time and effort, so stop being a shitstain, and pay the upfront price for the luxury you desire, and yes being dominated is a luxury, not a right.
3)males with entitlement issues are seriously a pain in the ass to deal with as a dominant. Someone somewhere, at some point in time led them to believe that they should not have to pay for their wants. Whether it stems from the thought that they are the cat's meow, or they originate from a financially entitled family lineage. This is not going to get you anywhere with a FinDomme. Regardless how pretty your mirror says you are, or how big the ruler claims your dick to be, none of it matters when it comes to dominants. You will pay the same exact price as the Quasimodo dude with the 2" pecker pays. You are not special.
4)misogynists exist in all walks of life. They are male predominantly, but even some females have a hate hard on for their own sex. This does not negate their desire to "get off", but they will try to do so at the emotional expense of women. They will attempt to humiliate, degrade, or outright bash women who will not meet their desires freely. They already believe women to be walking meat stick receptacles, so please do not expect any respect or human decency towards women to be displayed by them. They are a bane to progressive society. A reject throw back to the dark ages of behavior. You will not change their opinion of women being piles of shit, so please do not waste precious moments of your life doing so.
5)women with low self-esteem are perhaps the saddest perpetrators of all. I firmly believe that women should stand together, but when you have one subset standing upon the neck of another, you are going to get no where real quick. I get why some women suffer from feeling as if they are not pretty enough, thin enough, young enough, smart enough, but dammit there is therapy for that! Do you know why so many women have issues with their appearance? MEN, that is why. Males are in charge of the media of who tells women that they must be thin, they must fit the modal of attractiveness that men have erected to suit their erections. It is men who decide who is hot, who is sexy, who is viable as a woman. My question to you is, why are you allowing men to have this power in your life? Fuck that!! a)You do NOT need a man b)You are of value as a beautiful woman, regardless of what men say (see that beauty, be that beauty).
I personally am sick and tired of being beaten with the judgement stick. If you do not like FinDommes or Pro-Dommes, do NOT associate with them. Do not contact them. Do not tweet them, or pm them. They are not the ones "ruining" the scene, you are. Your anger is bitter, and it makes you ugly, which is why no one wants to play with you. Get on with your life, and decrease your stress levels by avoiding those that you do not agree with. It is not that difficult. It is all part and parcel of being a mature human being. So long as you stay in your own lane, you will not feel the need to cut in someone else's. Good luck, and blessings be upon you!
Welcome all to the world where Goddess Sydney shares her words of wisdom!
Something that I am most definitely not, is your comfortable old pair of slippers just waiting for you to have use for me once again.
I know that some of you are shaking your head saying "what the crap is she talking about?", so I am going to enlighten you in regards to the point of my post today.
There once was a male (not naming and faming him) who only came knocking at my inbox when he wanted to make use of me, and any other time he would ghost me like a sonofabitch til that time popped up again. Do you know why this pisses me off?
1)I do not appreciate males attempting to use me for their own personal gain..I know that you are laughing now, cause holy shit, isn't that what a FinDomme does to males, and the answer is more complicated than a simple yes or no.
Yes I use males for my own financial gain, but with that gain, I also expect them to follow my rules of domination, which means a)keeping in regular contact b)giving me priority in their lives c)completing all assigned tasks d)not being selfish or self-centered. Yup that is surely a butt load to expect isn't it?
What they gain from the experience is my level of control. They are free to relinquish control over that tight rope they walk in everyday life, and just give in to their desires of submission, which in turn promotes happiness for them.
Are you beginning yet to grasp why I am peeved?
Let's digress.
2)Now not only does this male fail to keep in contact, but he is miserly with tribute, when I know full well that he spends three times as much on his own comforts than my own. Hmm does that sound like selfish and self-centered behavior?
3)I have been so very kind in giving this male chance after chance to alter this undesirable behavior, yet it continues. I am not patience eternal, nor am I your Mother who will love and forgive you anything. I am a human being like any other (well I do consider myself pretty damn special :) which means, that even I am going to get fed up, and cut ties with those that lack basic appreciation of me. Sounds fair doesn't it? I think so.
***Bottom line: Regardless of what role you play in my life. If you do not, cannot, or simply will not care for or about me more than you do yourself, than I do not want you playing any role in my life period.***
Welcome one and all to the world of Goddess Sydney's words of wisdom
Today I am going to preface this post with the obligatory notation of "not all", since so many choose to argue when it is not stated.
Sex workers are some of the kindest, and most compassionate people that you will ever encounter. Did you already know that? I bet not.
Why would I make such a sweeping generalization in regards to sex workers? Well, of course it is based upon my own experiences, and notice of behaviors. In society you will see that sex workers are looked upon with scorn and ridicule. They are treated as lesser beings. It is assumed that they must be intellectually and morally inferior to the rest of human beings, which in my estimation is doing them a horrible disservice.
It is often presumed that sex workers are 1 or more of these things
1)sex addicts
2)besieged with Daddy issues
3)come from an abusive background
4)are trafficked
5)emotional or physical masochists
6)misandrists
7)drug addicted
8)diseased(physically or mentally)
9)unkempt
10)meat for the male market
11)sans human emotions
12)unlovable
13)of no worth
14)suffer from decreased or non-existent self esteem
15)less than human
16)immoral
I point you now to my previous prefaced statement.
The sex workers that I know, are far from being clinically diagnosed as sex addicts, most do not suffer any type of mental disorder, nor are they haters of men. They entered sex work to achieve their financial goals, not unlike those of you who opt for a non-sexual career. They are the ones calling for safe sex practices, unlike the general populace of males contacting them asking for bareback action. They generally possess a love of self, and value their services as being of worth, which is why they charge fees.
Sex workers are very human, and on a more basic level than most, for they see the good, the bad, the beautiful, and the ugly aspects of their clients day in, day out. They serve as substitute mother figures, therapists, confidantes, and lovers.
They are the first ones to step up and speak out about injustice. They support charities and fellow sex workers, sans having a personal stake, or expectation of receiving rewards for their actions. They are in fact a hell of alot better than the majority of males who contact them. They
are educated, and able to entertain conversation at above par levels.
They are savvy business women. They are success driven individuals with
strong work ethics. Don't believe me, well than take a moment to read the social media of most sex workers. I have seen many of them helping each other out,without gain. They do not require being shamed into acting like a decent compassionate human being, the polar opposite of the clients in the sex work scene. If anyone should feel guilt, it is the males who fail to stand up for these wonderfully creative, and resilient women.
Let's flip this script, and look to the average male who contacts a sex worker for services.
1)They treat women as if they are merely a pair of tits, a wet pussy, and an available ass. (Wow, hmm kinda sounds like they are the ones dehumanizing, and attempting to knock someone's self worth)
2)They ask, request, demand unsafe sexual practices (sounds like someone looking for an std)
3)They feel free to threaten violence when a sex worker denies them time or attention (misogynist much)
4)They believe it acceptable practice to send unsolicited dick pics (did you know that it is illegal to sexually harass someone)
5)They attempt to barter, and haggle over prices to the point of shaming sex workers for charging for their services
It is time to stop marginalizing sex workers. They are a group comprised of strong willed women, who play an integral part of humanity, so stop treating them as if they are intellectually, and morally challenged. Show them the same respect you would expect to be accorded, and if you truly are an ally to them, than speak out against those that are attempting to squash their voices!
Welcome to the sphere of Goddess Sydney! A place where you must earn your spot.
“Loyalty isn’t grey. It’s black and white. You’re either loyal
completely, or not loyal at all. And people have to understand this. You
can’t be loyal only when it serves you.” -Shamay
Loyalty when it serves only you is a guise of selfishness. Did you know that?
Loyalty is an essential building block in the foundation of a D's relationship. If loyalty is absent, than chaos will become destructive.
Most people living today have no grounded concept of loyalty, not even to those they claim as their own. Open up any news outlet online, and you will see family selling out family for a buck, or a minute of mentions. Utterly discouraging is it not? I believe so.
This is just one solitary reason why so many fail when it comes to achieving an enduring D's relationship.
Why is loyalty so very difficult to maintain in bdsm exchanges? I am going to share with you a few of my own thoughts as to the reason. Feel free to comment with your own thoughts, and opinions in regards to the subject.
1)Femdom is a literally smorgasbord of beautiful women. It is the candy shop which kicks all other candy shop's asses. There are just so many erotically stimulating women to offer your services to, so of course you may become overwhelmed, thereby eradicating your sense of reasoning when it comes to choosing just one to serve, cause why should you limit yourself when you can lick this one, take a bite of that one, even swallow of morsel of them all right? I get it, I really do. You guys are spoiled for selection. It is rather like winning the submissive lottery. Why should you be loyal to anyone other than yourself? That is the question, and it is up to you to make that choice. No one can force you to settle for a single slice, but please don't complain when you get sick from overindulgence. Eventually the best of you will deduct that variety is not always the spice of life.
2)Marital or romantic relationship status. Many of you that I see day in, day out, are already involved in a "vanilla" relationship, and this factor can lead you to draw a line of loyalty down the middle, in which you already have a primary interest, so what time you do devote online is a phantom piece of what an unattached male would offer up. Is that really fair, or even conducive to forming any type of cohesive D's relationship? I would say not.
3)You really are a selfish shit that cannot or will not see past the end of your dick. You have no concerns about forming any type of relationship beyond the one you enjoy wanking to. You will buzz like a bee to every single honeypot you can find. You are the slutiest of sluts, and worse than a huge zit on picture day.
4)You are purely immature. You have failed to grow into an adult mindset as of yet. You are young, and full of dumb cum, so you just have not developed the skills and maturity to recognize that loyalty has it's own rewards.
Loyalty is an intensely black or white quality in my estimation. You are either loyal or you aren't. There is no in between or kinda crap, and those that are not loyal are cut quick from my life. Life is short, and yes I know that most of you think that femdom is all fun fun fun, but if you cannot grasp the seriousness of some aspects, than I really want nothing to do with you.
Loyalty is an expectation of mine from the get go, and no it is not too much to ask for.
Now you tell me: Are you loyal? Do you expect loyalty from those in your life? Would you want anything to do with a person that you cannot count upon their loyalty to you?
